Do you know any short guys who are successful with women

[daisybuchanan55]

Sun Devil, I'm new and maybe I can shed some light on this.

 

I'm 5'7. Would I date a guy shorter than me? MAYBE...but 5'5 would be my limit. I am just being honest because I don't see any point in bull****ting when you're trying to find a real solution.

 

First...do not get that surgery, PLEASE. It sounds really painful and like you'd have to relearn walking and everyday tasks. That would inhibit your dating life, not to mention overall quality of life, WAY more than your height.

 

I personally think PUA stuff (and I've read "The Game") is absolutely ridiculous. I mean, doing magic tricks in bars? Dressing outlandishly? HELL NO. I would think a guy was a complete creep if he pulled any of that on me.

 

What are your standards? A beautiful woman? ANY woman? Telling us a bit more about what you're looking for would be helpful.

 

If you're just looking for some experience, I actually don't think the hooker idea is a bad one, lol. Once you have some sex you might feel more confident in yourself. There is no shame in it! Thousands of men do it every day and it would be a good way to learn what to do without feeling nervous around a girl you would actually want to impress/date.

 

I've noticed shorter men tend to do really well with women from Eastern European and Asian countries. I don't know if they are less superficial or just really into Americans, but you should try finding out and asking her out, lol. Seriously, I've seen guys your height with these towering Russian supermodels...and the guys usually are not rich!!!

 

As far as approaching women, I agree OLD is not the best route. People are too picky online and will pass up people they wouldn't in real life. I'd start hanging out wherever Asian or European women hang out. If you live in a city try going to an ethnic part of town and into one of their bars with a friend.

 

In the meantime, look as awesome as you possibly can. Emulate a movie star's style. Copy Ryan Gosling. I can't think of one girl who doesn't think he looks awesome. Get a cool haircut. Get in awesome shape.

 

And...concentrate on school and a career. ALL men do better with women when they have a stable career.

[Veronica2025]

I liked a short guy in high school.

 

He was confident. Was an excellent musician. He was sociable.

 

I was tall for my age. He was a senior and I was a freshman. This guy had me praying I would stop growing.

[thefooloftheyear]

I dunno...Im only 5'7"....I never had any trouble attracting interest from women...Although truth told I am sure I would do better if was 6'2" and 260lbs...

 

It might help that I am not "small" as I weigh 200 lbs with a very muscular build and have little bodyfat. Reading that study in the previous post makes me wonder.. Frankly I guy like me is way more physically imposing than a typical 5'11" 175 lb guy...So I guess you can throw off the curve if you fall ouside the "typical"..

 

A friend of mine is 5'2" and maybe 140 and scored a very nice looking wife..She is about my height and very attractive..He is a fun kind of guy and while he might not be physically impressive, I could see how a woman might find him attractive..

 

Ive been with women as tall as 5'11"...The taller ones never seemed to have too much of a hangup with me..I think I probably worried about it more than they did..

 

Just be happy with who you are...Insecurity is what will instantly turn any woman off...

 

TFY

Edited June 1, 2013 by thefooloftheyear

[Sun Devil]

How old were the guys that were successful? I also want to know how old were the women. I don't want to wait till my 40s till I get success

[soccerrprp]

The term "successful" is relative, but ME.

[MercuryMorrison1]

Absolutely I do.

 

I have a friend whom is 5,3, 272lbs, balding with thick glasses. He works a very ordinary job makes around 12$ an hour so he's by no means wealthy. Despite all of this he's had numerous girlfriends and at least two fairly long term relationships.

 

In sharp contrast, I am a 6,1 athletic doctoral student and more often than not I find myself taking dating advice from my buddy. He's got a way with words and serious knack for knowing how the dating game is played. I truly admire his social skills.

[Sun Devil]

I wonder if short guys have to wait till women are older and more mature, or can they get women while they are still in their prime?

[runningfar]

Yup. He has money now but when he met his wife he was broke and a high school dropout.

 

He was a player before he met her. She is taller and beautiful (as we're all the women he slept with or dated) and didn't put up with his crap and he settled down and shaped up.

 

What he had? He was witty and self assured.

 

(Edited to say: he is 5'5)

[thefooloftheyear]

I wonder if short guys have to wait till women are older and more mature, or can they get women while they are still in their prime?

 

 

Define.."prime"??

 

TFY

[Star Gazer]

Tanbark.

[USMCHokie]

Define.."prime"??

 

TFY

 

I'm guessing late teens to early 20's.

[Sun Devil]

I guess no one can answer the last part. I want to know if short men can get girls who are college age (early to mid 20s) or do they have to wait until their first divorce

[Sun Devil]

How did he talk to girls? What did he talk about?

[normal person]

I don't get how that is common sense for most guys, its like they were born with it

 

General conversation and basic social skills? Most people have it and were born with the capacity for it. They just learned the nuances through trial and error throughout their life like everyone else. It's really not as complicated as you make it seem. The sooner you realize that talking to a good looking girl requires the same skill set as talking to everyone else, the sooner you'll be at ease and likely more successful.

[tman666]

One of my buddies is like 5'5" and is a total man-whore-not that I'm saying that I approve of his way of relating to women...

 

He's not especially good looking, he's not rich, he drives a beater car...

 

Allllll social skills and confidence spilling over into cockiness at times.

[thefooloftheyear]

One of my buddies is like 5'5" and is a total man-whore-not that I'm saying that I approve of his way of relating to women...

 

He's not especially good looking, he's not rich, he drives a beater car...

 

Allllll social skills and confidence spilling over into cockiness at times.

 

 

You just described my good buddy....His name is Vinny.. Do we know each other?

 

 

TFY

[tman666]

You just described my good buddy....His name is Vinny.. Do we know each other?

 

 

TFY

 

haha, nope, not Vinny.

 

But it goes to show that it's possible.

 

Not to be harsh and uncaring, but these whiners that are hung up on being short need a reality check about what's actually holding them back with women (and it's not their height).

 

My friend has easily slept with over 100 girls. . Again, I disagree with how he relates to women (I think the same attitudes and social "skills" that help him get laid so easily also hold him back with developing deeper, more meaningful relationships), BUT it goes to show that height doesn't have to be a handicap if you don't let it be.

[Emilia]

My friend has easily slept with over 100 girls. . Again, I disagree with how he relates to women (I think the same attitudes and social "skills" that help him get laid so easily also hold him back with developing deeper, more meaningful relationships), BUT it goes to show that height doesn't have to be a handicap if you don't let it be.

An acquaitance of mine is the same, he looks like an older version of Keith Flint from the Prodigy http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lpyxwfx4jQ1qmu3quo1_400.jpg without the fame and the money yet he pulls like there is no tomorrow

[Roadkill007]

I remember there was this guy who was really popular in HS. Not the "he's a funny guy" kind of popular, but the "OMG you have a crush on him too?" kind of popular. He was 5' 4''. What did he have going for him? I'd probably say intense personality and looks. Not the most handsome guy, but so many girls were swooning over his smile. He had a somewhat bi-polarish personality, but in a way that gave him a bit of the "bad boy" aura. He was also pretty charming at times too.

 

and there's plenty of other examples, but I thought that was the most relevant one in my memory. So yea, stop creating restrictions in your own head, stop thinking of "probabilities", and just put yourself out there. Someone's bound to like what they see. Just make sure it's really you they see, not some artificial construct.

[Roadkill007]

You just described my good buddy....His name is Vinny.. Do we know each other?

 

 

TFY

 

 

 

Umm, does this Vinny goto a college in Arizona ? did he live most of his life in California? Does he really like his Johnny Walker?

[orchids]

I guess no one can answer the last part. I want to know if short men can get girls who are college age (early to mid 20s) or do they have to wait until their first divorce

I'm college age and yes, they can.

 

I had a huge crush on this Italian guy for the longest time and he was short. He had looks that were just my type (read: not conventionally good-looking) and was a great conversationalist. Blunt personality, wicked sense of humor.

 

He was also a very sharp dresser, knew how to work his clothes.

 

Nothing happened because he was married and I attached

[MrCastle]

Height doesn't hinder you, but perception and the belief that it does, will.

 

You have to come to terms with the fact that you can't attract everybody. Some people just won't be your type or vice versa, some people just won't click with you personality wise, and some people are just shallow, and that's the way life is.

 

You do not want to be with a woman who will look past all your other redeeming qualities just because you are not a certain height. That's not the type of woman you want in your life.

 

You can't do anything about your height. You are who you are. We all are who we are. You can choose to accept it and refuse to let it define you or stop you from accomplishing your goals, or you can spend your life moaning about it and harping on it.

 

There are good women out there. The bulk of them are. They won't care about height. They're not going to toss a good man out because he's short. Don't let the vapid, shallow, albeit loud minority cause you to feel bad about who you are or make you think you don't have a chance.

 

And I would say the same to women who feel bad if they are not a certain cup size or hip size. Good men--men worth dating, will not reject you because you don't have Kim Kardashian's ass. Don't wallow in self pity.

[MrCastle]

Some guys are not even attracted to women who have an ass like Kim Kardashian, because in their eyes that means they are too fat.

 

Those are the type of guys who think their ideal future wife should have a body shaped just like the Olsen Twins.

 

Well, I'm a total ass man. As many on here are well aware of. But if a girl had a personality that meshed well with mine, and a cute face--a face I'd like looking at, the rest wouldn't matter. She could have a chest as flat as mine and a pancake butt and I wouldn't care. I don't turn down women just because their hip size doesn't meet a specific number.