tigressA Posted October 30, 2012 Share Posted October 30, 2012 I dont think there is anything wrong with a woman taking a man's number. Its not hard to put the ball back in his court to create the illusion that he is making the decision . Agreed. OP, just text him and go from there. I had a guy recently give me his number; I texted him, and from then on he's pretty much taken the lead. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted October 30, 2012 Share Posted October 30, 2012 (edited) For truly shy non-player type men with little dating experience it is quite acceptable for the woman to take the initiative. Otherwise, nothing happens. Shy men often need a big push. However, these guys may be the better BF to most women. Whats with shaming shy or less assertive guys all the time? Being shy doesnt mean someone will have little dating experience. So your assertion is wrong. Im as outgoing and assertive as they come, and I take no issue with a woman who takes initiative. I actually find it quite attractive as I am a guy who does the same thing.I think as men have more testosterone (you'd hope) and are generally more aggressive, it is naturally suited to them to be the pursuer intially at least. I'm a big believer in working for a relationship with equal effort both from men and women but in my experience it isn't good for a man to get too comfortable or complacent early on and not required to do the work. This is as true now than it was 20 years ago.Aggression is not always a good indicator of interest, as some men and women are shy. But hey, Ive met enough assertive women in my time to know gender generalizations of behavior are bunk. From what I have seen during my dating life is that assertiveness from a man in the beginning will quite reasonably indicate how good he is at conflict resolution for example. ie the more timid, shy he is, the less likely that he will provide the masculine balance in a relationship.It depends. Some guys are timid to a point, but know when to stand there ground. Some folks just arent confrontational. In regards to assertiveness...I could say the same about women. Women who have liked me in the past, have shown no qualms about suggesting we hang out, or outright giving me their number, or making first kiss moves. Only on the internet do I find so many women who sit back and wait for life to happen to them. Take what you want people. It's not so much the traditional gender roles, it's more the recognition that men still have the job of being at least as strong and as direct as the woman in the relationship. In my experience, they don't enjoy the lead role taken away from them and they certainly have the sort of immaturity about them that somehow lessens their enjoyment of something they got quite easily.And whenever women use this reasoning, I always have to tell them that they were dealing with men who never really liked them in the first place. Sometimes a guy will really like you and have no problem with you setting things in motion. I had a classmate back in summer 2011 chase me to start things off. She was the girl I had my eye on when summer classes started, and before I worked my way around to talking to her, she added me on facebook. And then she suggested we hang out. And then she kissed me later that day at her place before I got the chance to. I didnt mind it at all and I was into her as much as she was into me for that time. She just beat me to the punch and acted on her impulses. Nothing wrong with that at all. Basically, they don't have much respect for you if you chase them.So untrue. Guys like a girl who can make him feel like hes a prize as well. Edited October 30, 2012 by kaylan 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ami1uwant Posted October 30, 2012 Share Posted October 30, 2012 Never get a guy's number and never call him. If he likes you enough he will ask for yours and call. You are so out of touch with reality.... Many guys out of respect for women's privacy will freely give their number to her and not expect her to return with her number noses she willfully gives it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author taya Posted October 31, 2012 Author Share Posted October 31, 2012 (edited) You are so out of touch with reality.... Many guys out of respect for women's privacy will freely give their number to her and not expect her to return with her number noses she willfully gives it. i agree with you its crazy how some woman thinks they will never try anything new they just keep saying the same old old story its 2012 wake up everything as change .AND I DID TEXT HIM MY NUMBER AND HE CALLED ME RIGHT AFTER AND ASK ME OUT TO DINNER .And SAY HE WAS HOPEING I DIDENT FORGET ABOUT HIM ..AND HES BEEN THEXTING ME ALOT EVERSINCE Edited October 31, 2012 by taya Link to post Share on other sites
truth_seeker Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 no no lol i wont say were i work but its no places like that All I can say is if this guy drops the ball, give me your number and I'll take you out! Link to post Share on other sites
Author taya Posted October 31, 2012 Author Share Posted October 31, 2012 All I can say is if this guy drops the ball, give me your number and I'll take you out! hahaha thanks he havent drop it yet lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author taya Posted October 31, 2012 Author Share Posted October 31, 2012 I've waited as long as a week and as short as a day. It depends on how I feel really. Not about them. But if I think I'm in the mood to talk to a relative stranger. It takes a lot of effort to talk to someone you don't know. You need to walk on egg shells a bit and aren't completely comfortable. I'm at my best when I don't feel the need to worry so much about them and can sort of be _myself_. When I'm in one of these mood, I like to call. Try this site to meet strangers to call. lol. equalmatch(dot)net I've had some successes there. good luck yeah i text him the next day and he called right after and ask me out to dinner Link to post Share on other sites
rocketman122 Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 Good for you. we need more woman who have balls (or nice balloons ) and take initiative. I myself prefer to be the pursuer but I think its great that it works both ways. enjoy your date. Link to post Share on other sites
Author taya Posted October 31, 2012 Author Share Posted October 31, 2012 Good for you. we need more woman who have balls (or nice balloons ) and take initiative. I myself prefer to be the pursuer but I think its great that it works both ways. enjoy your date. aww thanks and its weard beacuse i never ask guy for his number they always ask me ..but ts always goob to try something new cant live your live doing the same old thing, time for new experiance Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 It's a turnoff for me when a man tells me to call him. Just my opinion. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author taya Posted October 31, 2012 Author Share Posted October 31, 2012 It's a turnoff for me when a man tells me to call him. Just my opinion.[/quote yeah thats what i was thinking too but he dident come and ask me to call him.... i ask him for his number so i took the first step Link to post Share on other sites
Author taya Posted November 1, 2012 Author Share Posted November 1, 2012 All I can say is if this guy drops the ball, give me your number and I'll take you out! and you live in chicago and i live in fl so how would that work hahahaha:p Link to post Share on other sites
truth_seeker Posted November 1, 2012 Share Posted November 1, 2012 and you live in chicago and i live in fl so how would that work hahahaha:p I have a place in Miami. We can hook up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author taya Posted November 1, 2012 Author Share Posted November 1, 2012 I have a place in Miami. We can hook up. lol haha wow you are crazy ..hook up ? i dont do hook ups Link to post Share on other sites
truth_seeker Posted November 1, 2012 Share Posted November 1, 2012 lol haha wow you are crazy ..hook up ? i dont do hook ups I didn't mean it as a "hook up" ... I meant it as we can meet up and chill. I'll buy you a drink at Mynt. lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Author taya Posted November 1, 2012 Author Share Posted November 1, 2012 I didn't mean it as a "hook up" ... I meant it as we can meet up and chill. I'll buy you a drink at Mynt. lol. so you have a condo in miami? i live in orland Link to post Share on other sites
irc333 Posted November 1, 2012 Share Posted November 1, 2012 I dont think there is anything wrong with a woman taking a man's number. Its not hard to put the ball back in his court to create the illusion that he is making the decision . Yeah, but if I did it, they'd never call me....it's best that I have THEIR number. :-) Link to post Share on other sites
musemaj11 Posted November 1, 2012 Share Posted November 1, 2012 Women initiating is like women being a president. Its unnatural. Shouldnt be allowed to happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted November 1, 2012 Share Posted November 1, 2012 Women initiating is like women being a president. Its unnatural. Shouldnt be allowed to happen. You definitely weren't missed around here. I say she should initiate. That is one less guy to complain that women never initiate. Link to post Share on other sites
truth_seeker Posted November 1, 2012 Share Posted November 1, 2012 so you have a condo in miami? i live in orland Yes. Orlando is okay. Been up there before. Miami is better. I plan on being down there over the Winter. Come visit me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author taya Posted November 1, 2012 Author Share Posted November 1, 2012 (edited) Women initiating is like women being a president. Its unnatural. Shouldnt be allowed to happen. well i sure did and it work hahahaha:p and come on its 2012 time as change put some spice in you life and try somthing new Edited November 1, 2012 by taya Link to post Share on other sites
Author taya Posted November 1, 2012 Author Share Posted November 1, 2012 You definitely weren't missed around here. I say she should initiate. That is one less guy to complain that women never initiate. hahaha your funny and i agree and we all know men lead when it comes to asking out,planing dates and all that stuff.. so when a woman does it i dont think it should be a crime i think its cute and sexy lol and it slould make a guy feel good about himself Link to post Share on other sites
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