hurtnomorerika Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 I just found out that my (very recently) Ex-MM's wife is 5/6 months pregnant. Even though I ended the affair recently, it hurts like hell. We were seeing each for a year and a half and I fell really deeply for him. I dont feel like going into all the details of our situation. I found out through twitter, she posted that she was pregnant and the baby is due on March 6. How in the hell could he be so lowdown to not only cheat, but cheat on his pregnant wife? I also wondered if it was true, because in a previous post on here, I admitted to twitter stalking them and he's never mentioned her pregnancy on his twitter and she just started mentioning the pregnancy about 2 weeks ago. She loves to tweet everything so, I wonder why she held back on the pregnancy for so long. She claims to have had an ultrasound but but she said she's not telling anyone what the sex of the baby is. She even said that he wasnt there for the ultrasound, He's a supervisor at his job, he could have made a way to be there. They have daughter and he really wants a son and I feel that's another reason he would have been at the appointment to find out if they were having a boy. Maybe Im just in denial. He contacted me a few days ago, but I havent answered him. I dont understand why he would continue to bother me if he's continuing to stay there and build a family. That's the reason I broke it off, because I felt like it was going no where with the broken promises. His anyone else been with MM and find out his wife is pregnant? How did it effect you and how did you get over it. Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 I dont understand why he would continue to bother me if he's continuing to stay there and build a family. Because his wife is very pregnant and likely can't/won't have sex, so he's looking for somewhere to have it. Ignore him!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
veryhappy Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 (edited) It's so great that you ended things before finding out about the pregnancy. Pat yourself on the back. Time will help, and this will surely keep you away. I know it's tempting and normal to wonder about how he's doing, but you need to put energy into detaching. What if you start thinking that by the time the baby is born you won't even care about the gender and you won't stalk them on twitter. You need to disconnect from him for your own good. Edited November 7, 2012 by cutedragon Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 , I admitted to twitter stalking them and he's never mentioned her pregnancy on his twitter and she just started mentioning the pregnancy about 2 weeks ago. Probably because she wasn't past the 3 month mark yet. Many people don't tell before 3 months along. She isn't going to lie about her pregnancy and her husband, your exMM more than likely isn't one to put too personal stuff on his twitter. Please do yourself a huge favour and stop twitter-facebook-online stalking them. Your A is over, you ended it and are in NC..Though NC includes NC online, in your head too! Try it..For a week! I'm sure you'll feel better and less focussed/obsessed about what is going on in their lives if you just focus on your own. Ignore his call. Or, if you really feel the need to contact him , ONE line in an email to him should solve this - Heard your wife is pregnant, congrats. DO not contact me ever again, or I will tell your wife about our affair. That ought to make him leave you alone. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 I agree with others who've said some people practice not announcing it until after the first trimester. So maybe that's why she didn't say anything about it before. I imagine how this must make you feel and I suggest you really stop Twitter stalking them and keeping tabs on their life, as you're only going to find things that make you feel bad. You need to not be tuned into their life, but instead use this new discovery to propel you to close the door on them and move on. Did his wife know about the A btw? Link to post Share on other sites
Ajvd1 Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 I was seeing what I thought was a non mm only to find out he was getting married and his claim was the wedding was due to her pregnancy. So I ended contact. 6 months later we are talking/seeing each other again. Guess what find out via social media that she's just recently pregnant...like 8 weeks pregnant not 6 months along. So that's 3 lies. Any mm that cheats on his wife is most likely a f*cking worthless tool and is using you. I understand how easy it is to fall for it the connection the thrill but really at the end of the day we're being used for sex and that's it... Link to post Share on other sites
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Guys don't care at all, they will cheat on their pregnant girlfriends, fiancees, wives, doesn't matter. At least you got out. Link to post Share on other sites
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