No more facebook

[Silly_Girl]

My FB is a happy, happy place. Some old schoolfriends, some of which weren't massive friends at school but are like-minded fun people.... Then some relatives from far away... Friends in other counties/countries/continents... Ex-colleagues (never, ever, EVER current colleagues!)... Forum friends (occasionally), and various other groups. Generally between 80 and 120 people.

 

I have a mini-cull 2 or 3 times a year and the ones who don't really post or who are vastly different in style of using FB to me come off. I have had one 'why'd you take me off?' post so I told him I didn't like the language and didn't think his jokes about a young woman who died of cancer were funny. He got more abusive, merely proving my point. I have taken all but one of my son's friends off, for bad language.

 

It's MY Facebook, and I'll do what I like and if people want to remove me, that's all cool by me. I'd miss it if it went

[Emilia]

He drunk dialed her at 1 a.m. to complain (jokingly) about never hearing from her or seeing her anymore. I was there, & witnessed the call, he wasn't mean at all. She didn't answer, he left a voice mail.

 

The next morning he woke up to a message from her saying to never call her again, and proclaiming that she was "deleting him from Facebook".

 

We were both floored by that....

 

I think a person like that would react similarly regardless of the type of interaction. I mean crazy is crazy. Just for the record I don't have dramatic fb defriending situations, nor drunk dials

[Emilia]

My FB is a happy, happy place. Some old schoolfriends, some of which weren't massive friends at school but are like-minded fun people.... Then some relatives from far away... Friends in other counties/countries/continents... Ex-colleagues (never, ever, EVER current colleagues!)... Forum friends (occasionally), and various other groups. Generally between 80 and 120 people.

 

I have a mini-cull 2 or 3 times a year and the ones who don't really post or who are vastly different in style of using FB to me come off. I have had one 'why'd you take me off?' post so I told him I didn't like the language and didn't think his jokes about a young woman who died of cancer were funny. He got more abusive, merely proving my point. I have taken all but one of my son's friends off, for bad language.

 

It's MY Facebook, and I'll do what I like and if people want to remove me, that's all cool by me. I'd miss it if it went

 

See? I like your posts. We are like-minded people

[BehindBlueEyes]

I'm not going to knock FB like I usually do and it has some use I suppose, but if you feel addicted to it, spend more than two hours a day on it religiously....then get rid of it.

 

I have always said the internet and especially forums/FB are like a pacifier or security blanket for people who are lonely or need something to occupy their inactive lives, things that made me addicted to forums and such.

 

I found out getting outside again, doing **** outside and otherwise anything but computer, greatly cut out my addictiopn to be on the internet for hours on end.

Start improving your time away from a coumputer and eventually the crave to be on here will diminish.

 

I'm a 24/7 internet addicted dweeb that has purposely cut his addiction to a few hours once a week or two....and I have been damn loyal to my rule as everyone here can see in recent months.

[freestyle]

I'm not going to knock FB like I usually do and it has some use I suppose, but if you feel addicted to it, spend more than two hours a day on it religiously....then get rid of it.

 

I have always said the internet and especially forums/FB are like a pacifier or security blanket for people who are lonely or need something to occupy their inactive lives, things that made me addicted to forums and such.

 

I found out getting outside again, doing **** outside and otherwise anything but computer, greatly cut out my addictiopn to be on the internet for hours on end.

Start improving your time away from a coumputer and eventually the crave to be on here will diminish.

 

I'm a 24/7 internet addicted dweeb that has purposely cut his addiction to a few hours once a week or two....and I have been damn loyal to my rule as everyone here can see in recent months.

 

 

It does seem like you're doing well with that......

It can be addictive at times--I have to curb myself, too.

Glad to hear you're doing better.

[melodymatters]

This is SUCH an interesting sociological concept, I almost wonder if aliens started it and watch from their planet sort of like the "Truman Show" ?

 

I have what many would consider " AN UNFAIR FB SITUATION" ! LOL. I have one, he deleted his recently.

 

Here's why :

 

1)I am older than my husband and my friends are far more intellectual. Sorry, but the people I went to school with are linking articles they wrote for the NY Times and such, his HS buddies are posing in naughty nurse costumes, making duck faces with their 3 kids from different dads.

 

2) My friends and family respect our marital boundries, his get drunk, flirt, insult me and our marriage etc.

 

3) His ex GF actually made a fake page pretending to be my H to PM his EX EX GF to say we were getting a divorce, I mean really ? After over a year of marriage you're still stalking us ? Then the EX ex's brother started with the negative PM's,THEN my H's actual sister who is friends with the ex ex, started tagging photo's of him and the ex together from like prom years ago !?! it's beyond insane how bored these people must be.

 

4) I have my business page linked to my personal page and there are SO many networking contacts I would lose if I were to deactivate.

 

So yeah, like guns, cars and booze, it's HOW you use it that make it dangerous and or disgusting, or a neat tool to make life easier.

 

BTW, My husband is NOT a scumbag, he just came from a very small midwestern town where it seems like the main hobbies are dropping out of HS, smoking meth and having as many illegitimate kids as possible before you hit legal drinking age. He moved away to better himself and I like to think that he is doing so with me. He says if he was to go back to his hometown, no one would even recognize him. ( Not so much physically, but in how much his attitudes and cultural perceptions have shifted.) He says I make him a better person, and that he loves who he is with me, and how good he feels about himself.

 

Facebook: Yet another thing one should probably need a license for before you go out and ruin a bunch of lives !

[BehindBlueEyes]

It does seem like you're doing well with that..

 

Went from posting every day for at least a couple hours to 4 times a month(once a week)

 

so....yah....been doing well with it. I don't even have my own computer anymore I borrow moms.

 

Having a computer out of easy access helps a lot...out of site out of mind

[SerCay]

Just wanted to say..FB can also become a battle of wills between couples and ruin relationships!! As in, It's just FB why won't you list me? and then the other says : Yes, it's just FB makes no sense, why do I have to list you!

 

Happened to me!

[Leegh]

I think sometimes it's best NOT to know everything about everyone. I think you made the correct decision. Several years ago, I looked up old boyfriends, etc., and several of the guys that I had liked had married, etc., and I almost wish I never knew that information. It makes it harder to move fully past old times, (that were not great) and having a lot of "what if" thoughts. I think there are some great things about Facebook, and some not so great things about Facebook, and it can be almost overwhelming. I think you will have less stress in your life now, since there is one less thing to do, (checking Facebook).

[wheream_i]

It's all just madness that doesn't amount to jack sh*t. FB is even mentioned in many divorce cases nowadays.

 

That's the worst thing about it now. I hear ads from divorce lawyers on the radio now and FB is the first thing mentioned. Don't post about negative things about your ex or your situation. How horrible is that?! Adults need to be told how to act online.

 

I applaud you. I'm a musician so by this point in time I kind of need it for exposure and to get calls for freelance work. But that also means I'm home all day long with not much else to do so what happens? Keeping an eye on that stupid globe.

[Eternal Sunshine]

I LOVE Facebook. I lived in 3 different countries and changed schools a lot. Facebook lets me see what my old school buddies are up to, their families, their lives. Realistically, I would have never seen any of that if it wasn't for Facebook.

 

The only drama I really had was when I was with my ex and we had relationship status on our pages. We also had 1000s of pics of us together. When we broke up, tons of people commented and tried to guess the reasons why things ended. Everyone thought we were the perfect couple and we appeared so in public but except for LS, nobody knew what went on behind closed doors. I was in bad place then and didn't need people gossiping. I now hide my relationship status - lesson learned.

 

I look forward to checking out Facebook every day during my down time. Sure, I am happy when lots of people like my statuses and pictures but it doesn't affect me really when they don't. I chat with shadowplay every day on there (although we were in touch by other means too).

 

I am not upset at other people doing well nor feel the need to compete. Only people that unfriend me are people that I never or barely interact with and it's fair enough. I only unfriend exes when I feel that seeing their pictures with other girls causes me emotional distress.

 

Few weeks back, a guy found me that lived in my street in my country of birth when I was 0-7 years old. We used to play together and it's fun chatting to him.

 

My brother is now in LA with his gf and I enjoy seeing the pictures they post....

 

FB has been nothing but positive for me

[YorickBrown]

I was about to go on loooooooong rant about the "evils" of FB and how its really the devil in disguise (what kinda page only has "Likes" in them?!? good or bad, ugly or beautiful, smart or idiotic ---its the same you can only "Like" them) and whoever's running it is the next anti-christ (i read he's going after children already)....but...I just dont have the energy anymore...

It's because of FB that my life is spiralling into misery, doubt, self-pity, anger, regret...*****! and I DONT EVEN HAVE AN FB anymore...One of my relatives just called up a few weeks back and "planted into my brain" that my ex-gf could have borne my first baby...Wtf! and all because of FB...F*ckng B1tch:mad: making me look like a dead-beat/no-good ex-bf when she's the one who betrayed me. Now i have to go back and fix it...<sigh> I thought all she wanted was for me to be out of her life, which I did quite peacefully and with no drama...and she stupidly pulls me back in using FB?!? F*ckng Brilliant! I just cant let this go...i just cant...

[Woggle]

Sometimes I really think it is a way for big brother to spy on us. Look at all those employers that use it to spy on their employees. I would rather not have my business out there like that.

[TheUnthoughtKnown]

I find Facebook such a strange thing. On the one hand, I hate it. I truly do. But on the other I can't stay away from it sometimes. It's like punishing myself for something I'm not sure I did. All I ever see on my Fb is people talking about is their holiday in the Carribean or the nights out they've had, or the new car they've bought. All I can think is, "where the f*ck did these people get all this money?" I mean, they're supposed to be my peers; school friends, neighbourhood friends, family etc, they all do pretty much what I do yet my Fb indicates their lives must all be some never ending Disneyland adventure! I've blocked so many people now. If I was to delete those whose status updates I truly did not care about or specifically did not want to see, I'd be left with about 10 friends. To put that into perspective for you, I have close to 400 "Friends" on it. Now that's a helluva lot of people I don't care about.

 

So why do I keep going back?

 

I feel like an abused spouse who refuses to admit they need to get away. All I ever do is get annoyed and upset about posts I read and compare myself to these people, with me coming off worse every single time. But you sometimes get funny posts, or good banter, plus you keep up-to date with your friends and family whom you can't see very often for whatever reason, and if I deleted it there'd be a lot of people I'd lose touch with...

[Drseussgrrl]

Well it's been about 3 weeks since I deactivated my page and can't say I miss it ONE BIT. My social life is the same as it was before. Now I actually pick up the damn phone and call/text people.

 

I think it's so easy to think everyone on FB has this fantastic life. But I mean really how many people are going to post that their sex life sucks or they're behind on rent. It's a highlighted reel of people's lives meant to validate themselves.

 

"All I ever do is get annoyed and upset about posts I read and compare myself to these people, with me coming off worse every single time."

 

^^ Yep, this. I used to get anxiety from sh*t I saw on Facebook. And for what? Now, I don't have that problem. Pretty damn awesome.

[KatZee]

I personally love Facebook. And I don't use it to brag or post about my person life or sex life... I see others doing that ALLLL the time and their pathetic cries for attention. It's kind of sad how some people use it.

 

You say that you had 500 people you barely knew. Why didn't you do a clean sweep of your friends? I do that regularly, where I'll get rid of people I barely know, from a past time in my life, don't speak to, people that creep me out.

 

I mainly love FB b/c I'm addicted to some games, love the MEME's that circle around, and I actually like posting news links to get some good debates going on occasion.

[Drseussgrrl]

I personally love Facebook. And I don't use it to brag or post about my person life or sex life... I see others doing that ALLLL the time and their pathetic cries for attention. It's kind of sad how some people use it.

 

You say that you had 500 people you barely knew. Why didn't you do a clean sweep of your friends? I do that regularly, where I'll get rid of people I barely know, from a past time in my life, don't speak to, people that creep me out.

 

I mainly love FB b/c I'm addicted to some games, love the MEME's that circle around, and I actually like posting news links to get some good debates going on occasion.

 

No, I never used it to post about anything negative, ever. Just jokes, photos, articles, etc.

 

I just don't really feel the need to be back on it, even if I was to sweep out people I don't talk to. I honestly just love not having it anymore. Don't think I'll ever go back. I do have a twitter account (I hardly ever tweet) but I use that mainly to see what's trending in the news, etc. and I like it much better.

[KatZee]

No, I never used it to post about anything negative, ever. Just jokes, photos, articles, etc.

 

I just don't really feel the need to be back on it, even if I was to sweep out people I don't talk to. I honestly just love not having it anymore. Don't think I'll ever go back. I do have a twitter account (I hardly ever tweet) but I use that mainly to see what's trending in the news, etc. and I like it much better.

 

Oh man. I could never. I tried Deactivating once, and then I hopped on the computer and tried to play SIMS and I was like DAMMIT IT'S ON FACEBOOK. Thus ended my 2 hour Deactivation of Facebook. LOL.

[Drseussgrrl]

Oh man. I could never. I tried Deactivating once, and then I hopped on the computer and tried to play SIMS and I was like DAMMIT IT'S ON FACEBOOK. Thus ended my 2 hour Deactivation of Facebook. LOL.

 

Haha yeah I know what you mean - I thought I could never get rid of facebook, either. It started out just kind of being an experiment. There was facebook, and a few other things in my life that I finally felt weren't good for me, so I promised I would try 30 days without any of them.

 

So far, so good.

[KatZee]

Haha yeah I know what you mean - I thought I could never get rid of facebook, either. It started out just kind of being an experiment. There was facebook, and a few other things in my life that I finally felt weren't good for me, so I promised I would try 30 days without any of them.

 

So far, so good.

 

That's good though if you feel it wasn't good for you.

 

I personally just boot all negativity off my page. I keep whiners, and drama queens and braggers and all those nasty people off. Or if you're an obnoxious friend, I unsubscribe to you. For me, FB doesn't really "affect" me or my life. It's more about collecting my daily gift from SIMS, Bush Whacker and this new Mobsters game I'm addicted to. Grrr. lol.

[freestyle]

Sometimes I really think it is a way for big brother to spy on us. Look at all those employers that use it to spy on their employees. I would rather not have my business out there like that.

 

I'm inclined to agree with you on this , Wogs--there could definitely be Orwellian implications, in having a site that stores that much personal info on people. It could be misused.

[KatZee]

I'm inclined to agree with you on this , Wogs--there could definitely be Orwellian implications, in having a site that stores that much personal info on people. It could be misused.

 

Employers and other people can only spy on you if you let them. My account is personally unsearchable. If someone tries to type my name in, nothing comes up. It's also super locked down and the only thing that's "public" are the cover photos, and 99.9% of those aren't even of me.

[freestyle]

Are you aware that some employers are demanding to see a FB page, before they hire someone? I've read articles, and caught a blurb on news radio as well.

 

That's what bothers me the most---

[KatZee]

Are you aware that some employers are demanding to see a FB page, before they hire someone? I've read articles, and caught a blurb on news radio as well.

 

That's what bothers me the most---

 

OK, well if someone ever "demanded" to see a FB profile I would tell them I didn't have one, tell them to knock themselves out trying to find something, and honestly if someone was that invasive with my privacy, I wouldn't want to work for them anyway. If you're that interested in me, I'll direct you to my LinkedIn account.

[TheUnthoughtKnown]

Are you aware that some employers are demanding to see a FB page, before they hire someone? I've read articles, and caught a blurb on news radio as well.

 

That's what bothers me the most---

 

That just reminded me - I worked in a nightclub a few years back and one time the manager started interviewing new staff. I thought nothing of it till I saw him on Fb in work and gave him a bit of stick for Fbing on company time. He responded that he was putting it to company use: he was checking the Fb of each interviewee and the one with the most "Friends" were the ones he was going to hire.

 

How ridiculous is that?! Why do people use Fb as a measure of themselves?