GirlontheLam Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I thought this could be a very fun thread. Question #1 for the men: have you ever complimented a (random) woman on her outfit (not someone you are dating, a stranger) Question #2: What were you really thinking? Ladies, questions for you: Question 1: Have you ever been complimented by a male (presumably straight) stranger on your outfit? Question 2: what did you assume about the comment? So this is only meant to be comments from relative strangers, i.e. non-boyfriends or close friends. Have fun and chime in.
CptObvious Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Question 1: Yes. Question 2: Please be easy! Please be easy! Please be easy! 1
MrCastle Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Me: That's a nice _______ you're wearing In my head: Considering it's preventing me from seeing what I want/It would look nice on my floor/I hope it doesn't tear when I rip it off. 1
kaylan Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 When I compliment an outfit, it could be because the outfit is pretty cool, or the girl looks attractive in general, or both. It depends. 1
MrCastle Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 When I compliment an outfit, it could be because the outfit is pretty cool, or the girl looks attractive in general, or both. It depends. Kaylan: Hey girl, that outfit is fierce! Rawrr! 2
hinatticus Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Question 1- yes Question 2- I was thinking she's out of my league.
todreaminblue Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I thought this could be a very fun thread. Question #1 for the men: have you ever complimented a (random) woman on her outfit (not someone you are dating, a stranger) Question #2: What were you really thinking? Ladies, questions for you: Question 1: Have you ever been complimented by a male (presumably straight) stranger on your outfit? Question 2: what did you assume about the comment? So this is only meant to be comments from relative strangers, i.e. non-boyfriends or close friends. Have fun and chime in. 1.yes and as an opening its not a real smooth one recently a guy said "i see you and looking good"..... 2.so i thought how would you know im looking good.....have you been following me...because i look like crap ....then i think.....liar i did not reply out loud (so not a fan of the looking good comments....from males who dont know me and i dont know them) here's another one...your dress looks good on you it would look better on the end of my bed....classic.....kickboxing move ensues...kidding but i imagine it as i am walking away.....deb
mesmerized Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Almost every single time I was complimented on an outfit, it was because how it emphasized my features well. Men don't usually like a skirt just because its fashionable but because it makes your ass looks great. Men also seem to love the colors red and pink! Oh and they dont need to tell me what they are thinking when they're complimenting me, I can see it in their eyes: damn, I wanna hit that thing lol 1
phineas Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 1. no 2. And I avoided being mace'd once again! 1
Andy_K Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I thought this could be a very fun thread. Question #1 for the men: have you ever complimented a (random) woman on her outfit (not someone you are dating, a stranger) Yes. Not often, but a few times. Question #2: What were you really thinking? "That [clothing] shows off your [ass/boobs/waist/alloftheabove] and I'd like to see you naked"
EasyHeart Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I thought this could be a very fun thread. Question #1 for the men: have you ever complimented a (random) woman on her outfit (not someone you are dating, a stranger) Question #2: What were you really thinking? Question #1: All the time. Question #2: "I like your outfit." Men generally don't speak in code. That's a chick-thing.
Author GirlontheLam Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 Question #1: All the time. Question #2: "I like your outfit." Men generally don't speak in code. That's a chick-thing. Based on the comments, you are in the minority.
iris219 Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 (edited) Almost every single time I was complimented on an outfit, it was because how it emphasized my features well. Men don't usually like a skirt just because its fashionable but because it makes your ass looks great. Men also seem to love the colors red and pink! Oh and they dont need to tell me what they are thinking when they're complimenting me, I can see it in their eyes: damn, I wanna hit that thing lol ^This. I was walking down the street the other day and a man stopped me and said, "I just wanted to thank you for wearing those boots. You've made my day." He wasn't referring to the style of the boots. The way he said it and the way he was looking at me was pervy. Edited October 30, 2012 by iris219
grkBoy Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Question #1 for the men: have you ever complimented a (random) woman on her outfit (not someone you are dating, a stranger) Yes Question #2: What were you really thinking? I thought she looked nice, and I mainly did it to brighten up her day and build my own confidence. Usually happens when I go on an elevator, we make eye contact, and I'll just say it. I don't push to go anywhere with it (before I was in MGTOW thinking, now I'm with the Ms Right), but I do it mainly to keep building my own confidence and to be gutsy...so I won't be afraid to talk to women.
verhrzn Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I'm a lady. Question 1: I've gotten compliments on "holiday" outfits from much older gentlemen. As in, I'm wearing my Christmas sweater to the theater and the 70-something years old usher tells me I look like a "doll." (I think he meant "doll" as in the slang, not "doll" as in the toy.) Come to think of it, the only time I've gotten compliments from male strangers has been from guys 60+. Question 2: Maybe I remind them of their granddaughter? Or maybe older gentlemen are just more forward with compliments? I think much older men still have that sense of chivalry, like holding open the door and complimenting the ladies.
Hawaii50 Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Yes of course, but they must be sincere and un-invasive (not perverted). I find they genuinely like it, you can tell by not a flagrant smile, but a deeper-slower one what kills me is when I do and they think it's something more than it is, or, just don't know how to take a compliment.. I have a view that if someone takes the time and go out on a limb to pay a compliment, the person should be open and kind enough to receive it, if sincere and not cheap/invasive.. and not act aloof or insulted. goes for anyone, anywhere, not just women. 1
Hawaii50 Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 (edited) Yes of course, but they must be sincere and un-invasive (not perverted). I find they genuinely like it, you can tell by not a flagrant smile, but a deeper-slower one what kills me is when I do and they think it's something more than it is, or, just don't know how to take a compliment.. I have a view that if someone takes the time and go out on a limb to pay a compliment, the person should be open and kind enough to receive it, if sincere and not cheap/invasive.. and not act aloof or insulted. goes for anyone, anywhere, not just women. Also.. i have a lot of candor, so i mean what I say.. nothing else. sometimes I can be relatively cheap ie "killing it in that skirt"-but I still very much mean it. Just a bit more rough of a compliment, little more aggressive. not meant for strangers. Edited October 30, 2012 by Hawaii50
Author GirlontheLam Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 I get occasional compliments. For reference, my style icons are Kate Middleton and Michelle Obama most of the time. Sometimes they'll be of the more obvious variety i.e. "you are killing it in that dress." Occasionally oddball ones like "nice dress" or "you look great in that color." And other time a bit more sincere like "you look really nice today (and every day) from a frequent flirter. Body language tells the full story. It can either feel lewd, intriguing, or friendly.
Charlie Harper Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I do compliment, but always with reference about something. e.g. "Wow your Kill Bill outfit looks great" (at a blonde in a canary yellow jumpsuit) "Those Boots are great, but they look fantastic because you are tall" at leggy woman with Bebe Boots. I have seen that brown and beige really look good on you! (to a friend that uses those tones a lot) ... What I am thinking? only saying whats on my mind, most of the time I say it non chalantly and they start the conversation afterwards.... marinate on silence...
ThaWholigan Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Almost every single time I was complimented on an outfit, it was because how it emphasized my features well. Men don't usually like a skirt just because its fashionable but because it makes your ass looks great. Men also seem to love the colors red and pink! Oh and they dont need to tell me what they are thinking when they're complimenting me, I can see it in their eyes: damn, I wanna hit that thing lol Yes, I like red a lot - especially scarlet. I also like black as well though.
Hawaii50 Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 (edited) I am well versed in the art of the backhanded compliment. My intentions? To erode her ego and confidence down to a thin veneer. That's odd, because I think I can speak for most forum members when I say you come off and weak, ineffectual, and pathetic- incapable of phasing ( on any level) a real woman. And I'm assuming the well-versed thing is a joke, cause that made me laugh, too. Edited October 30, 2012 by Hawaii50
dasein Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I will compliment women on nails and imagine how they would feel on my back at the same time, can't help it, but doesn't mean the compliment isn't sincere.
pteromom Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I was just complimented on my dress as I got lunch today. I assumed he liked my dress and I look awesome in it. LOL If someone gives a backhanded compliment or insult, I assume THEY have some sort of issue. It does nothing to my level of confidence.
yongyong Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I hope women don't take those kind of compliment seriously unless it's a genuine compliment (you are not at a bar. a guy just gave it without trying to talk to you.) I am honest when it comes to making a compliment. I can't fake it even at the bar. I see some guys making fake compliments even though he finds her Nasty just for one night bang. 'really? you thought she was beautiful in that ugly dress?' 'you think I am crazy? of course not' 'then why did you say that?' 'we are at a bar man, I am just trying to get laid'
xdahliax Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I've often been complimented on my outfit by male strangers, and sometimes on other weird things like how I styled my hair Recently a guy complimented me on the shade of lipstick I was wearing LOL it was interesting... I interpret compliments differently depending on what I'm wearing. If I'm wearing a tight dress and feeling sexy, they're presumably seeing how sexy I am I'm so modest. If I'm wearing something less revealing and I'm told it's a nice outfit, then I take that at face value.
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