That_girl Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 I Hate being jealous but I can't help it damnit! This guy I'm seeing was wearing a shirt that smelled like women's perfume today and I when I asked him about it, he simply said "Oh it was this girl Leticia, she was all over me the other night". Ugh!! I'm so angry...and later on, she CALLED him! I don't want him to know that I'm jealous because then he'll know I'm vulnerable to him...but at the same time, Im completely pissed off and can't believe he's doing this to me. Even if they're not doing anything, and they're just friends as he says...it still really bothers me, and we're not even fully a couple. I wish there was a way I could turn off this jealousy. Link to post Share on other sites
LolaLopez Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 well, you need to build up your self esteem, chickie. i remember when i was on the dating scence. man, it is viscious out there. girls were calling my bf left and right. i guess you have to decide what is okay for you, maybe you want a real committment,huh? Link to post Share on other sites
ziggue Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 I would be pissed off too. If I smelled perfume on a guy that I was seeing when I was single and then having the girl call him. Stay with him if you want a 'Friends with Benifits' relationship but don't if you want a commintment. Ask him what he wants and then decide for yourself whether you want to keep seeing him or not. Get him to be totally honest with you or otherwise you will end up too attachted to him or get your heartbroken. I agree jelousy sux. Especially when you are out on the dating scene. Link to post Share on other sites
Author That_girl Posted August 5, 2004 Author Share Posted August 5, 2004 Thanks for the replies. Yeah I kinda do want a more committed relationship, and that's supposedly what he wants too. He actually told me this on the same day that I got pissed for smelling the perfume on him. That made me even more angry because now it seems that the only reason he wants to be exclusive is because he thinks I don't think he can be. It didn't feel like it was about me, it just felt that he was trying to prove something so I said no. I don't know how the hell he can ask me a question like "why can't it just be you and me?" when he's got some girl calling him five minutes later. Link to post Share on other sites
LolaLopez Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 a valid question! be careful. a lot of boys out there like to have their cake and eat it too. don't be anyone's doormat. you know him. is he a player? is he a hotty? who are his friends? remember there are lots of good guys out there,more than you think if you are just open to them and believe you deserve them and they deserve you. Link to post Share on other sites
kayz Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 im got the same jeloausy cos its not other girls thats the problem its my bfs m8s they cant leave us alone for 5 mins 1 of them is always on the phone or cummin round an i h8 it. it kinda pisses him off an all becoz he wants time with me. we are goin cyprus 2mora jus me an him so hopefully things will sort its self out. we need "us" time if u know what i mean. we only booked the hol yesterday cos everythin is gettin on top if us. But hopefully this holiday will bring us closer 2gether an make a stronger couple. Kayleigh xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Link to post Share on other sites
kmax Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 If your not honest with him about how this makes you feel, you will never have a good relationship with him and you will always be jealous. I found this out the hard way. Relationships are meant to open yourself to be happy and loved or being hurt. Take the leap, so you know where you stand in your relationship. Keeping this from him is just making you madder at him and that will only put dissents be you and him. Link to post Share on other sites
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