Artie Lang Posted November 9, 2012 Share Posted November 9, 2012 ^the thing is, it will NEVER be the same. some say a "new" marriage comes with reconciliation. personally, i think this is bogus. a new marriage comes when you find someone else..... someone "new": that's a new marriage! Link to post Share on other sites
Tara247 Posted November 9, 2012 Share Posted November 9, 2012 ^the thing is, it will NEVER be the same. some say a "new" marriage comes with reconciliation. personally, i think this is bogus. a new marriage comes when you find someone else..... someone "new": that's a new marriage! I agree. It's not going to be a "new" marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
HisGraceisSufficient Posted November 9, 2012 Share Posted November 9, 2012 2 Corinthians 5:17 New International Version (NIV) 17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come:[a] The old has gone, the new is here! My opinion (subject to disagreement) :Its not about a new marriage but about a new attitude, way of thinking, doing things. WE are new. God changes us from the inside out and because of this, we can love. And, we can succeed even after broken promises and failed attempts at life. Link to post Share on other sites
Artie Lang Posted November 9, 2012 Share Posted November 9, 2012 ^kinda like a "born-again" virgin. Link to post Share on other sites
2long Posted November 9, 2012 Share Posted November 9, 2012 2 Corinthians 5:17 New International Version (NIV) 17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come:[a] The old has gone, the new is here! My opinion (subject to disagreement) :Its not about a new marriage but about a new attitude, way of thinking, doing things. WE are new. God changes us from the inside out and because of this, we can love. And, we can succeed even after broken promises and failed attempts at life. I'd like 2 hear what you think in 30 or 40 years. My W and I used 2 be pretty religious, but not for the past 30 years or so. I tend 2 agree with Artie that a new marriage would be a different one with someone else. Just a simple definition-based distinction. And in retrospect, though we felt and behaved very differently when we were religious than we do now that we're not, that change didn't produce "new" versions of ourselves, it just amounted 2 a change in perspective. -ol' 2long Link to post Share on other sites
Cloaky Posted November 9, 2012 Share Posted November 9, 2012 You have a good woman if she is honest about what she did. Mine would never come clean unless caught in the act. I'd be very grateful to have her as a wife. Link to post Share on other sites
MrVegas Posted November 11, 2012 Share Posted November 11, 2012 Wow FJ, i get lumps in my throat thinking about the kinda hurt you are in. It is a lousy place to be and unfortunately, it's often the nicest most trusting people put there. It's time for a polygraph if there is any hope of salvation for this marriage. If you are sure you are done, then no details matter, get tested and get lawyered up. Try to give the OM's wife the story, but truth is he probably has a defence for it already. If it was me I would already have some crazy story about the horny consultant and her whack-job hubby. But if you think you may want to work through it, then the truth must come out and in full, and most likely connected to a polygraph, as unfortunate as the situation is. You deserve better. If she has any hope of keeping a future with you, she has to understand that time has run out. It is obvious more than fingering happened. Plausible you interrupted the one time, but if buddy has game to get a good wife naked, he's got game enough to seal the deal. Remember, every time she repeats a blatant lie, she is disrespecting you, your/her vows, and your god. Plus, get the real reason why she came clean, and why back on the pill. I would bet on preggo scare for the second part, which would slightly invalidate the "we totally laid there naked and he wanted nothing more than to please me with a finger" crap she's been doling out. Whichever path you choose to take, lean on god for support, faith is important, and I, along with all the other fellow posters here, wish you well Link to post Share on other sites
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