mtber75 Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 I knew this woman from another country for more than 2 year. We lost touch with each other because of the long distance and she told me that she was getting married (last time we spoke) so I moved on. Recently, I got a chance to see her again in her country. It was great seeing her again. She was kind of depressed because she's no longer getting married (she called off the previous marriage) and her current boyfriend was dragging his feet. Culturally, she is consider "over the hill" to get married that is why she is getting tremendous pressure to get married quickly! After she said all this I proposed that we should get married seriously. She kind of paused and finally said that she can't move back to USA with me because her elderly parents are here and she needs to take care of them. Hey, it was a long shot but I gave it a try! But now I can't stop thinking about her! To make matters worst, I'm schedule to go overseas again for business end of the month...Should I contact her again or not? Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 Should I contact her again or not? Contact her if you are interested in moving to her country, marrying her, and living there. It sounds like she'll be seeing to her parents' care until the end of their lives. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mtber75 Posted November 13, 2012 Author Share Posted November 13, 2012 I would consider moving to Asia if she accepted my proposal? But that has passed so I'll just be a supportive friend to her for now. I was going to ask if her parents ever consider moving to the USA? Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 I would consider moving to Asia if she accepted my proposal? But that has passed so I'll just be a supportive friend to her for now. I was going to ask if her parents ever consider moving to the USA? Wow, well then that's a horse of a different color. From your original post, my impression was you proposed, she can't leave her parents, you wouldn't move there (wrong assumption), end of story. But it sounds like you're open to relocating (though there is that confusing question mark after your first sentence). Give that, contact her again and be clear. Make it known you would be flexible about moving. Also suggest talking more in depth when you visit this month--if she's willing. Regarding relocating her parents, I've only researched marriage visas for fiances/spouses coming to the U.S.. It's a complicated and long process for a fiance let alone extended family members. I suggest you look into it a tad to see if it's wise (or realistic) to entertain the idea of her parents moving here. Just a suggestion. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 Her parents won't live forever. Link to post Share on other sites
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