StellaA Posted November 6, 2012 Share Posted November 6, 2012 I posted on here yesterday about it being my 6 year anniversary (split for about 5 months). I wasn't sure how to feel.....have had NC for 5 months then suprise, I walk out of work to find him waiting there. We gave each other a hug and chatted for a couple of hours. It was all relaxed and like the old times. I got home and he text me saying thanks. I don't know what will happen from here. I did not sleep all night......I felt so comfortable with him and all my old feelings were there but I'm so scared of falling for him again and being hurt. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PYTpisces Posted November 6, 2012 Share Posted November 6, 2012 What a nice surprise! Always trust your first instinct, which is to not get hurt again. Protect your heart at all times with logic and facts, and not feelings. Feelings usually get us into trouble when everything isnt accounted for.. Your gut and intuition will always be your best friend. If you are faced with an opportunity to take a risk with this man again, always gauge the level of pain and heartbreak that could come of it. What is worth the risk, what isnt. Obviously, this is only one encounter so who's to say what will happen next, so for the time being, keep your best interest at heart and good luck! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
InThePinc Posted November 6, 2012 Share Posted November 6, 2012 I am a romantic and your post just made me go "awwww that's so romantic!". Just take things one day at a time. Try not to overthink it. If you are interested in trying again then persue it. There is a risk you may get hurt again but then there's always that risk with whoever you are with. If it were me and I still had feelings for him then I would go for it. Do you know if he's interested in starting over? Link to post Share on other sites
Author StellaA Posted November 7, 2012 Author Share Posted November 7, 2012 Thanks for the replys guys..... PYTpisces your very right, you do have to protect your feelings and when you have been burnt so badly it is very hard to let them/anyone in again as you feel you have to protect yourself...but I guess you can't do this forever as you will end up a very lonely person. Maybe my wounds have not healed enough yet??? InThePink...I'm trying to take one day at at time. I kinda had a feeling I would hear from him...but I thought it would be an email or something just saying hi. I do have feelings for him, I always did. The reason I finished with him was becuase he had problems and was doing nothing to address them, I could only do so much. It was a bit of tough love, he was used to me being around and not having to do anything for himself. Yes, he does want there to be an 'us' again, he left the conversation as 'you know how I feel'. I said to him that he knows there is no one else but I don't trust him and he has a lot to do before I can even consider an 'us' again. Link to post Share on other sites
not-a-drive-by Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 I just couldn't resist, but had to post. That is such a sweet thing to do from his side. That would have definitely melted my heart. It made me smile. Our 3 year anniversary is next week, and I do have stupid thoughts of wanting that to happen to me - him turning up somewhere randomly, or sending flowers like last year, but who am I kidding? I hope all goes well for you two. Just take it one step at a time . Link to post Share on other sites
Author StellaA Posted November 7, 2012 Author Share Posted November 7, 2012 Thanks for the message..........in a way was very sweet. I like everyone else on here has the thought in their head that they would like it to happen but It is so hard when you see them not to just want to hug them and kiss them. After 6 months you think you are doing ok, then bang, one meet with them and all your feelings are there. Yes, Im happy I saw him, we caught up and it was nice to know he was well but deep down, all the problems are still there (more for him not our relationship). I am trying to take things one day at a time and not think to much into the future. I told him I would be his friend and who knows what the future will bring. I have to think about the future, children, marriage etc, I am not getting any younger Link to post Share on other sites
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