aMguilts Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 I better to tell them or ignore? Im trying to ignore it all Tell who what?? aM
Author mid-divorce Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 When i get rants from her n her mum - do i txt back telling it str or ignore
aMguilts Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 When i get rants from her n her mum - do i txt back telling it str or ignore you ignore Put it this way. Do you get anywhere by replying? aM
aMguilts Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Why her mum has to get involved i really don`t know. But as her mum IS getting involved, you Really need to look outside the boundaries. Like father, like son... that swings both ways. How is the relationship between your mother and father in law? aM
Author mid-divorce Posted November 21, 2012 Author Posted November 21, 2012 Funny you say that, coz in the 13 years we have been together, ive never seen her mum n dad hug, touch, kiss, say love you once not only to each other but to their children
aMguilts Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Funny you say that, coz in the 13 years we have been together, ive never seen her mum n dad hug, touch, kiss, say love you once not only to each other but to their children hey mid. well there`s part of the problem that you are having with your wife. She`s been bought up in a loveless environment and doesn`t know how to express her self without getting angry. possibly part of the reason she is all over the place? Who knows? What are you doing to help yourself move on? Keep your chin up buddy aM 1
Author mid-divorce Posted November 21, 2012 Author Posted November 21, 2012 taking my kids out tonight n not thinking about her 1
aMguilts Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 taking my kids out tonight n not thinking about her good:) have a nice time. Be the role model that they expect of you. Turn your phone off while you are with them. Have fun aM
Author mid-divorce Posted November 21, 2012 Author Posted November 21, 2012 we back now - kids loved it 1
aMguilts Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 we back now - kids loved it Hey mid. Thats really good mid. aM
Author mid-divorce Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 Haven't contacted her since dropping the kids off this morn. Its killing me tho
Author mid-divorce Posted November 23, 2012 Author Posted November 23, 2012 Still had no contact n it hard She has invited my sister for tea tho, which as she partly blames her for all this i find very strange
whichwayisup Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 Still had no contact n it hard She has invited my sister for tea tho, which as she partly blames her for all this i find very strange Tell your sister not go and get involved. Your wife is bi polar, or has some other mental illness. Its the only way to explain her up and down behaviour and outbursts.
aMguilts Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 Tell your sister not go and get involved. Your wife is bi polar, or has some other mental illness. Its the only way to explain her up and down behaviour and outbursts. or borderline at the lease. Mid does she drink much that you know off? aM
Author mid-divorce Posted November 23, 2012 Author Posted November 23, 2012 She has started drinking alot when she goes out. I know the bloke that she s 'good friends' with keeps posting on his facebook about coke and he posts at silly times in the night
aMguilts Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 She has started drinking alot when she goes out. I know the bloke that she s 'good friends' with keeps posting on his facebook about coke and he posts at silly times in the night Mid i`d suggest to you , get off facebook. It will do you more harm than good. If not just block all that are friends with her. You don`t want to see what she`s up too. aM
Author mid-divorce Posted November 23, 2012 Author Posted November 23, 2012 Ok, so sister went for tea. ex spent the night trying make her feel sorry for her.. saying how she has go home to an empty house n all her m8s have husbands etc.. yet shes out on the piss again tomoz after another bloke
Author mid-divorce Posted November 23, 2012 Author Posted November 23, 2012 this feels wierd but good - i actually think i dont want her. hope i wake feeling the same
aMguilts Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 Ok, so sister went for tea. ex spent the night trying make her feel sorry for her.. saying how she has go home to an empty house n all her m8s have husbands etc.. yet shes out on the piss again tomoz after another bloke Mid hi You done really well in not contacting her.!! So your sister must have told you what she`s up too? This is not having no contact. I`ll tell you about what i`m doing. I`ve told everyone thats close to me not to even mention my wife`s name. I`ve told my daughter( step to my wife) not to talk to her and to take her off of facebook ( until the divorce). My sisters are ok with this , they never really liked her anyway, but thats taboo. Far as i`m concerned, no contact means just that. Trust me, everytime i hear even just a little bit of what she`s doing, it sets me back weeks. But then again , i`m not you. Take it from me , the very best you can do from now on( and i know everyone on here will agree with me on this) is to start looking after yourself, forget about her, look after you. No contact doesn`t mean you find it from a third eye view. So, she`s going out and having `fun` with another guy? Turn the table around. Why don`t you go out and have fun? By that i mean just go out and have fun. Don`t look for any romantic liasion at all. Just have fun. If i seem harsh tonight, i`m sorry i don`t mean to be. i`m still in my fog aM
aMguilts Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 this feels wierd but good - i actually think i dont want her. hope i wake feeling the same mid? me too Take care of yourself aM
Author mid-divorce Posted November 23, 2012 Author Posted November 23, 2012 think she over step the line n i finally realised 1
aMguilts Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 think she over step the line n i finally realised mid. sleep on it and then reply tomorrow ok? say cheeeeeeese aM
Author mid-divorce Posted November 24, 2012 Author Posted November 24, 2012 i no choice but leave her alone now n let the divorce go through 1
aMguilts Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 i no choice but leave her alone now n let the divorce go through Hi mid. Thats really an excellant and positive post Keep your chin up and keep posting. It will help you to vent and you can look back and see the positive on here. Hope you are doing ok. aM
Author mid-divorce Posted November 24, 2012 Author Posted November 24, 2012 Im still down about it all, but will go with the no contact
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