JosephL Posted November 10, 2012 Share Posted November 10, 2012 even a good reason to kick the man in his balls? I had a gf (now ex gf) who did that two different occasions and while I was on the ground trying so hard not to cry she kept laughing saying ''Isn't this what your old generation would do to us'' or ''See how it feels''. It took me around 15 minutes to recover. All it took for her to do that was an argument and she got upset. I can understand if I was abusing her or she caught me cheating but I never did any of that. Needless to say I broke it off shortly after the second time she did that. I think the worst part for me is not just the kick but the laughing. She thought it was funny. Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted November 10, 2012 Share Posted November 10, 2012 even a good reason to kick the man in his balls? I had a gf (now ex gf) who did that two different occasions and while I was on the ground trying so hard not to cry she kept laughing saying ''Isn't this what your old generation would do to us'' or ''See how it feels''. It took me around 15 minutes to recover. All it took for her to do that was an argument and she got upset. I can understand if I was abusing her or she caught me cheating but I never did any of that. Needless to say I broke it off shortly after the second time she did that. I think the worst part for me is not just the kick but the laughing. She thought it was funny. You spared yourself a lifetime of misery, my friend. Some other poor soul will get stuck with her. (Like me.) 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Phoebe Posted November 10, 2012 Share Posted November 10, 2012 The only good reason to kick a man in the balls is in self-defence. Your ex was crazy and you are well rid of her. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted November 10, 2012 Share Posted November 10, 2012 Holy ****! I'd have her charged! I'm a girl.... that is totally unacceptable, abusive, outright dangerous behaviour! Plus the denigration. I doubt she'll keep anyone for the long haul with that BS. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author JosephL Posted November 10, 2012 Author Share Posted November 10, 2012 I'm glad to see there are women who don't find this funny. It's not. If I would have been one of those mean men, I would retaliated but it's not in me. But in a future relationship, I've decided that if another woman kicks me there for no reason, I'll not only break up but have her arrested for assault (seriously) and I will not drop charges. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted November 10, 2012 Share Posted November 10, 2012 I'm glad to see there are women who don't find this funny. It's not. If I would have been one of those mean men, I would retaliated but it's not in me. But in a future relationship, I've decided that if another woman kicks me there for no reason, I'll not only break up but have her arrested for assault (seriously) and I will not drop charges. I don't think many women would find it funny or acceptable. Well, I'm Canadian, we might have stricter standards on "what is abuse." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted November 10, 2012 Share Posted November 10, 2012 My ex-wife smashed my prized guitar and had a smirk on her face. Sick. No other word to describe it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JosephL Posted November 10, 2012 Author Share Posted November 10, 2012 (edited) Actually it has more to do with my character. From the time I learned how to walk it's not in me hurting a woman. Then again that's how I was raised and my father was strict on that rule. My ex was the only woman so far to ever do that. I have to admit I was totally unprepared for that. Generally some women slap (or might punch) but not go overboard by kicking us in the balls. That's usually reserve for something serious (ex: man is beating her senseless, he's caught in bed cheating with her sister or best friend, he's stalking or is trying to rape her). Edited November 10, 2012 by JosephL 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author JosephL Posted November 10, 2012 Author Share Posted November 10, 2012 My ex-wife smashed my prized guitar and had a smirk on her face. Sick. No other word to describe it.Wow that was mean. It's really shocking seeing a woman's dark side. In a way it seems worst because with us, we're probably expected to misbehave and how some of us can be jerks but when a woman acts that way it's surprising. Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted November 11, 2012 Share Posted November 11, 2012 way it seems worst because with us, we're probably expected to misbehave and how some of us can be jerks but when a woman acts that way it's surprising. I disagree. I think women are capable of much more wickedness (in a state of spite) than men are. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted November 11, 2012 Share Posted November 11, 2012 I disagree. I think women are capable of much more wickedness (in a state of spite) than men are. Oh please, oh please, oh please don't turn it into that kind of thread..... 4 Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted November 11, 2012 Share Posted November 11, 2012 Oh please, oh please, oh please don't turn it into that kind of thread..... Sorry, just referencing what Shakespearre said. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 even a good reason to kick the man in his balls? I had a gf (now ex gf) who did that two different occasions and while I was on the ground trying so hard not to cry she kept laughing saying ''Isn't this what your old generation would do to us'' or ''See how it feels''. It took me around 15 minutes to recover. All it took for her to do that was an argument and she got upset. I can understand if I was abusing her or she caught me cheating but I never did any of that. Needless to say I broke it off shortly after the second time she did that. I think the worst part for me is not just the kick but the laughing. She thought it was funny. It is not funny to disable someone for any reason other than to defend yourself.Not even for cheating.Just like it isn't right for a man to hit a woman it is not right for a woman to hit a man....only ever in self defense....and if i did hit a man in self defense i wouldn't be laughing...inflicting pain on anyone is not a laughing matter its dead set serious.......good riddance to her....find someone who doesn't think inflicting pain is a joke......best wishes.....deb Link to post Share on other sites
pcplod Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 Joseph I'm surprised that you are even asking this question. The simple answer is "No, it is not 'right'." Infact, it is wholly wrong and unacceptable, equally unacceptable as scenarios of when men punch women. The physical abuse of men by their female partners is getting more and more attention by social, welfare and charity organisations and there are even refuges for battered men. Unfortunately, they quite often are the subject of derision from some of their unthinking, unsympathetic brethren who think that in a case like yours you should simply have got up and beaten her to an absolute pulp in response. More rational people can understand why that does not happen. I, for one, will not laugh at your story, or deride you. Don't communicate with her again, ever. Also, if you think it would be appropriate to report her to law enforcement in order to protect other men, please give it serious consideration. After all, it wasn't you that she was targeting, just who she happened to be in the presence of at the time. Link to post Share on other sites
rn0408 Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 I disagree. I think women are capable of much more wickedness (in a state of spite) than men are. A girl who manipulated me when my friend hung himself..I gave her the buisness: -I told her she is not marriage material -I told her all my friends said I could do much better -I told her I had more fun with my friends than her -I told her for every positive, about 12 negatives happened -I told her my career is more important -I told her if she emails me again, I'll make a list of 100 reasons I broke up with ther -I told her I should of broke up with her a while ago -I told her she complained I lasted too wrong in the bedroom lol Sorry but if somebody treats you like crap..light them up 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 Kindly said.... Abusive people abuse people that they know will allow themselves to be abused. Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 No, it's not a good reason at all. The woman was abusive and probably a psychopath. She didn't have any empathy. It's fortunate you got out of that relationship. She did wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JosephL Posted November 27, 2012 Author Share Posted November 27, 2012 (edited) No, it's not a good reason at all. The woman was abusive and probably a psychopath. She didn't have any empathy. It's fortunate you got out of that relationship. She did wrong.Yeah, the way she did it was with such anger as if saying ''I really hate your guts''. However, once I was over the pain she wasn't angry anymore. I was sort of intrigued how anyone can be mean one minute but then suddenly be nice the next. I forgot to mention, I heard she came from an abusive household. Her now deceased father was later on remorseful but she never forgave him, not even when he was on his deathbed asking for forgiveness. I think she did it out of some type of mean revenge thing (hence her statement ''See how it feels''). So sad how one man can affect a woman's life enough for her to take it out on another man that never did any harm to her. Hopefully she gets the help she needs. Edited November 27, 2012 by JosephL Link to post Share on other sites
AlexDP Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 even a good reason to kick the man in his balls? I had a gf (now ex gf) who did that two different occasions and while I was on the ground trying so hard not to cry she kept laughing saying ''Isn't this what your old generation would do to us'' or ''See how it feels''. It took me around 15 minutes to recover. All it took for her to do that was an argument and she got upset. I can understand if I was abusing her or she caught me cheating but I never did any of that. Needless to say I broke it off shortly after the second time she did that. I think the worst part for me is not just the kick but the laughing. She thought it was funny. Psycho.. Especially because of what she says afterwards. Link to post Share on other sites
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