Do you know any short guys who are successful with women

[Sun Devil]

I am wondering if there are short guys under 5foot 4 who were successful at picking up women. If you do know any, tell me how did they attract women. Did they use pua material, did they have lots of money, or did they just have an amazing personality. Did these guys also get taller women. I am curious because I am trying to overcome my height and be able to get girls.

[ThaWholigan]

I know 2 guys who were 5 foot 3 and 5 foot 2 respectively who had successful relationships - one is engaged currently to a beautiful Portuguese girl. They may even be married now, I'm not sure. They were amiable personalities without being middle-of-the-road people, they were really fun and happy to be around.

 

The first thing you need to do is STOP WORRYING ABOUT YOUR HEIGHT!!!!

 

Even if you do read PUA material, your desperation, depression at not having a GF and insecurity will betray you. You have to learn to relax and have fun.

[JamesM]

Give Danny Devito a call. I am certain he could tell you all you need to know.

[FitChick]

Jockeys always seem to have Vegas showgirls as wives.

[Sun Devil]

Thawholigan, it is easier said than done to not woory about my height. Until I have success, I still worry on the back of my mind that I will never have a girlfriend. I tried online dating but was unable to find a match, and I have had over 40 rejections this year. Did those 2 guys you mentioned always had success with women, or were there times that they were involuntary celibate?

[somedude81]

Give Danny Devito a call. I am certain he could tell you all you need to know.

 

Jockeys always seem to have Vegas showgirls as wives.

What's the common factor between Devito and a Jockey?

[serial muse]

My exH was 5'4" and was always dating people taller than he was. He was a people person, so he did it by being generally friendly and, to his credit, pretty fearless when it came to asking people out. Worked for him, I guess.

 

I will also say for him that he probably stressed about his height, but I can honestly say I never heard him complain about it.

[ThaWholigan]

Thawholigan, it is easier said than done to not woory about my height. Until I have success, I still worry on the back of my mind that I will never have a girlfriend. I tried online dating but was unable to find a match, and I have had over 40 rejections this year. Did those 2 guys you mentioned always had success with women, or were there times that they were involuntary celibate?

They always did pretty well. They weren't casanovas, but they had GFs usually. They didn't give a f*ck about their height, and that's why it was easier for them. We used to rib them about being short all the time, just like I rib my bro for being short. I can do that because he doesn't care, and he ribs me about being a greedy, fat sloth .

[JamesM]

What's the common factor between Devito and a Jockey?

 

Two things....

 

1. Height

2. Confidence

 

 

Short men or skinny men or fat men who get a woman or women can because they focus on what they have instead of what they don't have.

[somedude81]

Two things....

 

1. Height

2. Confidence

You forgot one.

 

Money.

[JamesM]

You forgot one.

 

Money.

 

And you forgot that they were short before they were rich. And if they only got women after they were rich...they aren't born with money...they earned it.

 

Fact is...if height is a perceived problem for getting women, then it doesn't matter how long the list is. Height will still be a problem. Every short person that is mentioned will be excused away with having something besides his shortness that gave or gives him an advantage over the OP or any short guy who is held back by height in his own mind.

 

Seriously, most average or less than average men has reasons why they could not get a woman if they let that problem get in the way.

[serial muse]

I am 5'8. I do not stress about my height. Women are the ones that stress about height. Most of the women that I see with dating profiles specifically state in their profile that the guy "needs to be 6ft or taller to email me". And the shorter the women are....the more superficial they are about a guy height. Thats what I see in my locality.

 

I think guys experience a lot of height issues with single women....because its mostly the single women that have issues with it. You dont ever meet women that dont care about height....because they are usually in a relationship with someone instead of obsessing over a guys height.

 

Well, I wholeheartedly disagree, as my experience is exactly opposite to yours. Aside from the exH, any men I've ever gone on a date with who were shorter than average (under 5'8", let's say) were OBSESSED with it. The fact that my exH didn't give a crap was an attractive quality, and a rare one. And yeah, I think that's why he got dates.

[somedude81]

And you forgot that they were short before they were rich. And if they only got women after they were rich...they aren't born with money...they earned it.

So in order for a short man to get a woman, he has to get money first.

 

That sounds pretty horrible.

Fact is...if height is a perceived problem for getting women, then it doesn't matter how long the list is. Height will still be a problem. Every short person that is mentioned will be excused away with having something besides his shortness that gave or gives him an advantage over the OP or any short guy who is held back by height in his own mind.

No, just that people who have lots of money are terrible examples of short guys getting money. It sends the wrong message, that the only way a short guy can get a woman is if he buys her.

Seriously, most average or less than average men has reasons why they could not get a woman if they let that problem get in the way.

It's not even about letting the problem get in the way. It's about having nothing they can do to overcome the handicap.

 

If a girl isn't attracted to me because I'm 5'6, that isn't my fault. I didn't let it get in my way. There was simply nothing I could do.

[serial muse]

I am 5'8. I do not stress about my height. Women are the ones that stress about height. Most of the women that I see with dating profiles specifically state in their profile that the guy "needs to be 6ft or taller to email me". And the shorter the women are....the more superficial they are about a guy height. Thats what I see in my locality.

 

I think guys experience a lot of height issues with single women....because its mostly the single women that have issues with it. You dont ever meet women that dont care about height....because they are usually in a relationship with someone instead of obsessing over a guys height.

 

I was going to also add this - I do think this is a different problem in online dating, and it's an annoying aspect of the medium. OLD is very reductive - women face this with the age thing, and men face it with the height thing. It's very easy to make arbitrary restrictions that one wouldn't make in the real world. Try asking people out IRL instead, I guess.

[somedude81]

Well, I wholeheartedly disagree, as my experience is exactly opposite to yours. Aside from the exH, any men I've ever gone on a date with who were shorter than average (under 5'8", let's say) were OBSESSED with it. The fact that my exH didn't give a crap was an attractive quality, and a rare one. And yeah, I think that's why he got dates.

The men who were obsessed with their height and actually talked about it in conversation were not very intelligent.

 

No matter how much I hate my height, I never talk about height with anybody outside of my immediate family.

 

Unfortunately, not talking about my height is not enough to get me dates.

 

I was going to also add this - I do think this is a different problem in online dating, and it's an annoying aspect of the medium. OLD is very reductive - women face this with the age thing, and men face it with the height thing. It's very easy to make arbitrary restrictions that one wouldn't make in the real world. Try asking people out IRL instead, I guess.

Which is why I have never put in a serious effort into OLD.

[serial muse]

Very true. Most women prefer a taller man. Its a proven fact. They might not end up with what they want...but if they are in the market...they are not going to choose the short guy first.

 

I mean, you guys...sure, I'm 100% sure that this is true.

 

But it doesn't follow that short guys can't get dates. Which is why people are giving their stories of when/how short guys do get dates. Isn't that what the point of the thread was? Rather than rehashing the old threads?

[Sun Devil]

Somedude81, your height of 5 foot 6 should not be an issue. It is when you are shorter than most girls where it becomes a problem. I would love to be at your height, but I am stuck at 5 feet even. I am reconsidering surgery to extend my legs to add a few inches.

[ThaWholigan]

I mean, you guys...sure, I'm 100% sure that this is true.

 

But it doesn't follow that short guys can't get dates. Which is why people are giving their stories of when/how short guys do get dates. Isn't that what the point of the thread was? Rather than rehashing the old threads?

Don't bother. It's not the height that's stopping them

[somedude81]

Somedude81, your height of 5 foot 6 should not be an issue. It is when you are shorter than most girls where it becomes a problem. I would love to be at your height, but I am stuck at 5 feet even. I am reconsidering surgery to extend my legs to add a few inches.

You're right. My height should not be an issue.

 

But many things in the world are not as they should be.

 

Women are attracted to the masculine traits in men. Height is one of those traits. If a man isn't at least average height, that's one less thing about him for a woman to be attracted to.

 

I'm 31 years old and can count the number of girls that have at least had a passing interest in me on one hand. Women are just not physically attracted to me, and that makes everything so much harder.

 

So far the only ways I know of for a short guy to get women is to have a very outgoing fun confident personality, or to have lots of money. If the short man lacks those, he's not getting anything.

 

As for extending your height, unless you can surgery yourself up to 5'9, don't bother.

[SteveC80]

Very true. Most women prefer a taller man. Its a proven fact. They might not end up with what they want...but if they are in the market...they are not going to choose the short guy first.

 

While its not inaccurate what you say yes in perfect world almost universally if aWomen could have theur dream guy would be tall not everyone is good looking enough to get their ideal mate

 

Most people walking around are quite average and cant hold out for thir perfect looking person so what peoples ideals and dreams are and what they end up with are usually different for Men and Women unless therye 10's

[hinatticus]

I am wondering if there are short guys under 5foot 4 who were successful at picking up women. If you do know any, tell me how did they attract women. Did they use pua material, did they have lots of money, or did they just have an amazing personality. Did these guys also get taller women. I am curious because I am trying to overcome my height and be able to get girls.

 

Ya, me!!

 

I'm not a dating machine, but I've had long term relationships and even spawned a child!! To make matters harder for me, I'm a short Asian that likes taller white women. I've got a small dating pool, but I don't mind.

 

How many height threads are you gonna make?!?!

[Sunfire73]

I'm dating someone who's 5'4, i think. But yeah, he has a good personality, good character, smart, has a good job and overall a good guy. His height doesn't bother him that much, or I don't notice. I dated guys taller like 6'2, 5'9 and 5'10, but I like the shortest one best because we are a better match. But I'm still shorter than him, at 5 ft, so it still works.

[todreaminblue]

Thawholigan, it is easier said than done to not woory about my height. Until I have success, I still worry on the back of my mind that I will never have a girlfriend. I tried online dating but was unable to find a match, and I have had over 40 rejections this year. Did those 2 guys you mentioned always had success with women, or were there times that they were involuntary celibate?

 

 

everything that has happened and been good in my life i have had to hurdle obstacles for, i have had to face disappointment, rejection and deal with the insecurities and issues and they are pretty big that i do have.I have to have courage and persist and i cant and dont give up.

I have baggage that affects me.

more baggage than height and i still try.Sometimes i want to give up and i might for a day or two and then I put some band aids on and i try again.

 

you need to have courage to accept your flaws and keep trying...you see height as a flaw i don't see it as a flaw most of the people on here have told you that there are women that don't mind height.

 

 

You dont have the right mind set to meet women who would find you attractive because you are ignoring they are there and they exist.....

 

With me finding a partner i need someone who is accepting, understanding patient, kind, compassionate, forgiving when i mess up and has strength of character who understands mental illness isn't leprosy and for the most part, if i don't take me too much on, i can remain in a stable state so i need to take it slow including a physical relationship..that is a big ask but has nothing to do with aesthetics more the man and how he treats others and would treat me

 

god made me this way and i do accept it..i don't judge others because i dont want to be judged and a lot of people dont judge height. i believe that.

 

 

I am my own worst critic as you are about your height let it go....have courage and persist when you meet someone good who you really like, you can be scared as crap but courage is when you move forward anyway...let them see you the person not you in cm..courage in a man is a wonderful trait develop that .......its strength in character that is essential for you to have success in anything you do......and realize however many knock backs you do get, there is someone for you...if you let yourself believe they exist you will find them....then you persist.....good luck....deb

Edited November 7, 2012 by todreaminblue

[Sun Devil]

I still keep hearing about short men in their 40 s and older who never had a girlfriend. I also hear about rich short men who have no problems, but does anyone know a short guy who was able to get women in college without being very rich?

[dasein]

OP there are many short men who do well. The general reality, rather than meaningless cliches, that you must accept and plan for is that being short is definitely a material disadvantage in dating for men. All but a few very lucky, rare people have some type of disadvantage in dating, you can overcome it as any other disadvantage can be overcome.