ltensail Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 [font=arial][/font][color=darkblue][/color] Help me with my characters! I'm still studying and in the beginning of this year, I get to know a guy. (for your info. I'm a guy too.) He is very popular as time past and I get to know him more. He is like a magnet, sucking people of both genders. I don't know why I will hate this kind of people because the same kind of case happened to me in 2001 although it's another guy. What I did in 2001 was by avoiding him and thus friendship becomes sort of hatred/rivalry. In 2004, this same thing happens again. I don't want to hate him. Many a times, when he talked to me, I'll take a look at him, shut my mouth tight and continue with what I was doing. I know I'm at the fault and should change my attitude. Firstly, I'm aware of the fact that he is able to attract girls, aLOT! I'm JEALOUS! Well, I hate to be jealous because it's unpleasant. Most of the time, I'll assume that he always purposely find chances to talk to girls, to flirt e.g. he'll find a seat in the class where there's several girls around, stay back in class to talk to girls, ask girls out for movies or shopping etc. Yeah, it's just my assumptions but it's kinda too coincidental. Conclusion: He is a flirt, I hate him! But I also want to attract girls. It kinda contradicts. I'm confuse. Help me out with this part! Please! Secondly, he can also attract guys. My friend is also attracted to him, he always fool with him, run to him to talk but cold to me... Wth...can anyone help me? Who is able to spot my problems? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 Your problem is that you envy people who attract other people. Which itself will make you unattractive. Quit watching what other people do and be your own person - work hard towards being kind, considerate, and fun and you'll attract people of your own. Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted August 6, 2004 Share Posted August 6, 2004 Let me tell you something - women see through that kind of guy very easily. Sure, he's the man's man, the all round popular guy, but often it's just a facade for his own insecurities, and a mature girl will probably find this kind of flightiness, well, irritating and shallow. Do you really want a girl who is attracted that kind of superficial buddy buddy glitter and glitz, or do you want a serious, intelligent and passionate woman who is her own person and does not feel the need to flock together with others to get a sense of selfworth? Link to post Share on other sites
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