madmadooh Posted October 30, 2012 Share Posted October 30, 2012 Hello all I dont particularly want to complain about my virginity but i just wanted to discuss about it (thanks for your time), since people do remind of things they already know only after we tell them again. I am normal physically, face, habits, socializing skills, i do have them all. I dont have a problem of freedom, money, complex or whatsoever. I can be romantic, comprehensive and or manly etc but well I am not talking about how to pick up girls or being friends with them, I know how to. I did have sexual approches with 4 girls, such as hugging lovely-like, kissing, groping under and over clothes, fingering, licking, got blow jobs etc, but say what? i never had actual sex (penetration). In all those cases I was not forceful or taking advantage when those girls were drunk or sad or anything. Thing is I guess I can really well maintain my behavior, I don't act like in those movies when the man just lose control and xxx. My strongest memory is also the first time I went this far with a girl. I was nude and the girl too in my room after preliminaries, she said she was ready, I searched for condoms which I couldn't find, I was like ''Let's do it, nvm'' , the girl said ''no, we could have a baby'' then I just said ''ok, we could do it next time''. But there was never another occasion. The occasions later with the differents girls just didn't lead me to sex, it could be because of the places, the time, or once again because of my steadiness if I can call it like this. I'm not hiding anything like I was trembling all over, only the girl was leading or my touchings seems too professional and make it looks like I'm a player. It was just casual, lovely, slow and or lightly pushy, just testing the waters first etc Now, now, I don't want to lose my virginity over a one night stand or with hookers or escort girls etc, I want the first time to be with someone I love and that she loves me too. A friend once tried to persuade me to gain experience with hookers so that you would be so great at sex that your wife would never leave you (maybe he was half joking). First problem is I would REALLY prefer a virgin too, not because i fear her experience that would lead me to shame or anything you could think of. It's just that I don't want to go where another penis has been. I do watch porns, many differents themes, but i categorically exclude animals, SM, violence, rapes, gays (and probably some others that I can't think of right now), and I don't want to see a penis hanging around when I'm loving my woman, nor do I want to know that where I will be touching has already been touched by a penis of another man before. You can consider that I prefer a new car over a second-hand. (I don't consider women as objects in any way) I used to even dislike hanging around girls who have or had boyfriend, just thinking about how his man hugs her disturbed me. That was the past, I'm through this and stuck at the level of sex now. I've finished writing for the moment, I'm going back to my positiveness and will diligently wait for a girl to catch my eyes, hoping that she is a virgin, like me .. Link to post Share on other sites
ben132333 Posted October 30, 2012 Share Posted October 30, 2012 Hey man, If I read it right, approaching and attracting women is not the problem for you. the only problem is finding a virgin? I'm going to assume you do, if not check out my website: http://www.gettinghernumber.com For finding girlfriend who's a virgin you could go to a country that's very religious, south american countries for example... Plus the women are hot there... Girls there are still told over and over they should stay virgins I found... I had sex with a girl from Venezuela who was a virgin until 23. (There are many advantges to haveing a girl with more experience though...) maybe you can try online dating and aim for those countries... Last tip: make really sure your desire for a virgin is not rooted in insecurity in some way... Judging women for their sexual desires isn't going to lead to anything good Hopes this helps, good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author madmadooh Posted October 31, 2012 Author Share Posted October 31, 2012 I guess the problem is I'm not even searching for a companion. I don't fear being in a relationship. ''Problem'' is I can bear not having a girlfriend. Yes, of course sometimes I talk with girls and after a few times I try to get closer, to evolve our relationship in a friendly or romantic way, but most of the time I don't want to spend that much time in this quest. As you know, spending time with, buying one or two gifts, being thoughtful is an effort, be it small or big, it takes time Actually I come from south america lol. My parents have a supermarket and I help them, so I'm acquainted with all customers and girls. I tend to flirt/joke with them, asking numbers etc but I just don't really feel the need to get a girlfriend. I'm just being a friend. It's like getting a girlfriend is not a priority for me, it's optional. But well, I'm not being cheeky when I say that I know human learn to like something after they can grasp it, and learn how not to like something when they don't have it. Example : I don't have an iphone 5 and I think it's a gadget, it costs too much and not really this great. Yea, it's powerful but I don't need it. --- Days later, I win a Iphone 5 in a lottery --- Hey actually Iphone 5 is kind of magnificent ! It's fast and can so so many things, I use it for my mails, games and blablabla. Thanks for the last tip but I don't think I feel insecurity. As I said previously, I would prefer a virgin. But since love blinds people, I would not mind if my girlfriend had past experiences. Link to post Share on other sites
ben132333 Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 Haha funny you ARE from South-America... I recognized the mentality somewhat... (I'm definitely planing on going there...) It's really a great mentality that you're happy alone... that's definetely not a problem. Needdiness is a big turnoff for women. And the supermarket is a great place to meet women! You got those two things going for yourself... But a warning bell went off in my mind when you said: "a few times I try to get closer, to evolve our relationship in a friendly or romantic way, but most of the time I don't want to spend that much time in this quest. As you know, spending time with, buying one or two gifts, being thoughtful is an effort, be it small or big, it takes time" You believe it takes time and a "quest" to get a woman into bed or start a relationship with her... which is NOT true... It can even BACKFIRE if you believe this (put you in the "friend zone")... Nor spending time, buying gifts and being "thoughtful" are going to get you anywhere!! You don't like doing them... and women don't feel attracted to you for it either!! (even though they SAY they want that). You seem to have the very common "Nice guy syndrome"... You need to learn how ATTRACTION works for women, it's very different than what you're thinking right now... Because if a woman's attracted to you, you can do whatever you want (be the biggest jerk in the world or whatever) and she will keep feeling that attraction for you... If she DOESN'T FEEL attraction for you... NOTHING you do is going to change that... No matter how many gifts you by her, no matter how long you pursue her, no matter how thoughtful you are, ... I would start out by checking out this article on attraction Hope this helps... Link to post Share on other sites
ben132333 Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 Little WARNING: once you understand how to create attraction, you learn you don't need gift and so on to get women... It's important (in my opinion) to not become lazy because of that... Lots of men who understand how atraction are jerks... because women will want to be with them ANYWAY... no matter what they do... I would suggest you get this handled and learn how to spark attraction with women... And then keep treating them nice and so on (being thoughtful and so on...)... Link to post Share on other sites
Author madmadooh Posted October 31, 2012 Author Share Posted October 31, 2012 interesting how you revealed me being happy alone is a good thing. the warning bell you told be about is not as important as you think. I don't find it bothering to seduce, being thoughtful to someone etc, as I am that natural. When I think of some little attentions woman like, I do it happily, it's nice and funny to watch the delighted face of people. I read your attraction links, but I don't want to learn how to seduce them, at least not now. It's like a kid of 6years old don't want to learn how to earn big money to buy sweets, he just wants enough to buy what he wants. I don't think I'm immature or anything, as I can't say those who are 20years old dads are mature. I guess it's just a matter of choice of how I live, and I choose having girl acquaintances, having some episodes of romances and -not the common '' I don't think about marriage'' but ''I don't think about actual sex''(I think about sexual things) Link to post Share on other sites
ben132333 Posted November 2, 2012 Share Posted November 2, 2012 Only you know what makes you happy man and what you want in life... (My 'waring' was not about the fact that you don't like the pursuit... the warning was that it seems you have a wrong mindset about what women really want...) Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author madmadooh Posted November 4, 2012 Author Share Posted November 4, 2012 Thank you for the talk =) Link to post Share on other sites
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