rn0408 Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Honestly, I already made a decision in my life where I don't want to get married or have kids at 19. I really like being around kids I just don't want any. I'm 27 right now and really have enjoyed life. I have never even thought about marriage..not even in a discussion. I really think it would leave me astray in what I do in life whether its a career, coaching sports, or getting a PHD. I just made a career change and love it. I have dated very attractive girls and walked out on good terms and bad terms with some...the majority I am friends with. I don't mess around with women (I have had sex before so it's not like I haven't had sex) I find it funny that people who are not happy with themselves or their spouse get married because they are programmed to think that way. People look at me like I'm odd but I say I never want to get married. I really think I would have a lot of fun not being married. There are so many things I can do without a wife. Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Honestly, I already made a decision in my life where I don't want to get married or have kids at 19. I really like being around kids I just don't want any. I'm 27 right now and really have enjoyed life. I have never even thought about marriage..not even in a discussion. I really think it would leave me astray in what I do in life whether its a career, coaching sports, or getting a PHD. I just made a career change and love it. I have dated very attractive girls and walked out on good terms and bad terms with some...the majority I am friends with. I don't mess around with women (I have had sex before so it's not like I haven't had sex) I find it funny that people who are not happy with themselves or their spouse get married because they are programmed to think that way. People look at me like I'm odd but I say I never want to get married. I really think I would have a lot of fun not being married. There are so many things I can do without a wife. What you have is a gift. Not everybody can do this. I would recommend taking advantage of your gift of singleness and pursue something which improves the world and makes you happy. (I'm trying to do this very thing, now what I'm divorced.) Link to post Share on other sites
Author rn0408 Posted November 7, 2012 Author Share Posted November 7, 2012 What you have is a gift. Not everybody can do this. I would recommend taking advantage of your gift of singleness and pursue something which improves the world and makes you happy. (I'm trying to do this very thing, now what I'm divorced.) I would kind of rather sacrifice myself to help others. I'm in the medical field. I really think what I would do it would cause me to be astray in helping others even if I'm dating or married. Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 I would kind of rather sacrifice myself to help others. I'm in the medical field. I really think what I would do it would cause me to be astray in helping others even if I'm dating or married. What is your religious belief? Link to post Share on other sites
Author rn0408 Posted November 7, 2012 Author Share Posted November 7, 2012 What is your religious belief? Roman Catholic Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Roman Catholic God can make great use of people with the gift of singeless. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BetheButterfly Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Honestly, I already made a decision in my life where I don't want to get married or have kids at 19. I really like being around kids I just don't want any. I'm 27 right now and really have enjoyed life. I have never even thought about marriage..not even in a discussion. I really think it would leave me astray in what I do in life whether its a career, coaching sports, or getting a PHD. I just made a career change and love it. I have dated very attractive girls and walked out on good terms and bad terms with some...the majority I am friends with. I don't mess around with women (I have had sex before so it's not like I haven't had sex) I find it funny that people who are not happy with themselves or their spouse get married because they are programmed to think that way. People look at me like I'm odd but I say I never want to get married. I really think I would have a lot of fun not being married. There are so many things I can do without a wife. I very much admire Mother Theresa and Corrie ten Boom. I am not sure why Mother Theresa decided to become a nun, but her life of helping people is truly a blessing to the world! If she were married, she could not have helped as much. As for Corrie ten Boom, her heart was broken when the man she loved married a lady from a richer family. However, she had the "gift" of singleness after that and never got married. Rather, she helped children with disabilities and during the Nazi takeover of her country, helped hide Jewish people. she and some members of her family were put in jail. Later on, she and her sister were forced into a concentration camp where her sister died. I would think that would been even worse if they had been married, worried about their husbands and children. People are diverse. If you do not feel like your calling includes getting married and having children, that's fine. I really admire your desire to help other people in the medical field!!! Personally, I believe my husband and I have the "gift" of marriage and hopefully will have kids! However, God gives different gifts to different people. God bless you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rn0408 Posted November 14, 2012 Author Share Posted November 14, 2012 I very much admire Mother Theresa and Corrie ten Boom. I am not sure why Mother Theresa decided to become a nun, but her life of helping people is truly a blessing to the world! If she were married, she could not have helped as much. As for Corrie ten Boom, her heart was broken when the man she loved married a lady from a richer family. However, she had the "gift" of singleness after that and never got married. Rather, she helped children with disabilities and during the Nazi takeover of her country, helped hide Jewish people. she and some members of her family were put in jail. Later on, she and her sister were forced into a concentration camp where her sister died. I would think that would been even worse if they had been married, worried about their husbands and children. People are diverse. If you do not feel like your calling includes getting married and having children, that's fine. I really admire your desire to help other people in the medical field!!! Personally, I believe my husband and I have the "gift" of marriage and hopefully will have kids! However, God gives different gifts to different people. God bless you. It's not really a thing with God, It's my decision. Link to post Share on other sites
StEwPiD_MoNkEy Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 God can make great use of people with the gift of singeless. Rolling my eyes. Why does that even matter? SMH. Link to post Share on other sites
StEwPiD_MoNkEy Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 I very much admire Mother Theresa and Corrie ten Boom. I am not sure why Mother Theresa decided to become a nun, but her life of helping people is truly a blessing to the world! If she were married, she could not have helped as much. As for Corrie ten Boom, her heart was broken when the man she loved married a lady from a richer family. However, she had the "gift" of singleness after that and never got married. Rather, she helped children with disabilities and during the Nazi takeover of her country, helped hide Jewish people. she and some members of her family were put in jail. Later on, she and her sister were forced into a concentration camp where her sister died. I would think that would been even worse if they had been married, worried about their husbands and children. People are diverse. If you do not feel like your calling includes getting married and having children, that's fine. I really admire your desire to help other people in the medical field!!! Personally, I believe my husband and I have the "gift" of marriage and hopefully will have kids! However, God gives different gifts to different people. God bless you. What a horrible role model. Theresa killed more than she helped. Because of her beliefs, she refused medical attention for many who would have survived. This is your what you want to honor? Smh. Link to post Share on other sites
BetheButterfly Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 What a horrible role model. Theresa killed more than she helped. Because of her beliefs, she refused medical attention for many who would have survived. This is your what you want to honor? Smh. Mother Theresa is by no means perfect. Although she pursued a nursing degree, she did not have very much knowledge concerning healing those with terminal illnesses. She seemed to have gotten overwhelmed by all the people in India who needed help. Even though she also received help from around the world, it does seem that she was not open to modern and new ideas, or aesthetic comforts, or using more modern medical care. However, the reason why many people admire her today is because she at least did something, while other people didn't. I honor her heart of care. Now, I personally do not care for people as much as she did. Why, do you ask? Because I selfishly have no desire to go to India and everyday administer to the destitute people there. Shameful, right? However, I bet most Americans have no desire to leave the USA and go to a poor country, live a life of strict poverty, daily try to care for many people with terminal illnesses who can't go to the normal hospitals in India. However, Mother Theresa found people dying in the streets, and tried to help them. Do you do that? Do you go into the streets in India to help those who are dying and homeless? I don't. I do honor Mother Theresa because even though she's not perfect, she did more than you and I do to attempt at least to help people in India. So, before you judge her, why not go to India, and heal the homeless people who are sick and dying? Hopefully you will do better than she did. Then, feel free to judge her all you like. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 Rolling my eyes. Why does that even matter? SMH. What a horrible role model. Theresa killed more than she helped. Because of her beliefs, she refused medical attention for many who would have survived. This is your what you want to honor? Smh. Not relevant to the topic. RN, I would say stay single and enjoy it. There definitely are many things you can do when you are alone. You can do what you want on your own schedule. This I envy you for. Marriage does have its benefits but it also has its drawbacks. No need to apologize to anyone or explain your reasons to anyone. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BetheButterfly Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 Not relevant to the topic. RN, I would say stay single and enjoy it. There definitely are many things you can do when you are alone. You can do what you want on your own schedule. This I envy you for. Marriage does have its benefits but it also has its drawbacks. No need to apologize to anyone or explain your reasons to anyone. I meant to correct... I don't know if Mother Teresa even got her nursing degree... it seems she had courses/training, but it doesn't sound like she received much education in nursing? Anyways, yep, Marriage has awesome benefits, but it's not for everyone, and yeah, many people can do a lot more when they do not have the responsibilities of marriage. Corrie ten Boom and Mother Teresa would have had a much harder time doing what they did if they had been married. Link to post Share on other sites
Nyla Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 Do whatever makes you happy. It is your life. I miss being able to do whatever I want with nobody else to consider. I never wanted to get married when I was younger, because I grew up seeing an unhappy marriage. I met my husband when I gave up on men. Sometimes all it takes is someone special. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rn0408 Posted November 18, 2012 Author Share Posted November 18, 2012 Rolling my eyes. Why does that even matter? SMH. She's expressing herself, now go troll somewhere else. Link to post Share on other sites
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