What constitutes cheating? (longer list of behaviors never seen before)

[Rentz]

I have been reading a lot of posts on what people think constitutes cheating and am very interested to see very short lists of behaviors to pick from so I thought that I would come up with a more comprehensive list and get your opinions and preferences on the matter. Imagine your significant other is engaging in these behaviors either with a stranger or with a friend of theirs. Indicate whether maybe some of these behavior would be okay with a friend and not with a stranger or neither one. This is for straight and queer people. Keep in mind if your gay or lesbian, the person would be another male or female.

 

 

First of all can people answer if they consider these behaviors cheating or not cheating and secondly, tell us about your comfort level if your significant other engaged in these behaviors. For example, if it would make you feel:

 

 

1.extremely comfortable

2.very comfortable

3.slightly comfortable

4.slightly uncomfortable

5.very uncomfortable

6.devastated

 

 

You can just use the numbers from above to indicate your comfort level.

Keep in mind that all of these behaviors are intentional not by accident.

 

 

Kissing

1. kiss on the cheek

2. kiss on the lips (a short peck)

3. kiss with tounge

 

 

Physical Contact

1. Hug (i.e. when meeting and saying goodbye)

2. A long hug

3. Cuddling

4. Spooning

5. Dancing without any bumping and grinding

6. Dancing with bumping and grinding

7. Lap dance from a stripper or other person

8. Back massage

9. Full body massage

10. Playing footsie

 

 

Flirting

1. Flirting with a friend

2. Flirting with a stranger

 

 

Sleeping

1. Sleeping in the same bed without physical contact

2. Sleeping in the same bed with physical contact (for example hugging, cuddling, spooning)

3. Sleeping in the same bed with kissing and physical contact (see above)

4. Sleeping in the same bed in the nude without physical contact

5. Sleeping in the same bed and having sexual contact

 

 

Sex

1. Oral sex

2. Digital stimulation (fingering) Hand Stimulation (hand job)

3. Conventional sex with penetration or genital contact (penis/vagina, vagina/vagina, penis/anus)

 

 

Nudity

1. Being naked in the presence of another person

2. Both parties being naked (w/o contact)

3. Showering with another person (w/o contact)

4. Showering with another person (w contact)

5. Attending a strip club (w/o contact)

 

 

Masturbation

1. One person masturbating in front of another

2. Mutual masturbation (w/o contact)

3. Mutual masturbation (with contact)

 

Thanks for your help!

[cinnamonstix49]

Personally I feel that all of the mentioned things should be classified as "cheating" with the exception of a hug and maybe a kiss on the cheek of a best friend or family member. I would think that most people feel the same as me, that most of the mentioned things (i.e. sex) were very obvious and should be common knowledge that they are "cheating".

[honey2005]

Kissing

1. kiss on the cheek - No, but only with a friend. (1)

2. kiss on the lips (a short peck) - Eehh....I dunno (4)

3. kiss with tounge - Yes (5)

 

 

Physical Contact

1. Hug (i.e. when meeting and saying goodbye) -No with friend (1)

2. A long hug - No with friend (2)

3. Cuddling - Yes (4)

4. Spooning - Yes (4)

5. Dancing without any bumping and grinding - No (2)

6. Dancing with bumping and grinding - Yes (5)

7. Lap dance from a stripper or other person - Yes (5)

8. Back massage - No if it's professional or by me (2)

9. Full body massage -Same as above (3)

10. Playing footsie - Yes (3)

 

 

Flirting

1. Flirting with a friend - No (1)

2. Flirting with a stranger -I don't know (3)

 

 

Sleeping

1. Sleeping in the same bed without physical contact - No (2)

2. Sleeping in the same bed with physical contact (for example hugging, cuddling, spooning) - Yes (4)

3. Sleeping in the same bed with kissing and physical contact (see above) - Yes (5)

4. Sleeping in the same bed in the nude without physical contact - Yes (3)

5. Sleeping in the same bed and having sexual contact - Yes (5)

 

 

Sex

1. Oral sex - Yes (6)

2. Digital stimulation (fingering) Hand Stimulation (hand job) - Yes (6)

3. Conventional sex with penetration or genital contact (penis/vagina, vagina/vagina, penis/anus) Yes (6)

 

 

Nudity

1. Being naked in the presence of another person - Yes (3)

2. Both parties being naked (w/o contact) - Yes (4)

3. Showering with another person (w/o contact) - Yes (4)

4. Showering with another person (w contact) - Yes (5)

5. Attending a strip club (w/o contact) - Yes (unless I was there with him) (4)

 

 

Masturbation

1. One person masturbating in front of another - Yes (5)

2. Mutual masturbation (w/o contact) - Yes (5)

3. Mutual masturbation (with contact) - Yes (6)

[Rentz]

Thanks for all of your responses and honesty, Honey2005

 

I hope that more people come and give me more input because these are things that couples should discuss before they get themselves into weird situations and regret it.

[honey2005]

anytime:p

[reservoirdog1]

Kissing

1. kiss on the cheek NO 2

2. kiss on the lips (a short peck) NO 3 (but iffy)

3. kiss with tounge YES 5

 

 

Physical Contact

1. Hug (i.e. when meeting and saying goodbye) NO 1

2. A long hug NO 2 (but really good friend only)

3. Cuddling YES 5

4. Spooning YES 5

5. Dancing without any bumping and grinding NO 1

6. Dancing with bumping and grinding NO 4

7. Lap dance from a stripper or other person YES 5

8. Back massage NO 4

9. Full body massage YES 5

10. Playing footsie NO 4

 

 

Flirting

1. Flirting with a friend NO 3 (but dangerous)

2. Flirting with a stranger NO 4

 

 

Sleeping

1. Sleeping in the same bed without physical contact NO 4 (too dangerous)

2. Sleeping in the same bed with physical contact (for example hugging, cuddling, spooning) YES 5

3. Sleeping in the same bed with kissing and physical contact (see above) YES 6

4. Sleeping in the same bed in the nude without physical contact YES 6

5. Sleeping in the same bed and having sexual contact YES 6

 

 

Sex

1. Oral sex YES 6

2. Digital stimulation (fingering) Hand Stimulation (hand job) YES 6

3. Conventional sex with penetration or genital contact (penis/vagina, vagina/vagina, penis/anus) YES 6

 

 

Nudity

1. Being naked in the presence of another person YES 5 (less so if others are there too)

2. Both parties being naked (w/o contact) YES 5

3. Showering with another person (w/o contact) YES 5

4. Showering with another person (w contact) YES 5

5. Attending a strip club (w/o contact) NO 1

 

 

Masturbation

1. One person masturbating in front of another YES 5

2. Mutual masturbation (w/o contact) YES 6

3. Mutual masturbation (with contact) YES 6

[Rentz]

Thanks resevoir!

[elias]

I think you should add a few more under the Masturbation category

 

4. Looking at nude pictures (w/o contact)

5. Looking at nude pictures (with contact)

6. Watching porn (w/o contact)

7. Watching porn (with contact)