Ross MwcFan Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 (edited) A lot of people would say to just ignore them. But I'm worried that if I always ignore them and not stick up for myself, wont that that lead to me having lower self confidence and self esteem? As I've read from a few sources online that not standing up for yourself whether it's bullying, or other situations, will lead to lower self confidence and self esteem. Which seems to make sense to me. Today when I was out, I had much lower confidence and I felt like an easy target, and I think it was down to ignoring a couple of trolls earlier. Edited November 8, 2012 by Ross MwcFan Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 It's been a few decades but I found that learning hand to hand combat and giving them the look in the eyes that says 'I will take this war to your doorstep' tends to diffuse most actions. The others handgun training solves. These days, it's merely 'please step back now' that gets the job done, and I've done it a few times, since I'm working in town again. I always say 'sir' (it's always men) and I always look them right in the eye. I'm figuring out how to kill them and that's the message that gets out in my voice tone, body language and 'aura'. Total focus. That may sound harsh but it does work. It respects the red tape but infuses it with civility and clear communication. 'Trolls', whom most would define as annoying people, are easy to ignore. Just erase their existence from your mind and continue as if they aren't there. If they proactively bring their annoyance into your personal space, then treat them as an exigent threat, as outlined above. Perhaps it's not for everyone but it's allowed me to avoid violent encounters and discharging my firearm for many years. YMMV. Link to post Share on other sites
bob the brave Posted November 10, 2012 Share Posted November 10, 2012 Carhill hit it right on the money. For trolls, bullies, whatever, it is return on investment. They want to manipulate without having to actually engage in conflict. That is why they pick on those they preceive as weak. Stand up for yourself and they will look for someone else to manipulate. Link to post Share on other sites
Minka333 Posted November 10, 2012 Share Posted November 10, 2012 Trolls became trolls for a reason... ..they have been trolled themselves ..they are bitter ..they are cowards masking toughness* ..they are simply just a**holes They seek attention to offset their misery/anger with the world. They hate being ignored, so best way is to ignore them even more. Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted November 11, 2012 Share Posted November 11, 2012 I think you need to feed the troll. It's obviously what you want to do and according to this post keeps you from feeling sorry for yourself so do it! Link to post Share on other sites
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