Author River Rain Posted November 3, 2012 Author Share Posted November 3, 2012 Not looking good. If I go by the clock, he officially has just over 2 hours to call me to work things out. My heart wants to extend the deadline, but my head is saying "Wake up! This isn't what you want! He hasn't talked to you since Tuesday morning!". I'm listening to my head. There's always that fantasy that he'll come to my door and beg me to be with him forever, but it's just wishful thinking after all. Link to post Share on other sites
bluegreen Posted November 3, 2012 Share Posted November 3, 2012 As long as there is love and even worse hope in heart those kind of things never change its rather sad to be in love with someone who does not deserve it she is well aware of it but its not ready to "close" door on him. No amount of reasoning good advice's or pushing works until the person itself decides to change leave move on he can and will go on playing her for next decade if she lets him ... Link to post Share on other sites
Author River Rain Posted November 3, 2012 Author Share Posted November 3, 2012 You can always meet him first before making a decision, but things would have to change after that meet-up. If things do change for the better, one of you will have to make the step to cross that distance to live together. If things do not change after meeting up, then you will have a better idea of where you stand. Thank you...unfortunately meeting won't make up for it. I can't get into the reasons, but his silence has battered my heart before, and he just did it again, knowing the impact. I think we weren't meant to be, it's hard to accept, but I'll be fine. I'm strong and I know what I want. Still feeling kind of sad though. Link to post Share on other sites
Author River Rain Posted November 3, 2012 Author Share Posted November 3, 2012 As long as there is love and even worse hope in heart those kind of things never change its rather sad to be in love with someone who does not deserve it she is well aware of it but its not ready to "close" door on him. No amount of reasoning good advice's or pushing works until the person itself decides to change leave move on he can and will go on playing her for next decade if she lets him ... Yours is very sound advice, thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
bluegreen Posted November 3, 2012 Share Posted November 3, 2012 You welcome doll and am really sorry Believe it or not I WAS YOU it happens to all of us at least once God I turned myself on my head trying to get him to have him love me fell in love like a child and he was such an braying ass its hard to believe to. It took me long while to come to a point of letting go and just not caring does he shag someone else or can't wait for my call and now to say am not in love with him but it happened. You live in gorgeous country I heard people are nice and friendly where is he from I wonder might that have something to do with it ? Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted November 3, 2012 Share Posted November 3, 2012 Not looking good. If I go by the clock, he officially has just over 2 hours to call me to work things out. My heart wants to extend the deadline, but my head is saying "Wake up! This isn't what you want! He hasn't talked to you since Tuesday morning!". I'm listening to my head. There's always that fantasy that he'll come to my door and beg me to be with him forever, but it's just wishful thinking after all. Clearly, he has issues with honesty and self-awareness. He'll continue to take those issues into whatever RL he attempts, and until he rectifies the problems, hurt feelings and broken hearts will lie in his wake. Sorry it's been so difficult but congratulations on finding the strength and self-love to end it. Happy days ahead, RR. Link to post Share on other sites
bluegreen Posted November 3, 2012 Share Posted November 3, 2012 Yap he is immature self centered selfish jack ass and those are usually cute of not great looking charming and well versed liars. What might knock him on his ass its love real love one where HE falls in love and experience taste of his own medicine or he will stay what and who he is is trough out the life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author River Rain Posted November 3, 2012 Author Share Posted November 3, 2012 You welcome doll and am really sorry Believe it or not I WAS YOU it happens to all of us at least once God I turned myself on my head trying to get him to have him love me fell in love like a child and he was such an braying ass its hard to believe to. It took me long while to come to a point of letting go and just not caring does he shag someone else or can't wait for my call and now to say am not in love with him but it happened. You live in gorgeous country I heard people are nice and friendly where is he from I wonder might that have something to do with it ? He's from Canada too so it's not cultural, I think he's just emotionally immature, and though I tried to reassure him on a daily basis, he still felt the best way to deal with "difficult" conversations was to hide away like a child, and hope things will go away. It's a shame because we truly had such compatibility with regards to interests, lifestyle, sex and hobbies. I let go over a month ago...got pulled back in, but I won't make that mistake again. Thanks for your support! xx Link to post Share on other sites
Author River Rain Posted November 3, 2012 Author Share Posted November 3, 2012 Clearly, he has issues with honesty and self-awareness. He'll continue to take those issues into whatever RL he attempts, and until he rectifies the problems, hurt feelings and broken hearts will lie in his wake. Sorry it's been so difficult but congratulations on finding the strength and self-love to end it. Happy days ahead, RR. Happy days ahead indeed Cerridwen. I'm just happy that I tried you know? I gave it a second chance because I'm an optimist. Yeah, I got crushed a second time, but I would have regretted not trying. I'm going to move on and just be happy like I've always been. And you're right, he will take those issues and his baggage along with him wherever he goes, which is sad because he'll hurt more people along the way, and himself in the process. Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted November 3, 2012 Share Posted November 3, 2012 Just remember...it is him and not YOU. his lack of communication is about his problems and not about who you are. Hang in there...someone will make you smile. Link to post Share on other sites
Author River Rain Posted November 3, 2012 Author Share Posted November 3, 2012 Just remember...it is him and not YOU. his lack of communication is about his problems and not about who you are. Hang in there...someone will make you smile. Thank you James. I know I'll smile again 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted November 4, 2012 Share Posted November 4, 2012 Thank you James. I know I'll smile again Looks like I did! Hope you are feeling better this evening! Link to post Share on other sites
Author River Rain Posted November 4, 2012 Author Share Posted November 4, 2012 Looks like I did! Hope you are feeling better this evening! Yeah, you're sneaky ways got me smiling again I'm very much better...had a good day of pity partying, lots of posting here to distract myself, some pug-hugs, and some really nice chocolate. I will love again...(dramatic music follows).... Link to post Share on other sites
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