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Jorden_08_12

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My girlfriend and I were talking tonight and she brought up my tattoo on my shoulder blade it’s from when I was in high school I was in a car wreck with my swim team basically I got it to remember them. Well she was asking me about it and all I haven’t told her before now and she basically asked if I would ever consider getting it removed. And I asked her why she thought/ would ask that. And she said when I have my shirt off its just strange looking at some dead guy’s names and such. I never really thought it was a big deal it’s just my way of remembering them. What would you do?

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Under The Radar

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No, I wouldn't get it removed. It's in honor of your fallen

teammates/friends.

 

No offense, but I find it pretty insensitive of her to make that statement or to request your tattoo be removed.

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Your girlfriend is out of her ****ing mind. Hell no I wouldn't get it removed. I have some of friends that died flying planes I use to crew. I would be unbelievably insulted and have to assume that she is very self-centered and controlling to want that. I mean, you put someones name on your body. Someone that is now deceased. You'd think she would realize that means something to you.

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ladyabstrused

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I wouldn't remove it if it means something to me.

 

Honestly, I wouldn't ask my boyfriend to change anything of him unless it's a negative influence or character. If he has a tattoo, he has a tattoo. I love him for him, not for what's on his body. At the same time, I learn about why he's got the tattoo and I embrace that. Like for you, you've got a pretty good reason why you have it there. It's part of who you are now. She should be able to accept it and you shouldn't do anything that you don't want to just because.

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KraftDinner

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Before I opened this thread I assumed the tattoo in question was your ex's name. I would hate that, having sex with my bf and seeing his ex's name!!!! Ugh! So yeah, I could totally see someone wanting that removed.

 

But what your gf is asking? No way. That's ridiculous.

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I wouldn't ask a partner to remove a tat. After all, it is part of accepting who he is. If the tattoo is meaningful and your girlfriend knows that, asking you to remove it is very insensitive and controlling.

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threebyfate

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This isn't just an example of insensitivity. Your g/f is showing you her shallow nature. If you thought about it a bit more, you'll probably remember other examples of same.

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Her feeling "weird" about it, should not supercede the memory or commemoration of your deceased friends. I think such a tattoo is a meaningful and beautiful gesture, just like getting one of your child or parent. Kudos to you for not exploding in her face at "some dead guys".

 

A friend of mine has various tattoos and piercings. I'm not sure about the tattoos but each piercing represents a fallen comrade from his time in the army. He would never remove them and knowing what they represent, no one should ever think of asking.

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Jorden_08_12

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You all are right but she said she didn't care one way or the other just thinks i should move on from it which i kind of got upset over.

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threebyfate

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You all are right but she said she didn't care one way or the other just thinks i should move on from it which i kind of got upset over.
Have you indicated in some way that it's impacting on your life in a detrimental manner?
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Make? No I wouldnt make anyone do anything. And I like strong independent women. Plus Im not close minded about tattoos and have a couple myself. If a girl had her exes name tattooed on her, Im pretty sure shed want it removed or have new art done over it. And if we were long term, I wouldnt mind chipping in.

 

And if a girl had a problem with any of my tattoos, Id tell her to walk. This girl youre dating is an idiot for not understanding why your tattoo is so important. She wants you to remove your tribute to you deceased friends? DUMP HER!!! Shes beyond disrespectful and insensitive.

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charlietheginger

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Whats next ?

After she changes your tattoo

Whats the next thing she will gripe

About?

 

Get the picture?

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she's asking you if you'd remove a tattoo for your friends that passed away? Thats insensitive and shallow. Next.

 

I also thought this would be a different thread upon reading the title. My ex has done half of my tattoos. And i wouldn't remove them for anyone. Let alone a boyfriend. They are part of me. Part of my story. I've only had one person who cared as much to ask me to remove or cover them and that was my psycho ex who abused me. Kinda goes hand in hand with insecurity and insensitivity.

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alexandria35

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Definitely do not even consider getting the tatoo removed. Do consider your choice of a gf. That she cannot even understand the meaning behind that tatoo and she selfishly wants you to remove it because bothers her to see a dead guys name, tells you a lot about her. She is shallow, insensitive and self absorbed.

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mammasita

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The only situation I would consider removing a tatt is if it was of an EX's name. She's crazy for even asking.

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No, I wouldn't get it removed. It's in honor of your fallen

teammates/friends.

 

No offense, but I find it pretty insensitive of her to make that statement or to request your tattoo be removed.

 

I agree, and would like to add that to me the proper response from your GF should have been, 'cool, it's nice that you have chosen to honor something in your life that means so much to you'

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I would never ask someone to remove a tattoo. Either I accept them as they are, or I don't, in which case I wouldn't enter a relationship with them.

 

I find it very odd (and honestly a bit of a red flag) that she would even ask that.

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No, I wouldn't get it removed. It's in honor of your fallen

teammates/friends.

 

No offense, but I find it pretty insensitive of her to make that statement or to request your tattoo be removed.

 

Agreed. I understand why you got that tattoo.

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