Tips for the first date

[Gravity]

I thought it would be a good idea if people could suggets tips for a couples first date. This then could be used to help all the people who are nervous (like me) to come up with a game plan for a sucessful first date.

[daydreaming]

When I go out with someone for the first time, I always suggest to see a movie. You always have something to talk about afterwards, even if your partner should turn out a complete bore. And plus, you've got the cuddling factor ^^

[HoldOn]

Don't talk about marriage, religion or politics!

[amerikajin]

It kinda depends on how well you know this girl. I'm assuming you don't really know her all that well yet, which means you've got to study her as much as possible.

 

Skip the movie (at least on the first date). It's too traditional and predictable and it doesn't give you a chance to chit chat until after the movie has finished. Who knows...by that point she might be too sleepy to carry on a conversation. Or maybe she doesn't like the movie and then you're trying to start a conversation about a movie she's not interested in.

 

I'd go for coffee and keep it pretty light on the first date. That way, you get a chance to talk and know her a little better. Find a Starbucks or Seattle's Best...or better yet, find a reputable local coffee joint.

 

Don't worry about being Mr. Showtime - you don't need to put on a show. What you need is to get her talking - about herself. Keep asking her questions about herself, particularly her interests and past experiences. Find out what's important to her and listen. After 30 minutes you should have enough to carry your way through the rest of the conversation.

 

I agree with something said earlier: keep politics and religion out of the conversation. It's bulls*** anyway, and not only will it not score you points, it might also sink your date if you're on the opposite end of the spectrum or if you say something she takes the wrong way. Keep it light and positive: interests, music and movies you like, special accomplishments or experiences...things like that. What you want is to get her thinking about feelings and you want her feeling good at the end of the date.

 

And like I said, keep asking questions. Don't spend a lot of time talking about yourself unless asked. Too many of us guys start yapping away about ourselves as if that's going to make the girl interested. It won't. It will only make her think you're arrogant or insecure.

 

As for paying? If you asked her out, you should pay the first time you meet (at least with Western women). That's why I recommend Starbucks or some place like that on the first date. After that, you should work something out so that you split up the costs. I no longer believe in paying for dates. Paying for dates isn't really being a gentleman; it's more like bribery, and I've found that I've actually had more success with this approach than with the classic "let the man pay for everything" antiquated "dinner and a movie" b.s.

 

Be prepared to pay for subsequent dates so that you save face, but if she doesn't start volunteering to pay her way the second time you meet, she's just looking for a meal ticket. Cut her loose if that's the case.

 

Other than that, try to smile and have a good time. It's okay to be nervous but don't start kicking yourself if the conversation is slow to start or if you're having a hard time finding out what makes her tick. Try to remind yourself that it's just a date. She's not a goddess or princess; she's just someone to get to know better. Take dating one step at a time. The first date is only a chance to see if there's any reason to have a second date.

[Dork]

couple's first date? you mean your first date.. DUDE.

 

keep it simple, go for tea/ice cream and then if she seems normal go walk around stores and look around.. END DATE.

 

You can also do movies if you want, make sure the movie is comedy only..