Zelias Posted November 17, 2012 Share Posted November 17, 2012 "You have to portray self confidence" "Be a Man" "I only see us as friends" "You're a nice guy" "Hey Buddy" We've all heard this once, twice, or even the 10th time or more, but let's get real here, unless you have the genes and the right game, you can sweep girls off, no problem. But most of us do not have that unfortunately. Most people will tell you that in order to ask a girl out, you have to have self confidence, well what the heck does that mean? take my word for it, the whole confidence thing is BS talk, let me tell you what it means, you see, confidence comes and goes, it's natural in human nature, it's something you feel when you accomplished things, sort of an energizer for your body, feeling of success in a way, however, when you are at a moment of going up to a woman and asking her out or something, confidence does not play a role, you just have to have balls to do it, that's it, if let's say you succeeded in talking with her, you will feel much more confident afterwards because you accomplished something, that's what confidence is, anybody tell you otherwise is wrong, You're a nice guy Remember when you liked a girl, you became friends with her and started treating her nicely, later you asked her out, she said, "you're a nice guy" in other words, "you're too much of a P u s s y for me, no thanks, I'm going to go find me a bad boy, an alpha, someone who will treat me like s h i t, and although I will feel like a pawn, I'm still going to be with him, because I think I can change him for a better good" yeah, that one, listen to me, anytime a girl tells you those words, act serious, give a fake laughter, turn away from her eyes and say, "have a good life" never contact her, wipe her existence away from you forever, she is not your friend, to her, you're a tool, nothing more, move on, simple as that. Be a Man what does this mean, ACT like a male, forget the whole alpha male BS, forget all that, it's non sense talk, the only person who has alpha male genes is Bruce Wayne, THE GOD DAMN BATMAN, instead, have class, know when to act calm and remain cool. Here is a tip, when you are around people you've never met, try not to talk as much, just say who you are, a few hello's and keep quiet, women like quiet mysterious type, not all, most do, believe me it works, tried it myself. I only see us as friends B U L L S H I T, when a girl tell you that, tell her this, " I must apologize to you, but I have enough friends in my party, you and I were never friends and never will be." end of story, walk away, she starts blabbing, keep walking, maybe, just maybe, she might come back around and have interest in you again, never know Hey Buddy This S H I T pisses me of good, and I mean real F U C K I N G good, got plenty of these in my life time, BTW, I'm 24, just thought you ought to know, anyway, back to the buddy part, when a girl tells you this, or "hey friend" "look who it is, my favorite buddy" this is the point of crossing lines, this is what you will do, pull her aside, tell her this, "I'm not your buddy, we are not anything to each other, so please save me the BS and cut the whole BUDDY s h i t out, call me by my real name, that's what names are for, you got it?" if you want to go further, complete it with, "you psychopathic B I T C H" there you go, oh S H I T, forgot the whole point of my discussion Pros for having a GF -Sex -someone who can cook -she can clean -feel the power of love with someone -have someone to talk to -and sex, don't know if I mentioned this one yet Cons -don't have to deal with her S H I T -don't have to listen someone nag about her day -PERIODS -no kids ( if you wanted any in the first place) -no sex -no compassion -no love -you have all the time in the world to play Call of Duty and Halo -and no sex, don't know if I mentioned this one yet 1 Link to post Share on other sites
allenpo123 Posted November 17, 2012 Share Posted November 17, 2012 Wow. So having a gf is mostly about having sex huh... Well, I don't blame you, you're a guy. But if you want sex that bad, maybe you could try doing 1 night stands. There are girls looking for that too. Or friends with benefits, whatever rows your boat. Link to post Share on other sites
dinosaur Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 You're going to be alone forever or just have a string of horrible relationships if this is really how you view women. Having females friends is actually a really great bonus - they can help you meet new people and give you great advice. Lots of my guy friends have found their girlfriends either due to me or another female friend. Think about it: girls hang out with girls. I'm not so sure you should have a girlfriend right now though. You should work on your insecurity issues and perhaps try to talk to a professional about how you feel. Eventually try to approach girls more casually because you obviously don't know how to consider them as human instead of potential girlfriends. You're not going to get with every girl you meet, some of them are just going to be your friend, and if you can't deal with that you should probably just buy a mail order bride and avoid all other women. You keep saying you're the "nice guy" but obviously you're not and girls can definitely sniff out that bitterness. It's sad to think you have this much entitlement to a girlfriend because in reality the reason you feel this way is because of the way you view other people. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Nik1 Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 (edited) The best part of having a girlfriend for me was having someone who I could truly feel comfortable around, be myself, and share my deepest thoughts with. Blowjobs were pretty nice too, I miss those. I don't think I'll ever find anyone who did them as well or as frequently as my ex. Edited November 18, 2012 by Nik1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
volentia Posted November 19, 2012 Share Posted November 19, 2012 have you ever lost your car keys and found them when you wern't looking?? yes it's tough out there, frustrating and lonely...and It's when your not looking that you usually find what you seek. Link to post Share on other sites
Hawakai Posted November 19, 2012 Share Posted November 19, 2012 (edited) "You have to portray self confidence" "Be a Man" "I only see us as friends" "You're a nice guy" "Hey Buddy" We've all heard this once, twice, or even the 10th time or more, but let's get real here, unless you have the genes and the right game, you can sweep girls off, no problem. But most of us do not have that unfortunately. Most people will tell you that in order to ask a girl out, you have to have self confidence, well what the heck does that mean? take my word for it, the whole confidence thing is BS talk, let me tell you what it means, you see, confidence comes and goes, it's natural in human nature, it's something you feel when you accomplished things, sort of an energizer for your body, feeling of success in a way, however, when you are at a moment of going up to a woman and asking her out or something, confidence does not play a role, you just have to have balls to do it, that's it, if let's say you succeeded in talking with her, you will feel much more confident afterwards because you accomplished something, that's what confidence is, anybody tell you otherwise is wrong, You're a nice guy Remember when you liked a girl, you became friends with her and started treating her nicely, later you asked her out, she said, "you're a nice guy" in other words, "you're too much of a P u s s y for me, no thanks, I'm going to go find me a bad boy, an alpha, someone who will treat me like s h i t, and although I will feel like a pawn, I'm still going to be with him, because I think I can change him for a better good" yeah, that one, listen to me, anytime a girl tells you those words, act serious, give a fake laughter, turn away from her eyes and say, "have a good life" never contact her, wipe her existence away from you forever, she is not your friend, to her, you're a tool, nothing more, move on, simple as that. Be a Man what does this mean, ACT like a male, forget the whole alpha male BS, forget all that, it's non sense talk, the only person who has alpha male genes is Bruce Wayne, THE GOD DAMN BATMAN, instead, have class, know when to act calm and remain cool. Here is a tip, when you are around people you've never met, try not to talk as much, just say who you are, a few hello's and keep quiet, women like quiet mysterious type, not all, most do, believe me it works, tried it myself. I only see us as friends B U L L S H I T, when a girl tell you that, tell her this, " I must apologize to you, but I have enough friends in my party, you and I were never friends and never will be." end of story, walk away, she starts blabbing, keep walking, maybe, just maybe, she might come back around and have interest in you again, never know Hey Buddy This S H I T pisses me of good, and I mean real F U C K I N G good, got plenty of these in my life time, BTW, I'm 24, just thought you ought to know, anyway, back to the buddy part, when a girl tells you this, or "hey friend" "look who it is, my favorite buddy" this is the point of crossing lines, this is what you will do, pull her aside, tell her this, "I'm not your buddy, we are not anything to each other, so please save me the BS and cut the whole BUDDY s h i t out, call me by my real name, that's what names are for, you got it?" if you want to go further, complete it with, "you psychopathic B I T C H" there you go, oh S H I T, forgot the whole point of my discussion Pros for having a GF -Sex -someone who can cook -she can clean -feel the power of love with someone -have someone to talk to -and sex, don't know if I mentioned this one yet Cons -don't have to deal with her S H I T -don't have to listen someone nag about her day -PERIODS -no kids ( if you wanted any in the first place) -no sex -no compassion -no love -you have all the time in the world to play Call of Duty and Halo -and no sex, don't know if I mentioned this one yet Yeah, it does suck in your teens and 20's to be without female ''companionship'' but as you enter your 30's you look around and you notice that your buddy is looking older than he should have looked. You see that your friends are never with money. They never have the time to go out with you because their wives/girlfriends don't let you. When the children are born they are pretty much screwed for life. Walking atm until the divorce; then its alimony and child-support mine. No, thanks. When the sex drive is at its highest and the fascination for the opposite sex(women) is also at its highest most men are ignored. Who wants to pick-up the leftovers? But guys are so dependent on pleasing women to make their self-worth rise, you'll see guys who'll confess to having been destroyed by their ex-wives/girlfriends but they still consider it as a positive experience and continue to pursue women. And these guys have the right to vote? LOL. You're going to be alone forever or just have a string of horrible relationships if this is really how you view women. Having females friends is actually a really great bonus - they can help you meet new people and give you great advice. Lots of my guy friends have found their girlfriends either due to me or another female friend. Think about it: girls hang out with girls. Female advice on women is like asking the dentist how to build a house by hand and on your own. Women give the advice they want men to believe in. Be charming. Be her friend. Carry her books. Offer to cook her dinner. Well, hello ther MR. Friendzone. Hope you enjoy that sexual frustration while she bangs a guy who cares not for her. The female friend subject is tricky. I have a couple of great friends from the opposite sex and I know they have other guy friends, but they never introduced those guys to their girlfriends. Why get rid of a source of attention? Edited November 19, 2012 by Hawakai Link to post Share on other sites
soccerrprp Posted November 19, 2012 Share Posted November 19, 2012 Want a girlfriend?- YES. Working on it...so far so good... Link to post Share on other sites
BklynGuy Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 I've had good & bad relationships. Girls do give you the advice on what they want. I had 1 girl where she changed my entire dress code & was somewhat abusive. I have been told I'm "too nice" but when I show a little mean, the girls get mad. I had another girl that was trying to get me into street fights in the middle of the city while at work. When I backed out she tells me "I need to learn the measure of a man". She was the source of so much trouble I quit my job. I'm glad I stuck to my own rules because I would've been the one in jail, not her. Speaking of that, she tried to have me arrested after I stopped talking to her. Meanwhile, I never told her where I lived. I saw her creeping around my house in a car hiding behind tinted windows. She was a little stalker. I think about her now & I'm so glad I left because she could've ruined my life. We weren't even bf & gf, more like we just hooked up. Do I want a gf?Yes, all the bs & problems I'm learning to avoid. Link to post Share on other sites
pbjbear Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Remember when you liked a girl, you became friends with her and started treating her nicely, later you asked her out, she said, "you're a nice guy" in other words, "you're too much of a P u s s y for me, no thanks, I'm going to go find me a bad boy, an alpha, someone who will treat me like s h i t, and although I will feel like a pawn, I'm still going to be with him, because I think I can change him for a better good" yeah, that one, listen to me, anytime a girl tells you those words, act serious, give a fake laughter, turn away from her eyes and say, "have a good life" never contact her, wipe her existence away from you forever, she is not your friend, to her, you're a tool, nothing more, move on, simple as that. If women have done this stuff constantly to you- I dont blame you for being negative. However I bolded the first sentence because I would love for that to happen. I tend to fall harder for guys Im friends with first. I dunno, prob just not a super trusting person or something and need to feel comfortable first but its true. The majority of men Im friends with that Im interested in have not done these things and I would not describe them as an "alpha male" When I was younger I didnt understand the terms beta and alpha male and went for alpha males and got screwed over and mistreated by most. I think a mixture of both qualities is healthy but I cannot date a man who is pure alpha and have constantly turned down men like this in the past few years...actually the second I start feeling like Im someones pawn I check out Link to post Share on other sites
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