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jigglesalot

Well, my girlfriend and i have been together for about five years now, we met at a very young age and began to date. She was the most amazing girl and has become an even more amazing woman. We have a great relationship, she's my best friend and i would do anything in the world for her. But, two years ago she went away across the country to go to college. We decided to stay together, and just work through the distance. We had been together for about three years before she did this, and she really didn't discuss the decision with me. I was hurt. The weekend after she left, i had a friend-girl over and things went a lot further than they should have. Since then my girlfriend had a little fling that didn't go as far as i did. And she eventually came clean and told me everything, but i still haven't worked up the nerves to tell her this. She knows everything there is to know about me execpt this. I don't know what to do. If i tell her i am so affraid she would leave me, more so i know that she would be destroyed if i told her. I don't know if she could handle it. I am her comfort zone and i will never do anything to hurt her again, but i cry my self to sleep some nights thinking about what i've done. Should i tell her, or should i keep it to myself.

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Well....she told you so you should have the decency to tell her, along with breaking up with her.

 

How often do you see her? This happened TWO years ago and you haven't yet come to terms with it, one way or the other? Wow....that's kinda crappy.

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I think you have to be totally honest now. It's only gonna get worse with time. You have to be honest with the one you love... no secrets.. no regrets.. nothing between you. Just tell her. If she loves you and believes you belong together, then your mistake (which i do not condone) can be talked about and forgiven (as long as you learned from it). Tell her about how it's killing you inside and hurting you to know you've done something that would hurt her. You love her and you'd never do it again.. that you really have learned and she means more to you than anything. Even about how you were scared to tell her because you didn't want to lose her and what you two have. Something along those lines at least.... but you must be honest!! Now.. not later. So... Good luck :)

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