joel Posted August 3, 2004 Share Posted August 3, 2004 growing up reading these books on developing social skills and rememebing one time in HS the counselor said i lacked social skills. reasons could be my folks isolating myself and my siblings from other kids our age-we were to come straight home and study -no play. we were mostly kept indoors-watching tv, studying, doing something inside the house. growing up myself and my siblings were mostly loners-had few freinds. i was also a quite guy never talk to ppl unless they talk to me, now i am changing. parents were really cautious ppl and felt that everybody especially ppl of non chinese were going against em or fighting em. my family and myself became really quite, introvert kinda ppl. today i still have no or before had just one freind. dad even said freinds have no loyalty-they never help u they just use u....what use are freinds for. freinds now and later on differ school u have a differ freind they come and go family is family. well according to men health ppl who have a least one to 2 freinds close buds that is live longer than the loners. that is why i need freinds and also for common interest activites, yeah i talk to ppl but they always end up being aquatances but nothing more. also that is why i lack gf how can i have a gf if i don;t even have a freind. ppl say i ask too many ?? but how else u suppose to get to now someone without asking ??? i need freinds badd don;t wanna be a loner my whole life Link to post Share on other sites
pitprincess Posted August 3, 2004 Share Posted August 3, 2004 Your parents lived their lives and now its time for you to live yours Friends arn't all out to get you in everything... The biggest part of growing up is learning things on your own like walking talking and making friends of your own. You have a heart and a soul and a mind of your own. I think you can use it wisley and yes some friends do hurt your feelings and emotions but we all have to live with that and learn it on our own. Step up in your life and take the chance on your own, Things that happend to your parents may not happen to you. Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
Matilda Posted August 3, 2004 Share Posted August 3, 2004 I think you should take a look at some of the books written to help folks with shyness and introversion problems. You say that people say you ask too many questions. Are your questions intrusive? Meaning are you asking things people you have just met don't feel comfortable answering? If this is the case, it sounds like you may have some more basic social skills problems, and maybe a therapist could help you with this. Or you may want to look at books aimed at helping young adults with Asperger's syndrome or ADD who have basic social skills problems. (I'm not saying I think you have either of these problems, I just know there are a lot of social skills books for people with these problems.) Link to post Share on other sites
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