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Hello, I am new to this and you wil have to forgive .ny typos because i am using.my phoxne.

 

I am very young to be married. I am only 24. My H is 23. Within this time we have been together for 5 years married foe 2 and have 2 children (1 & 3) and i am 6 months pregnant. I come to this particular forum in seeking help. See, on sept 6 my attitude finally made my husband snap and he left. At rhe time i dat i did but now i do. For years i took advantage of his kindness. Hes such a loyal loving and affectionate person and i became hostile and seemingly unintrested. He has never cheated on me nor i him so that is one thing that automatically needs to be eliminated from thought. I did have trust issues but i dont know why when he never gave me a reason to have them. Anyway, i take responsibimity for the most part on why he left. Being pregnant for the majority of our relationship affected my sex drive and that killed some of it. I take blame for not being a gpod housewife while he allowed me to be a SAHM. He has left l before but came back the next day or a few hours later and he usually goes to his parents house. Which is where he is now staying. But now i am confused.

We spent the last 7 weeks bickering to the point he called to price a consoltation with a divorce lawyer which he said he could not afford and if he really wanted a divorce hed put a lean on his truck and do so but he hasnt. He was the one who asked me to find a marriage counselor (which i have and weve been going ffor a month now) but until last week my attitude hasnt changed and thats what he wants.

Hes not your typical 23 year old. Hes only had 2 parters before me, regretting them horribly due to circumstances and is not interested in goong to bars or clubs. (He even work for a beer distribution delivering to them) but does like to drink quit a bit (not every day or to the point where hes drunk). He has no friends his age. Men he considers his friends are old enough to be our dad. I always said he was an ild man trappes in a young mans body.

Anyway back to the problem. This last week we have been civil and actually dodged a bullet when we could have slept together but didnt. I ask him if he thinks we can make our marriage work and he keeps saying he doesnt know and hes confused. He wont tell me ge loves me when i do but does agree that he does when i ask him. We havent had a fight in a week and i am trying to change and he says he wants to see if i will. Hes tired of me "bitching and complaining" all the time. He is a good man but i am afraid i hurt him too much. Given the vague statement do you think he will return?

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