midlife crisis Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 im married with 3 kids. recently i organised a school reunion and ended up getting back in touch with a guy from school, he told me he was single and had always had a thing for me and thought i was sexy we have exchanged lots of messages mainly about sex.... at the reunion he made an obvious play for me and we ended up kissing an him begging me to go home with him which i didnt.. we have continued to message lots when i called his bluff and said ok ill come round he back tracked and said your married ill get shoot, but i really want to meet with you coz were friends!!!!! this guy knows ive always had a thing for him and know how much i fancy him... is he playing me!!! Hes continued to send me suggestive messages even after he said we cant do anything....i just dont get it!!!!!!! he says he doesnt think hes done anything to lead me on (naked pics and dirty messages!!!!!) what do you think, this is driving me mad coz i really like him Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 im married with 3 kids. recently i organised a school reunion and ended up getting back in touch with a guy from school, he told me he was single and had always had a thing for me and thought i was sexy we have exchanged lots of messages mainly about sex.... at the reunion he made an obvious play for me and we ended up kissing an him begging me to go home with him which i didnt.. we have continued to message lots when i called his bluff and said ok ill come round he back tracked and said your married ill get shoot, but i really want to meet with you coz were friends!!!!! this guy knows ive always had a thing for him and know how much i fancy him... is he playing me!!! Hes continued to send me suggestive messages even after he said we cant do anything....i just dont get it!!!!!!! he says he doesnt think hes done anything to lead me on (naked pics and dirty messages!!!!!) what do you think, this is driving me mad coz i really like him He wants to have sex with you. He is a guy and that is what he wants. Yes, he digs you. That is why he wants to do you. He also enjoys the chase, it is a lot of fun for him. He knows you are receptive and therefore he enjoys playing the game. He has a bit of reservation about the fact that you are married with kids. He probably knows he could end up destroying your marriage as well as causing huge damage to your husband and children. Everybody goes thru a midlife crisis and everybody has a thing for a former HS classmate. Some act on it and others have common sense and ignore the feelings. If you want to destroy your marriage and put a dagger in the heart of your husband and children go ahead and have an affair. Just make sure you don't bring STDs into your marriage. If you are truly unhappy in your marriage then get a divorce before sleeping with this man. Otherwise, you are free to destroy your life and the life or your children and husband. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
underwater2010 Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 im married with 3 kids. recently i organised a school reunion and ended up getting back in touch with a guy from school, he told me he was single and had always had a thing for me and thought i was sexy we have exchanged lots of messages mainly about sex.... at the reunion he made an obvious play for me and we ended up kissing an him begging me to go home with him which i didnt.. we have continued to message lots when i called his bluff and said ok ill come round he back tracked and said your married ill get shoot, but i really want to meet with you coz were friends!!!!! this guy knows ive always had a thing for him and know how much i fancy him... is he playing me!!! Hes continued to send me suggestive messages even after he said we cant do anything....i just dont get it!!!!!!! he says he doesnt think hes done anything to lead me on (naked pics and dirty messages!!!!!) what do you think, this is driving me mad coz i really like him I think the better is question is "What the hell kind of game are you playing?". Sex chats and message, kissing and then nothing. It does not matter if he likes you are not....YOU ARE MARRIED!!!! Stop the crap and work on your marriage or get a divorce. Link to post Share on other sites
Balzac Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 That pretty much spelled it out. Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 OP loves the idea of being sexually desired by another man. This validates her quite well. Her Husband cannot desired her in that manner. Link to post Share on other sites
Author midlife crisis Posted October 31, 2012 Author Share Posted October 31, 2012 Ur right, i want my husband to make me believe im attractive. i know im being a fool with this guy but he's got in my head.......he never used to give me a seconds look.....im an idiot 1 Link to post Share on other sites
yessy21 Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 he just wants you now because ur an easy target for freeeeeeeee play. if he ever liked you he would have done something a long time ago. Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 Ur right, i want my husband to make me believe im attractive. i know im being a fool with this guy but he's got in my head.......he never used to give me a seconds look.....im an idiot You are playing with fire just because you are desperate for someone to show you attention and admiration. Just knowing he wants you makes you horny. I get that, you are human! However, this may cause the destruction of your marriage and it may be very painful to your H and children. It is up to you. Walk away or keep this up. Pretty soon you will rationalize the whole thing and claim you have a very bad husband. Pretty soon you will justify sleeping with this guy because you have been very unhappy for years in your marriage. Slowly, but surely you will emphasize the bad parts of your marriage and conveniently forget the good times so you can give yourself permission to f**** this guy. Then you will say: "I never planned to have an affair, it just happened". Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 Let's see...sex. Sex. Oh, did I mention sex? Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 Get divorced! Then consider dating him. Your husband deserves better than what you are offering to the marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
Author midlife crisis Posted October 31, 2012 Author Share Posted October 31, 2012 Ur all right, my husband does deserve better n i need to get a reality check n reality he just wants sex!!!!!! i should know better n my family deserve better....i need to work at my marriage n put the effort in...thanx for making me wise up Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 Ur all right, my husband does deserve better n i need to get a reality check n reality he just wants sex!!!!!! i should know better n my family deserve better....i need to work at my marriage n put the effort in...thanx for making me wise up The pleasure and bliss of the orgasm is short lived and it is not worth the years of pain inflicted to your family. Most cheaters think they will never get caught, but most actually get caught. So don't think you will be different. Do you respect your H? Has your H been unfaithful to you? Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 Pierre - I think it's obvious she hasn't been respecting her husband, she's shown evidence of that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author midlife crisis Posted October 31, 2012 Author Share Posted October 31, 2012 My husband has never been unfaithful. Maybe i do not respect him enough though although i have no reason to disrrespect him...i know why he has turned my head because i have very low self esteem which is my issue completely i need to sort myself out!!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 Get counseling to find out why YOU would even consider this! Link to post Share on other sites
UpwardForward Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 Ur all right, my husband does deserve better n i need to get a reality check n reality he just wants sex!!!!!! i should know better n my family deserve better....i need to work at my marriage n put the effort in...thanx for making me wise up Imo sex begins between the ears .. and with fantasizing .. Discontinue the thoughts. You can beat this. Link to post Share on other sites
Survivor12 Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 Ur all right, my husband does deserve better n i need to get a reality check n reality he just wants sex!!!!!! i should know better n my family deserve better....i need to work at my marriage n put the effort in...thanx for making me wise up When was the last time you did anything to make YOURSELF feel sexy, attractive, desirable, or interesting? You may just find that by putting some effort into improving yourself--working out or doing yoga to give yourself a better body image, finding and delving into new interests to give yourself something to be excited about, doing for others to help you feel a greater sense of worth and value, or buying yourself some new lingerie or changing your hairstyle or color to make yourself feel sexy--can greatly improve your self esteem. And, in addition to making you feel better about yourself, you may just increase your husband's interest as well! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 My husband has never been unfaithful. Maybe i do not respect him enough though although i have no reason to disrrespect him...i know why he has turned my head because i have very low self esteem which is my issue completely i need to sort myself out!!!! You did not have to say you have low self esteem. It is quite obvious from your posts. Some men have a knack for finding women with low self esteem. These women are easy to bed as long as the man tells them what they want to hear. Folks with low self esteem need the attention and validation from others to feel good. That is why you are so horny for this guy. He makes you feel desired and attractive. Your need is so high that you have betrayed your H by engaging into an emotional lurid affair with some necking and kissing. Your needs are so strong that you will soon lose your head and have sex with this guy. You may try to stop this emotional connection, but you will soon resume. In fact, maybe you already tried to stop and could not do it. The addiction is too strong and you really need the validation. If you treated your H nicely he could actually offer you some attention and admiration, but right now you are like a drug addict. Your H looks at you and wonders why you seem to be in permanent bliss. You are as high as a kite. And your lack of respect for your H is very cruel. Would you like to be treated that way? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RickFox Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 Whew! Pierre is a hard act to follow, but he's dead on. Bottom line is, you're being played like a fiddle and he's fine tuning you for opening night. The words "I love my husband, but I'm not in love with him" seem to come to mind. How long before you say that to this fantasy man to justify the soon to come betrayal? Link to post Share on other sites
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