Teddi Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 hey....this is a very complicated situation...but ill try to slim it down.. basically...i absolutley hate living at home....im 20....hardly a penny to my name (starting college soon)..i live in quite a remote area...i.e...no estates beside me....single houses....not alot of people my age around me... ive lived where i live for around 15 years now...for the past 5..ive hated it!... im far from an angry person......always upbeat.....social.....etc....but i honestly think due to my remoteness....it has killed a severe part of my life... but ill get back to that... my mum and dad CANNOT communicate.....30% of the time they get along...there is no 'man' of the house...due to my dads pity willness to try and change anything... my mum and dad fight over the smallest little thing...my mum..always making my dad out to be the stupid one....she ALWAYS makes herself out to be right all the time...no matter what! im a pretty sensotive guy and when they fight...like i have for the past few years...always find myself cowering in my room..letting it blow over.....im sick of this... to add...im not the confrontational person..i hate it.... what happens in our family is when a problem comes up...we try to see in through rose tinted glasses and let it blow over..NOT solving it but purely wanting not to deal with it.... they keep cropping up over and over and puts a huge strain on our family... my brother is in his late 20's and still at home.....this alone is a problem for the family....i wnt get into that though... my dad is a big softy...always letting things pass him by....not giving a care in the world about the familys problems....and when in an argument..goes totally defensive and nothing ends up working out....my mum..totally strong headed brings them up all the time..and always ends up a mess.... ive one sis and one bro..both older.......they have their lifes pretty much sorted out..me only starting college.....im going into art...ive to trek into college everyday which is miles off........coming home...stressed out with work.....to deal with this crap.....i wont and i cant deal with this stuff during college years....... i know ill end up on depressants or suicide.....and im serious about that......not only that.....personal problems are still there.....insecuritys etc... is there anyone out there with a similiar situation?.........shed some light?....i know its long and all....if there is anything your curious about..just ask.. thanks a bunch Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 I was in a similar situation myself at your age living at home with a dysfunctional family. In ours my immediate older brother was quite destructive & living at home at tearing the family apart. Quite honestly, the thing which worked for me was to move out of the house & leave them all to it. Funnily enough at the time I had just applied to attend an art college so moving out meant I had to give that a miss & join the working world. I never did get to that art college but I have no regrets. Link to post Share on other sites
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