Reassurance that everything will be OK.

[Kristina]

Hello All.

 

My bf of 2 years just left my house yesterday, we have been in a LDR for 7.5 months now and we are so very happy together. We have plans for the next 15 months(that's how much longer I have in school) to visit one another approx. every 2 months. I thought the next time I would see him was in October, but now I come to find that we may not be able to see each other until December. Damn, that's a LONG time for us to be apart.

 

So, I'm asking all of you out there how long have you been apart from your LD SO? Is everything working out, and are you happy? I need some sort of reassurance that LDRs really do work for couples.

 

Thanks for listening and posting. I'm really hoping for October, keep your fingers crossed for me!!!

[bellejolie]

I also have a long distance relationship with a man who i've known for several years. We've been together for 3 of those years and are very happy. However unlike you two, we only see each other once or twice a year. Our schedules are so different that it's impossible for us to make plans to visit each other. We c onstantly send pictures, letters. We talk on the phone at LEAST once a day and use video chat online. Of course it's nothing like being with him, but sometimes you have to settle for less.

Good Luck!

[StrengthThruStruggle]

Geez, LDR's are hard. My boyfriend and I first got together in October of 2002. We're both in the military. We were lucky enough to spend nearly a year together before he was deployed. A couple months later I was deployed. To make a long story short about 3-4 months into my deployment I began to have doubts. It had been about six months since I'd seen him last and I grew confused, frustrated and weak. I broke up with him. Of course he though it was because I had met someone, but it was really because the distance scared me. The commitment scared me...anyway, it was a very selfish thing for me to do. He came off of deployment and spent a couple months stateside before I finally returned. Not more than 2 days after I had come home, I purchased a ticket to go visit him while he was on leave. The ticket was for the next day. It was so hard for me to be in the same COUNTRY as him and not see him. We were still obviously very compatible and the love I had felt for him was still there. He had always been opposed to me breaking up with him and urged for me to get back together. I still wasn't sure even though I was spending quality time with him. The week long visit ended without my making things official again. Then about a week and a half later I flew out to visit him for three weeks while he was taking a course in the DC area. We also had plans to go visit his family for a week after his course ended. After a spending a lot of time thinking about I decided that I was ready to commit to him again and not let distance induced feelings of confusion get in the way of my love for him and my strong desire to see him again, not as a friend, but as a commited lover. So...we got back together. It wasn't easy mind you. He still harbored some feelings of resentment as what I had done, and began to be a little paranoid about my breaking up with him again. He felt like I was maybe looking for a way to get him to break up with me so I could leave him without feeling guilty because I was the dumper. Of course this was just his way of making the transition. After quite a few long talks and letters we found a good even ground. When in an LDR a person learns that it isn't only their feelings on the line - it is a big responsibility undertaking an LDR...I respect those that make it work.

 

To wrap up my post, (as a reservist) I'm going back to school this semester and he just recently (on active duty) had to go back overseas. It's hard being away from him, but I've realized from the last run that he is worth the wait. I'm looking forward to December when he'll be coming home.

 

I wish you the best of luck with your situation. Please rest assured that LDR's while difficult, if done right, are most rewarding in the end. Stay happy!