justcantletgo Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 I just couldn't get him out of my mind. NC for over a month now due to him having no choice coz his BW removed all their computers and internet at home and downgraded his phone. His family knows about our EA too so they won't let him get near their computers and he has no library card either. Some days I thought I was okay and over him but towards the end of the day, will realize that it's really over and he is really gone for good and I would miss him like hell again. No, my present live in bf has no idea about him or how I feel. All I knw is I still love my xMM and miss him like crazy, he never left my mind everyday. He's everything I ever wanted in a man physically and would do anything to make him happy, if he wasn't married already. My old thread about him here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/other-man-woman/353473-ws-do-you-still-think-about-op-after-r-bs Link to post Share on other sites
hurtnomorerika Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 I know exactly how you feel. Im in the same boat myself. Just continue to be strong, I know its hard. Some days I feel horrible and some days I feel on top of the world and that I can live with him. I guess its just gonna take time, to move on. Like you, I thought my MM was the man of my dreams...when I found out he was married I was CRUSHED AND STILL AM. I know If I just keep faith I'll move on and find something better. You can too. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Now what you are doing is to your new boyfriend is cruel. You love someone else, you're sooo not ready to be involved in a healthy relationship with this new guy, let alone anybody else. Please end your relationship before you hurt this innocent man whom you're dating. he deserves to be with someone who loves him and it's obvious that yes, you may have some feelings for him, your heart is NOT into him. If it was, you'd not be pining like this over exMM. It also hasn't been that long and seems you've rushed to into a new relationship. Not a good thing.. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 All I knw is I still love my xMM and miss him like crazy, he never left my mind everyday. Then you are doing your new bf a disservice by being with him. Set him free so he can find someone that is into him and him alone. Then get a bf later on when you can respect someone new. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Am I the only one who doesn't take moving in with a man lightly? If you've been in NC only a month...how long have you been with your "new boyfriend" and how long have you been living together? It seems as though you're complicating your life. One needs time to get over a relationship. Rebounding is never good, and particularly rebounds that take the form of more serious things like moving in with someone, marrying them or having kids with them. If you aren't over exMM you need not be in a "relationship" as it's just a sham...much less a live-in situation. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author justcantletgo Posted November 8, 2012 Author Share Posted November 8, 2012 We've moved in together 3 weeks after my NC with my xMM but we've known each other since May, and we're friends but didn't hook up until October. I knew he always had hots for me so when he asked me out, I thought I needed someone to forget my xMM totally and fast so I didn't waste time plus he's goodlooking but that didn't help, I still couldn't move on from my xMM Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 I just couldn't get him out of my mind. NC for over a month now due to him having no choice coz his BW removed all their computers and internet at home and downgraded his phone. These BWs have amazing powers. With the flick of a finger they have 100% absolute control of men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 We've moved in together 3 weeks after my NC with my xMM but we've known each other since May, and we're friends but didn't hook up until October. I knew he always had hots for me so when he asked me out, I thought I needed someone to forget my xMM totally and fast so I didn't waste time plus he's goodlooking but that didn't help, I still couldn't move on from my xMM so you really don't know this guy very well. So what if he's always had the hots for you, it's one sided. To move in with him so quickly is a huge mistake. you do know this, right? How can you give 100% to him and the relationship when you're still very into the exMM and you aren't even close to being over him emotionally? This is asking for a very unhealthy relationship and living arrangement. Link to post Share on other sites
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