ooglesnboogles Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Hi, first post I met a cute girl the other day. Started talking to her and found out she's a strict vegetarian, for health reasons. I don't think it's because of 'meat is murder' reasons. She also doesn't eat bread or pasta or stuff like that. I want to ask her out, but I'm kind of unsure of how it'd work. I've been eating healthier lately but pretty much every one of my meals has meat in it, and I don't really know where we'd go for a date either. Any ideas? Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Hi, first post I met a cute girl the other day. Started talking to her and found out she's a strict vegetarian, for health reasons. I don't think it's because of 'meat is murder' reasons. She also doesn't eat bread or pasta or stuff like that. I want to ask her out, but I'm kind of unsure of how it'd work. I've been eating healthier lately but pretty much every one of my meals has meat in it, and I don't really know where we'd go for a date either. Any ideas? She eats no bread or pasta? Break up with her. Something's not right there. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 She eats no bread or pasta? Break up with her. Something's not right there. LOL....honestly, I don't eat much bread or pasta because I have gluten issues. Lot's of people with food allergies go vegetarian or vegan because of that reason, I did. I don't think her diet should be the factor in not asking her out. You can go get coffee, do an activity that doesn't involve food. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 LOL....honestly, I don't eat much bread or pasta because I have gluten issues. Lot's of people with food allergies go vegetarian or vegan because of that reason, I did. I don't think her diet should be the factor in not asking her out. You can go get coffee, do an activity that doesn't involve food. Can you eat cake? I know I shouldn't ask that because the answer might make me sad. I don't eat meat because my daughter doesn't eat it but there are a lot of places who have vegetarian meals on the menu. And there's always vegetables on the side and if you get enough of them it can become a meal. Link to post Share on other sites
Balzac Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 As long as she hasn't sworn off the ONLY meat that matters, she can eat veggies all day long. I've dated a vegetarian, taken her on dates to Smith & Wol where they served up fine veggies for her. She loved their carrot cake btw. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Can you eat cake? I know I shouldn't ask that because the answer might make me sad. I don't eat meat because my daughter doesn't eat it but there are a lot of places who have vegetarian meals on the menu. And there's always vegetables on the side and if you get enough of them it can become a meal. Actually with all the gluten-free options out there, it's not too bad, so yes, don't be sad, I can eat cake Vegetarian is pretty easy to work with, vegan is a little more challenging. And yes, veggie menus are becoming more and more mainstream these days. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Well, I am a vegetarian and no guy I have ever dated has been one. Some of them get pissy, like "god what if I wanted to cook you dinner?" and it's like uhh then cook something I will eat if you want to cook me dinner or don't cook for me? It'd be like if they were all "I hate pasta" and I was like "omg how can I make you spaghetti then?!?!" weirdos. Or they will be like "god what if I wanted to take you to a nice steak dinner" and I'm like the fk? Get a grip. Anyway, you can eat pretty much ANYWHERE as a vegetarian...it's not a big deal. I don't think her being a vegetarian should affect your decision to ask her out at all....most vegetarians are used to be surrounded by meat-eaters, and we survive I mean do you think she never goes to dinner with friends / family / coworkers? Trust me she is used to eating in standard restaurants and making do. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 She eats no bread or pasta? Break up with her. Something's not right there. This actually reminds me of my brother...I know his girlfriend has coeliac, but he won't eat carbs at all it seems, claiming it's healthier. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 This actually reminds me of my brother...I know his girlfriend has coeliac, but he won't eat carbs at all it seems, claiming it's healthier. I could not live without carbs. I'm Italian and Irish. What would I cook? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Balzac Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Not sure I agree with your "making do" comment. It's easy for the guy to phone the restaurant early the day of to alert the chef of "her vegetarian preference". I found that her choices were much grander and varied than "making do". Poached egg on a fresh spinach salad. The variety and optional preparations are endless. If the guy knows he can make it happen and should. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 I could not live without carbs. I'm Italian and Irish. What would I cook? Spaghetti squash is surprisingly similar to spaghetti pasta. Had to give up the Guinness though, barley=gluten. Wine is fine Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Wine is fine Liquor is quicker. Where do I get spaghetti squash? Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Liquor is quicker. Where do I get spaghetti squash? It's in season now with all the other squashes, I'm sure the grocery stores carry it, although I've found it difficult to find sometimes. Liquor is quicker, ha ha... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
tman666 Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 I dated a "meat is murder"-type vegetarian for a while (vs. for health reasons). I wouldn't do it again. Personally, I have no problem with vegetarians who choose not to eat meat according for ethical reasons, but as with most things in life, there is a spectrum. The vegetarian girl I dated tried to push her beliefs on me at just about every turn, which got old. To me, her approach was indicative of greater personality issues than her choice of what to stuff her pie-hole with. In my mind, if two people can't find a happy medium between their differing beliefs, they're probably not meant for each other anyway. Good relationships with staying power are built on compromise. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 I'm a "meat is murder" vegetarian, and I promise I can find something to eat anywhere I go. And I don't talk about my beliefs unless someone specifically asks. And I don't try to control what other people eat. I guarantee you that she is used to eating in a meat-filled world, and that she knows what questions to ask and what to order to get what she wants. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
wheream_i Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Careful there, everyone knows vegetarians are a little "windier" than us carnivores. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ooglesnboogles Posted November 9, 2012 Author Share Posted November 9, 2012 (edited) Thanks for all the responses! I don't really think her diet would dissuade me from asking her out, I just have my head stuck in my meat-eating ways and don't really know what we'd do in eating situations. I don't get the feeling she goes out for meals often, though like has been said, I'm sure she knows what to do. Luckily, I'm a crap cook so I don't think I'll run into that problem =P Cooking for me usually entails sticking frozen chicken foodstuffs into the oven for 16 minutes. Every now and then I cook tacos or burgers or sausages but not too often. I guess her diet makes cooking easier: "Hey, I nicked some fruits from my neighbor's trees. Dig in!" This actually reminds me of my brother...I know his girlfriend has coeliac, but he won't eat carbs at all it seems, claiming it's healthier. I think she's like this, everything comes from fruits and veggies, most everything fresh. Edited November 9, 2012 by ooglesnboogles Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted November 9, 2012 Share Posted November 9, 2012 I think she's like this, everything comes from fruits and veggies, most everything fresh. So you found yourself a health-conscious woman to ask out, that's a good thing Plus...rumour has it that non-meat eaters have a nicer taste, so to speak. Good luck! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted November 9, 2012 Share Posted November 9, 2012 (edited) I'm a "meat is murder" vegetarian, and I promise I can find something to eat anywhere I go. And I don't talk about my beliefs unless someone specifically asks. And I don't try to control what other people eat. Ditto. In fact I actually avoid talking about why I am veg (and certainly don't go out of my way to point it out) cause people ask the same 47891047 questions (HOW DO YOU GET YOUR PROTEIN!!!!!) and then start justifying their meat-eating ways to me, even though I don't ask. Thanks for all the responses! I don't really think her diet would dissuade me from asking her out, I just have my head stuck in my meat-eating ways and don't really know what we'd do in eating situations. I don't get the feeling she goes out for meals often, though like has been said, I'm sure she knows what to do. What are you talking about "you don't know what you'd do in eating situations" ??? Do you have to order the same thing as each other to eat? If you decide to cook for her, could you not just ask "hey what meal would you like?" It REALLY is not complicated! I promise! ETA: with the last guy, when eating, we went for stuff like Thai. When he cooked for me (really only a few times tbh) he would make me a veggie burger or whatever and make himself whatever he wanted. When he ate at my place, he ate whatever veggie thing I had made (veg tacos for example). No big deal. Edited November 9, 2012 by veggirl 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted November 9, 2012 Share Posted November 9, 2012 When I go out to a restaurant, I generally order something different than my date does. I don't see a problem. Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted November 9, 2012 Share Posted November 9, 2012 So you found yourself a health-conscious woman to ask out, that's a good thing Plus...rumour has it that non-meat eaters have a nicer taste, so to speak. Good luck! yes, we do taste nicer. true story OP- it really isn't a big deal. i go out with family, freinds, aquaintences all the time, and i'm perfectly fine. we tend to be creative with our food orders, and not one establishment has had a problem with accomodating me. mind you, i stay away from the 'texas BBQ' places Link to post Share on other sites
kiss_andmakeup Posted November 9, 2012 Share Posted November 9, 2012 Another vegetarian here who's had all non-vegetarian boyfriends. Although I am an animal rights activist, I keep those opinions away from the dinner table. And the main reason I don't eat meat is because I simply have never liked the way it tastes. I had a hamburger once when I was three, it made me ill, and I haven't had red meat since. Never had an interest in pork either, and cut out chicken several years ago. I feel very fulfilled as a vegetarian - I can still eat all the things I love! And I don't care if my BF orders a big juicy burger right in front of me. Honestly. My one gripe with meat consumption is factory farming...the details are pretty sick...but I'm all for the consumption of locally-sourced free-range meat. Eating meat is totally natural. It's just the way we do it that...isn't. Sorry to go off on a tangent. Anyways, my point was that you really shouldn't worry about it. Most restaurants now offer plenty of veg options, and if she's anything like me, she won't care if you choose to indulge in meat yourself, as long as you don't force it upon her. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ooglesnboogles Posted November 9, 2012 Author Share Posted November 9, 2012 I was agreeing with everyone! Just saying I'm having a dull moment in my head, mental block of sorts. It's fine, I get it. Not trying to get reassurance from every vegetarian or make myself seem like a meat-lovin' idiot (though I may be idiots of other kinds ) Thanks again for the responses! I'll see how it all plays out. Link to post Share on other sites
ConcernedFriend Posted December 2, 2012 Share Posted December 2, 2012 I've been a vegetarian for decades, simply because meat and my stomach do NOT get along. There are tons of veg options at most places, though her not liking carbs complicates things (and sadly eliminates Italian). However, if you're really that concerned, simply say, I'd love to take you out, is there a favorite restaurant I can make reservations at? Link to post Share on other sites
Estate Posted December 2, 2012 Share Posted December 2, 2012 I dated a girl like that for a long time. She stuck to mainly vegen & vegetarians foods as a lot of things she couldnt eat for health reasons too. Honestly... it can be a challenge. Sometimes it's hard to pick the right resteraunt. Sometimes when you want a quick snack when out, you can't find anywhere suitable for her even if you'd probably eat your right arm you're so hungry. Sometimes you might even have the very best of intentions to have a romantic dinner but something about the way the food was prepared makes her feel ill. Having said that, if you like enough about her this isn't a big issue in the greater scheme of things. You need to be conscious of it but after a while it just becomes natural. If you like her enough, don't make this too big an issue. Link to post Share on other sites
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