She is texting me like crazy! Right now!!!!!

[CptSaveAho]

I feel she is sayn that because she thinks I won't take her back. She is a very doubtful person.

 

This is why people should go NC, you are emotionally attached, cant see the big picture.

 

She doesnt want you back and wont take you back if you throw yourself at her... she's just talking out of her ass

[taya]

Ok guys you knew my plan and I went through with it. I broke NC and now she is going crazy.

 

I sent her a Facebook message saying, "I've been indecisive on wheather I should respond to these messages you sent me but you said, "Please talk to me..." Therefore if you want to talk, you know my number."

 

Then 40 minutes later she texted me, "Hi...:/". I came on hereto post about it before texting her back and she sent me another text 10 minutes later saying, "I'm sorry...". I still haven't and then BAM! 4 more texts messages from her saying this...

 

"It's coming from my heart. Now that I lok back on it. You were the best thing that has ever happened to me. I ****** up. I cry at least 5 nights a week knowing I push the best thing in my life away from me for someone else who doesn't/didn't even like me. I don't know what else to say other than I'm sorry and I fuc*** up and I'm not just saying that because I know you wanna hear it. I'm saying it because it's true. I miss you David. I'm so sorry."

 

I haven't responded to that either and now she has texted me again saying. "I'm going to leave it at that. I guess. Hope life is treating you well. I ****** up about something else too though....."

 

WHAT!? I'm scared to find out about what that is. Maybe she got pregnant by him. That's all I can think of. Oh my god I'm scared.

 

What should I say guys? She said for a guy who "Doesn't/didn't like me" DOESN'T!!!? So she is still talking to this guy? Is that what this means? I don't know what to say back guys. Help me.

 

I should ask what she wants right? Why she was trying to contact me? Or do I go off what she said?

 

all can say is wow man what you going to do ..she sound like she is just back beacuse the relationship with the other guy dident work so think all that over beacuse you sure dont want her to do that mess to you again people like that you never know when they will do stuff like this again

[Pamkiss]

Actually, (hoping people don't shoot me because of this) i do think she wants you back, but she doesn't want to grovel and lose all her pride. She made the halfway move and i believe she wants you to take the other half.

 

I know, because I do these pathetic sh*t! When I know I'm wrong and I want someone back. I get the message across, but I don't go all the way, so that if the guy really doesn't want to get back together, I won't get totally crushed. It's pride.

 

If you decide to reply, i suggest going with something like this..

 

"You left and it is up to you to come back if this is what you want. Don't wait for any assurance from me because I do not owe you that. When you know exactly what you want, you know where to find me. As for you asking for forgiveness, what is the point?"

[KatZee]

Honestly, I think this can go either way.

 

We all sit here and say... don't say anything unless they say what you want to hear, "I made a mistake, please forgive me, I want you back."

 

She's said all those things to you.

 

The next move is up to you. Love is always a risk. I'm not sure of your ages, but she could have sincerely realized she left a great person and is genuine. Young people are fickle. OR she could only be back because the other guy didn't work out, and now she's lonely with a bruised ego.

 

No one here can say for certain EXACTLY what her motives are right now. Only you can. So you need to take the reins back on your situation and stop asking us what you should do. Now you need to do what YOU need and want to do.

 

Does that mean:

1. Have a conversation face to face and ask her-- What's changed, what will be different, what made you realize I was what you wanted, etc.

 

2. Both work at a relationship together to make it better than it was

 

Or

 

3. Forget it and just go on with the rest of your life without her

 

None of us here can make that decision for you. She's said what you needed to hear. The rest is now up to you.

[suladas]

Had no idea there age, it does make a tiny bit of difference. She seems really flaky. It's a guess either way.

[todreaminblue]

Ok guys you knew my plan and I went through with it. I broke NC and now she is going crazy.

 

I sent her a Facebook message saying, "I've been indecisive on wheather I should respond to these messages you sent me but you said, "Please talk to me..." Therefore if you want to talk, you know my number."

 

Then 40 minutes later she texted me, "Hi...:/". I came on hereto post about it before texting her back and she sent me another text 10 minutes later saying, "I'm sorry...". I still haven't and then BAM! 4 more texts messages from her saying this...

 

"It's coming from my heart. Now that I lok back on it. You were the best thing that has ever happened to me. I ****** up. I cry at least 5 nights a week knowing I push the best thing in my life away from me for someone else who doesn't/didn't even like me. I don't know what else to say other than I'm sorry and I fuc*** up and I'm not just saying that because I know you wanna hear it. I'm saying it because it's true. I miss you David. I'm so sorry."

 

I haven't responded to that either and now she has texted me again saying. "I'm going to leave it at that. I guess. Hope life is treating you well. I ****** up about something else too though....."

 

WHAT!? I'm scared to find out about what that is. Maybe she got pregnant by him. That's all I can think of. Oh my god I'm scared.

 

What should I say guys? She said for a guy who "Doesn't/didn't like me" DOESN'T!!!? So she is still talking to this guy? Is that what this means? I don't know what to say back guys. Help me.

 

I should ask what she wants right? Why she was trying to contact me? Or do I go off what she said?

 

 

i would guess this

 

someone who doesnt /didnt like me ....meaning past tense she asked him he said no(didn't).....and still doesn't meaning he hasn't given any reason to believe he does like her meaning in this moment at the time fo writing message.....so possibly still talking to him....ask her if she is......when someone says they stuffed up again normally means recently......in my opinion and an extreme guesstimate.....ask her to tell you.......deb

[ReadMyThread]

Actually, (hoping people don't shoot me because of this) i do think she wants you back, but she doesn't want to grovel and lose all her pride. She made the halfway move and i believe she wants you to take the other half.

 

I know, because I do these pathetic sh*t! When I know I'm wrong and I want someone back. I get the message across, but I don't go all the way, so that if the guy really doesn't want to get back together, I won't get totally crushed. It's pride.

 

If you decide to reply, i suggest going with something like this..

 

"You left and it is up to you to come back if this is what you want. Don't wait for any assurance from me because I do not owe you that. When you know exactly what you want, you know where to find me. As for you asking for forgiveness, what is the point?"

 

I'm not going to say that this is the case in my situation but it could be I suppose. That would for sure be something I would consider telling her and I kind of already have now. The ball is in her court now.

[ReadMyThread]

Everyone knows that ReadMyThread is 19 and his Ex is 18, right?

 

Does anyone expect an 18 year old girl who already flaked, dumped him for another guy to result in a happy ending where they ride off into the sunset together?

 

It's November 7, old guy bailed and she is looking to lock someone down for the Holidays.

 

Let's say they do get back together... I will donate $10,000 dollars to ReadMyThread's favorite charity if he isn't dumped after Valentine's Day and when Spring Fever hits.

 

Your right Gibson. I know with our ages so young that is hard to find myself with this person forever especially with everything she has done to me but there is only one way to find out I guess. To go trough with it if that were the case as what she wanted to. I highly doubt we would ever workout but this is just too much. I've never been through all this before and never want to again. But i also want her. Her. Nobody else...

[ReadMyThread]

Last update...

 

Well, it seems that I have done everything wrong in this situation according to everyone on here so I highly doubt she will want to get back together. We continued to talk after she sent that last text message (whichever one that one was) and I'm sure I said all the wrong things to her. I didn't tell her I wanted her back and that I love her and miss her and begged for her but I made it pretty clear that if she wanted to get bak together, it would be something I would consider ONLY if there were certain things to happen prior to that. Like talking about everything and why it all happened and stuff like that. I was the last person to respond and she hasn't replied back yet. I'm guessing she fell asleep or who knows maybe she was like, "fu** this kid". If she doesn't respond, I will take the hint that we doesn't want to be with me. Honestly, I feel she does want to be with me again but wants me to be te one to ask her to be together again. She is young and immature. if its not that, then she truly doesn't want to be with me again. I would post and tell you guys about everything we said to each other but I don't want you guys to tell me how all the things I shouldn't have said because I'm sure there would be a whole bunch. But long story short, she use to do drugs before she got with me, stopped when we were together and she said she started back up doing these drugs as soon as we broke up. She said that when we were together I said I would leave her if she started Doing drugs again which I did and now she is saying she wants me back but says that now that she is doing drugs again that is what stopping her from asking me back. She says she knows I won't take her back because of thatcher doing drugs again because I told her back then I would leave her.

 

okay just got another text from her. Saying that her doing drugs isn't going to stop us from getting together and she is asking what I am getting at? She says she never stoppe loving me and I was her best friend, then she said I can't do this anymore.

 

I'm just going to go AALLLLLL OUT Guys. I'm putting an end to this and I'm going to just say, something like okay I know you messed and I'm willing to give you another IF YOU WANT IT or something like that. It seems she is confused.

 

I'm sorry I've wasted every bodies time reading this stupid nonsense. I apologize. I truly do thank everyone for your advice and appreciate everything. Sorry guys. I wot post anymore threads about this girl and what to do or say. I have made it clear I want to work on things and have yet to hear back but don't plan on posting it on here for everyone to laugh lol. I'm young, I'm retarded, and I fell for the wrong the girl. Life will go on. With or without her.

[hinatticus]

Hey at least you know you're young and dumb. Most people don't realize that they were young and dumb until they're older. I mean that in a nice way btw.

[ReadMyThread]

Hey at least you know you're young and dumb. Most people don't realize that they were young and dumb until they're older. I mean that in a nice way btw.

 

Lmaooooo. No man. I'm more mature then that. I know what I want in life and what I need. I don't need this girl. I want her. And I know I deserve better but I can't ignore my heart. It's too loud lol. My head knows this girl is bad news. My heart is calling for her though :/

[Simon Phoenix]

Lmaooooo. No man. I'm more mature then that. I know what I want in life and what I need. I don't need this girl. I want her. And I know I deserve better but I can't ignore my heart. It's too loud lol. My head knows this girl is bad news. My heart is calling for her though :/

 

Why do you want her? This is a serious question and I'd like you to come up with tangible reasons besides "I want her".

[ReadMyThread]

Why do you want her? This is a serious question and I'd like you to come up with tangible reasons besides "I want her".

 

Because man. The way she made me feel. The love I has for we is nothing I have ever felt before and Im scared I wouldn't find it elsewhere :/. I don't want it with anyone else. Just her.

[Minka333]

The good thing i can see from your situation is that whether you work out or not, you won't have much regrets in the future.

 

You are taking this journey to learn...

 

If it fails..at least you tried

If it works..at least you didn't give up.

 

Nobody knows what tomorrow may bring but at least you are getting your answers one step at a time. You won't have to torture yourself wondering about "what might have been". And you already know what to do if she F's up again.

 

In the next few weeks, months or years you will know if you made the right decision. By that time, you are already stronger and far wiser from this whole experience.

 

Goodluck!

[suladas]

The good thing i can see from your situation is that whether you work out or not, you won't have much regrets in the future.

 

You are taking this journey to learn...

 

If it fails..at least you tried

If it works..at least you didn't give up.

 

Nobody knows what tomorrow may bring but at least you are getting your answers one step at a time. You won't have to torture yourself wondering about "what might have been". And you already know what to do if she F's up again.

 

In the next few weeks, months or years you will know if you made the right decision. By that time, you are already stronger and far wiser from this whole experience.

 

Goodluck!

 

I agree with this so much. It goes against most advice here. A lot of people don't think you should ask them to take you back, things like that make you weak. But in the long term I know it is the better thing to do. I couldn't live with myself if I didn't try, or imagine if you found out later she wanted to get back together and neither of you tried? Plus the best way to learn is from experience. Ya the chances are low it will never happen, but whatever.

 

Also OP, don't feel stupid or anything everyone does things in the heat of the moment because love is so powerful.

[suladas]

We tell you that for a reason. At your age (23) and due to a lack of dating / relationship / break up / life experience... you do not see / understand how pleading, begging, asking for someone back is not the right thing to do.

 

 

 

You have had 1 relationship if you want to call it that and that was for 2 months.

 

How did you become an expert? What facts do you have that back this up?

 

Later in this post, you said yourself it rarely works out, which is true. So you say two different things, which is it?

 

 

 

If someone wants to be with you, they will try.

 

Do you really think the reason someone dumps you is because they want you and only want you to chase?

 

They dump you because their feelings have changed, think their life is better without you in it and they are SURE there is someone better than you out there.

 

Otherwise, you would still be with them.

 

 

 

Bingo!

 

The reason why we know that chasing after someone who dumps you is a bad idea... Is because we did it ourselves and the results were disastrously bad.

 

 

 

As you mature and go through several heartbreaks by only following your heart... You will learn to use your head along with your heart. Basically, your BF / GF picker will become more selective and improve. You will have the maturity / experience which makes it a lot easier to pass / walk away from people who can / will hurt you.

 

As I said before, the best way to learn is trying it yourself and even though failure is extremely likely what do you have to loose? As long as your attitude trying to get them back is knowing that the chances of it happening are very small, what's the big deal? Sure it will probably set you back a few days, maybe even a week, but in a few years are you going to care? Doubtful most likely you'll look back and be happy you tried what you could, failed, and moved on. Who cares what they think of you if you never see them again? I really doubt many ex's are going to be like "Oh that crazy ex sent me a heartfelt message about trying things again, what a crazy a**". Sure blowing up their phone with a million texts for months on end is retarded, but not one message. Yes I know you're going to say that's how it starts, and you keep sending and sending, no that's not what i'm saying, i'm saying send one thoughtful message, if it doesn't go anywhere then it's time to move on. And I didn't say pleading and begging, i'm saying if you made some mistakes, man up and admit it and say you're willing to work on it, yes obviously you are being a bit needy doing it, but whatever.

 

I do agree some cases you shouldn't like you see people who were treated like crap, cheated on etc, it is not smart for them trying to get their ex back. But if it was good, and the BU happened partly because of things you did wrong, then it's different.

 

I understand they dumped you because they figured their life would be better without you in it (most of the time), but at the same time people make mistakes, sometimes people would rather force themselves to forget it then admit it. Or they forget how good their partner was and realize it, so many reasons. How many times do people break up and still end up getting married? Peoples emotions can get the better of them and do things in the heat of the moment. Yes probably 95% of the time, they will not regret their decision, but sometimes they do.

Edited November 7, 2012 by suladas

[Frank13]

I'm sorry to be negative, but....it sounds to me like what she's sorry about is being dumped by the other guy. Don't fall for it. Don't settle for being second choice. Sure, she wants you back...to feed her fractured ego. Take a step back. Don't be too eager to respond. Just because she's throwing you crumbs doesn't mean that you have to pick them up.

 

My thoughts were the same. She even made sure to mention about the guy not liking her. So, if he did, I don't think she would have been trying to contact him.

[StarsOnFire]

Last update...

 

Well, it seems that I have done everything wrong in this situation according to everyone on here so I highly doubt she will want to get back together. We continued to talk after she sent that last text message (whichever one that one was) and I'm sure I said all the wrong things to her. I didn't tell her I wanted her back and that I love her and miss her and begged for her but I made it pretty clear that if she wanted to get bak together, it would be something I would consider ONLY if there were certain things to happen prior to that. Like talking about everything and why it all happened and stuff like that. I was the last person to respond and she hasn't replied back yet. I'm guessing she fell asleep or who knows maybe she was like, "fu** this kid". If she doesn't respond, I will take the hint that we doesn't want to be with me. Honestly, I feel she does want to be with me again but wants me to be te one to ask her to be together again. She is young and immature. if its not that, then she truly doesn't want to be with me again. I would post and tell you guys about everything we said to each other but I don't want you guys to tell me how all the things I shouldn't have said because I'm sure there would be a whole bunch. But long story short, she use to do drugs before she got with me, stopped when we were together and she said she started back up doing these drugs as soon as we broke up. She said that when we were together I said I would leave her if she started Doing drugs again which I did and now she is saying she wants me back but says that now that she is doing drugs again that is what stopping her from asking me back. She says she knows I won't take her back because of thatcher doing drugs again because I told her back then I would leave her.

 

okay just got another text from her. Saying that her doing drugs isn't going to stop us from getting together and she is asking what I am getting at? She says she never stoppe loving me and I was her best friend, then she said I can't do this anymore.

 

I'm just going to go AALLLLLL OUT Guys. I'm putting an end to this and I'm going to just say, something like okay I know you messed and I'm willing to give you another IF YOU WANT IT or something like that. It seems she is confused.

 

I'm sorry I've wasted every bodies time reading this stupid nonsense. I apologize. I truly do thank everyone for your advice and appreciate everything. Sorry guys. I wot post anymore threads about this girl and what to do or say. I have made it clear I want to work on things and have yet to hear back but don't plan on posting it on here for everyone to laugh lol. I'm young, I'm retarded, and I fell for the wrong the girl. Life will go on. With or without her.

 

So after she dumps you for another dude, and now is reusing drugs that you had an issue with her using in the past, you still want to get back together with her? Sounds like you're really lowering your standards, I hope she's worth it.

[Simon Phoenix]

Because man. The way she made me feel. The love I has for we is nothing I have ever felt before and Im scared I wouldn't find it elsewhere :/. I don't want it with anyone else. Just her.

 

That's not the answer I was looking for. That's the answer of someone who is afraid of not finding someone than a person who is in love. That's the answer of a person who is scared.

 

I want details. What do you like about her besides the fact that she has sex with you (presuming she does). Characteristics, all of that. And then I want to know what you don't like about her.

[suladas]

That's not the answer I was looking for. That's the answer of someone who is afraid of not finding someone than a person who is in love. That's the answer of a person who is scared.

 

I want details. What do you like about her besides the fact that she has sex with you (presuming she does). Characteristics, all of that. And then I want to know what you don't like about her.

 

I agree, if you want her that bad you should know in your head why, and the qualities she had you're scared you won't find elsewhere.

[ilou]

Man...my gut says this a good trolling. At least consider some notes made by others. You change your mind all the time. I'm young and I don't think so sporadically. Good luck young Padawan.

[Survivor12]

Because man. The way she made me feel.

 

Same reason she uses drugs.