Only bigger women have been into me.

[ThaWholigan]

I think he needs to stop only looking for dates in his school. IMO

That too - but if he's a 'loner' then he's likely not gonna want to do that. School is convenient.

 

Still, he wants "specific" advice about these situations, but we cannot really give it to him unless we know every single dynamic regarding the situation. All I can give him is to be bold and just start asking girls out.

[veggirl]

His focus is extremely narrow. He wants to know how to date thin, pretty, 20 year old girls; unfortunately the likelihood of that happening, no matter what he does or how he changes, is not very good. It’s very, very unlikely, in fact. Young college girls generally do not hang out with men 10 years older than themselves. They have a social circle already and he’s not a part of it, nor would they want him to be, and SD simply won't accept that.

 

Actually he mentioned in this very thread 20-29 yr olds. I do agree that a 22 yr old is not really where his focus should be at, and I know he is stuck on the younger 20 thing not because of how they look or whatever but because he perceives them to be on the same "wave length" if you will as him....meaning the possibility of them being inexperienced like he is is greater than a woman of 28 being as inexperienced. He has actually said that many times.

 

There’s really nothing to tell him when it comes to what he wants because it’s not going to happen.

 

SD is misguided in thinking that an early 20s girl would be the best match for him but I don't see him as being like....creepy and predatory like how other people portray him. He assumes a woman with experience would not be interested in him because he lacks it, and I think he needs to change that way of thinking for sure, but again he mentioned 29 yrs old in this thread.

 

I don’t think SD is some weirdo who causes people to grab their children when he walks by. I think he could do just fine with dating if he tried a different, more broad approach, but he absolutely WILL NOT try anything new whatsoever.

 

I wish he would try OLD, but in general I think he puts himself out there more than anyone is willing to give him credit for. Anyway different perceptions, I guess.

 

I don't see SD as a woman-hating guy like a lot of people do. I haven't gotten the impression that he wants a younger girl because of how they look at all. Yes we all know his ideal physical type lol, but he has also said many many many times that he would be happy (physically) with a girl who is averagely cute. That is never acknowledged, instead he is accused of only wanting petite girls with bouncy boobs and stomachs you could bounce a quarter off of.

[Meeks7]

I don’t see a lot of negative posts here. We offer genuine advice, like you did—OLD and interacting with coworkers next year has been suggested many times—but SD doesn’t want to hear that. He gets very snarky with us for suggesting such things.

 

His focus is extremely narrow. He wants to know how to date thin, pretty, 20 year old girls; unfortunately the likelihood of that happening, no matter what he does or how he changes, is not very good. It’s very, very unlikely, in fact. Young college girls generally do not hang out with men 10 years older than themselves. They have a social circle already and he’s not a part of it, nor would they want him to be, and SD simply won't accept that. A very good looking, highly social 30 year old male college student would have trouble dating 20 year olds, though I don’t think a highly social man would make it his life purpose to do so.

 

There’s really nothing to tell him when it comes to what he wants because it’s not going to happen.

 

I don’t think SD is some weirdo who causes people to grab their children when he walks by. I think he could do just fine with dating if he tried a different, more broad approach, but he absolutely WILL NOT try anything new whatsoever.

 

 

Iris hits it on the head.

 

Who said anything about him not being able to handle an interview? What I meant is the competition is STIFF... it might not be as easy as 1-2-3. It took me FOUR years to find a full time job after graduating with a post-BA degree. It depends on his field and SoCal's competition.

 

Iris is right when she said there aren't a lot of negative posts here. It's just how he interprets posts that don't pat him on the back encouraging him that "everything will work out OK even if you make zero life changes." I think most of us can see that the way he views life right now is not very healthy (or realistic), and we've offered him suggestions on how he can go from where he is to where he wants to be. However, his focus is extremely narrow, and he is looking for validation posts like from VG.

 

Basically, don't rock his boat. Pat him on the back, and he'll be happy.

 

It's an illusion, though. And reality is gonna hit him hard once he's out of college and IF he struggles finding a full time job. Basically, it's best to prepare (yourself for success). Most of the posters here are not going to say "Next year you'll be fine" because of his track record. He's been the same year after year. Graduating won't suddenly change that, though I suppose it couldn't hurt. However, it could be positive OR negative, and we're trying to encourage him to focus on how to make it positive. i.e. get your priorities straight and handle your weaknesses now while you still have time to work on them

[veggirl]

I don't just validate him and he knows that. I gave him my opinion (and have plenty of times) and give him ideas of what I think he should try.

 

For the record I agree with Wholigan that asking out even more girls would awesome of him to do, that is why I suggested OLD and what to leave out of his profile.

 

It's just that everyone jumps on the nuances. like "omg how could you not spend all night hanging out with the fat girl? Obviously the skinny girls noticed THAT. See this is your problem, you don't socialize with people you are not interested in and you do not ask them what their hopes and dreams are"

 

I still stand by that he does not need a large social circle or to be outgoing to be successful. he needs to be around other adults and IMO it will come more naturally (the socializing and actually, the desire to socialize with others). I could be wrong. there ya go.

Edited November 21, 2012 by veggirl

[Meeks7]

Actually he mentioned in this very thread 20-29 yr olds. I do agree that a 22 yr old is not really where his focus should be at, and I know he is stuck on the younger 20 thing not because of how they look or whatever but because he perceives them to be on the same "wave length" if you will as him....meaning the possibility of them being inexperienced like he is is greater than a woman of 28 being as inexperienced. He has actually said that many times.

 

Yes. They are closer on his wavelength, which is why he and 20 year old Danielle had their friendship for 2 years. SomeDude lacks life experience like most 31 year old people have. Or people in their mid 20's, even.

 

So when he gets to the work place and is around people his age, how do you suppose he is going to fare any better, being so far behind in "life experience" ?

 

Which is why most posters here have encouraged him to TAKE ACTION (in various forms... both romantically and non) so that he can start to build and add to his life experiences... so that the playing field will be a little bit more even.

 

His social skills aren't getting any better but he's getting older. That's not a good thing. In fact I remember he posted once maybe 6 months ago about how frustrating it is because he said it seems like his skills have gotten WORSE around women (this was after the Danielle episode went down). It didn't surprise me because one thing I know in life, if you're not practicing your social skills, they will naturally decline... this is true of anybody. Once he lost that connection to Danielle, he had NO ONE to practice being social with, and not surprisingly, that hurt him.

 

Stop thinking. Start doing. Whether it's asking out that random girl he just saw at Starbucks or getting a new therapist or seeking out a calculus tutor... whatever. Just start doing. All this posting on LS, dismissing (sound) advice, and repeating his same routines hasn't done him any favors in the past year.

[ThaWholigan]

I don't just validate him and he knows that. I gave him my opinion (and have plenty of times) and give him ideas of what I think he should try.

 

For the record I agree with Wholigan that asking out even more girls would awesome of him to do, that is why I suggested OLD and what to leave out of his profile.

 

It's just that everyone jumps on the nuances. like "omg how could you not spend all night hanging out with the fat girl? Obviously the skinny girls noticed THAT. See this is your problem, you don't socialize with people you are not interested in and you do not ask them what their hopes and dreams are"

 

I still stand by that he does not need a large social circle or to be outgoing to be successful. he needs to be around other adults and IMO it will come more naturally (the socializing and actually, the desire to socialize with others). I could be wrong. there ya go.

I think things may change for him when he leaves school but he needs to start being bold. He keeps telling himself he is a failure and that is what makes him fail. He needs more of a mentality that he will be OK even if he fails and that he will succeed eventually - and he doesn't need the positive reinforcement of having a GF to do that......and then it will actually be easier for him to get one.

 

I do think he needs better social skills, they can't hurt - but it's not an urgent need and it won't happen overnight. There is no magic pill to get a GF for any of us.

 

I agree, being around some people his own age would be helpful.

[iris219]

SD is misguided in thinking that an early 20s girl would be the best match for him but I don't see him as being like....creepy and predatory like how other people portray him. He assumes a woman with experience would not be interested in him because he lacks it, and I think he needs to change that way of thinking for sure, but again he mentioned 29 yrs old in this thread.

 

I can't decide if he's lazy or just terrified to try anything new or anything that takes him out of his comfort zone. Young girls are the easiest "target" because he's around them everyday. He has to go to school and he's used to it, so it's like killing two birds with one stone. In order to interact with women outside of school, he would have to make more of an effort, and he's not willing to.

 

I wish he would try OLD, but in general I think he puts himself out there more than anyone is willing to give him credit for. Anyway different perceptions, I guess.

 

He won't do OLD. He won't go have a drink at a bar. He won't do Meetup.com groups. I'm not sure what he WILL do.

[tman666]

I am not sure if "most" girls are taken by their late 20s, I see single women of all ages all the time. and I am aware jobs aren't guaranteed but I don't think SD is so mental that he can't handle a friggin job interview, geesh. Give him some credit. As far as dating in the work place, I didn't even suggest that, I said he will be socializing with other adults. My advice was to get done with school and into the work place and THEN see what happens / re-assess, I didn't say everything will magically fall into place. I was getting at the idea that a positive change (job) could kinda snowball other positive things. and I did also suggest OLD.

 

I also predict that things will get better for SD after he graduates and gets a career. Not everyone's dating life peaks in college!

[Meeks7]

I also predict that things will get better for SD after he graduates and gets a career. Not everyone's dating life peaks in college!

 

I absolutely agree, which is why getting that career is all the more important. That should be his main focus right now. But when he posts statements like "I have 6 more months to find a girl. I hope I do, coz if I don't I will have wasted my time" raises an eyebrow and causes some concern about how much he is focused on developing his career vs. having fantasy crushes. I'm not saying one can't do both, but it seems like he is overly focused on the fantasy part, which is only hurting his reality.

 

He needs to get his career down. It'll be easier for him once he does. There will still be uphill battles to be fought, but securing that career would definitely boost his stock, since he doesn't seem interested in boosting it through "social capital."

[somedude81]

Thanks veggirl.

 

Yes there are lots of posts insulting me in this thread. The more hostile ones have been reported and deleted.

 

A lot of the things people have said are just ridiculous and they get pissed off when I disagree with them.

 

As for OLD, I'm not ready for it just yet.

His focus is extremely narrow. He wants to know how to date thin, pretty, 20 year old girls;

Want to know why I want to know how to date those girls?

 

It's because they are who I see and interact with in my daily life. And no I'm not going to deny that I'm attracted to them. Though I'm not only attracted to women in that age range.

SD needs to ask out more women IMO. That's all, nothing more or less. Stop thinking, start doing. Handle the school stuff because that's more important, but if he really wants a GF, just ask them out. All the other stuff about social skills is simply a means to help him better navigate how to ask them out.

 

APPROACH GUIDE | Seduction Myth

 

If it helps, use that.

 

AGAIN.....if you need ANY information, my PM box is always open......

That really is the main thing. I just don't ask out enough girls.

 

Hell I haven't even asked out a girl in like 7 months and twice a week I'm in a room completely surrounded with pretty girls that I get to hold, spin and dip.

 

It all comes down to me not knowing who I should ask out. Should I be asking every girl that I have fun with if they are single?

[Meeks7]

I can't decide if he's lazy or just terrified to try anything new or anything that takes him out of his comfort zone.

 

He won't do OLD. He won't go have a drink at a bar. He won't do Meetup.com groups. I'm not sure what he WILL do.

 

Exactly. I've always likened it to a guy who claims "I really REALLY want a full time job!" but then only hands out 2 resumes, instead of handing out 200. And when people come presenting him different opportunities to hand in his resume, here and there, he says "Not for me" or "Sorry, try again."

 

It is perplexing. Either he's lazy, terrified, or terribly confused. Either way, it's hard for anyone to deny he isn't exploring all the avenues he could for someone who claims to "want a GF badly and the only thing I ever wanted since age 13"

[BubblyBeth]

Yes there are lots of posts insulting me in this thread. The more hostile ones have been reported and deleted.

 

 

Where are the posts insulting you? I don't see any. I just see honest replies from people who genuinely care to see you succeed. It's not their fault you are misinterpreting it as an attack. I don't see any attacks. If anything, these people are trying to help you.

 

A lot of the things people have said are just ridiculous and they get pissed off when I disagree with them.

 

Hun, it seems more like the other way around.

[KathyM]

I mean everyone screamed at him to join activities and he is dance class and talks to girls there and it's like barely even acknowledged. I don't think SD is the social retard everyone makes him out to be at all. If he was he wouldn't even be IN a dance club much less talking to some of the girls there.

Good point, and it did show initiative on his part to take those steps, but the problem is he is not taking the final step--asking these girls out. He needs to take that final step in order to get the dates/relationship that he wants.

And NO befriending a fat girl is not going to make the skinny girl in the corner suddenly perk up and be interested That is seriously laughable. And if you befriend the chubby girl to meet her friends...well that's not too nice is it?

It did work for a few guys that I know. The point is that it allows people to see he has what it takes to be in a relationship and that he's interested in a relationship. Otherwise, if he's just this guy who hangs around, never dates anyone, never brings a date/partner to these dances, never asks anyone out, people will either think he's not interested in dating, he's too afraid to ask people out, or that he's gay. My point in suggesting he give these women who ARE interested in him a try is that it gives him the opportunity to develop relationship skills, and to possibly open his mind to the possibility that these women that he is rejecting because of some extra weight actually do have something to offer. He may actually find himself attracted to someone for reasons other than her looks, and that would be a good thing to develop the ability to appreciate something other than their appearance. I'm speaking from experience, since my uncle, who dated and married an overweight woman whom he never would have thought he could be interested in, ended up with a wonderful lifelong marriage. I mean, what would happen if SD did get a wife and looks were the only thing he valued? What happens when she ages or puts on weight later on in life? Is he going to appreciate her other qualities and be able to look past the physical, or is he going to dump that wife because she no longer fits his ideal body weight or appearance? I'm just putting the suggestion out there that he consider giving these girls a try who actually ARE interested in him, rather than beating his head against the wall for years on end.

 

A year from now I bet he will be fine. He will be in the workplace and socializing with adult coworkers and all that jazz. I don't think you have anything to worry about SD. I do think it will fall into place once you are in the real adult world more fulltime. You are not unattractive, you aren't THAT short, you have a decent personality, you have hobbies. You are just stuck in a weird situation right now, but the end is near so patience is your friend. Not helpful I guess, and I know it's been a longtime coming and seems hard to be patient MORE but the current "slot" you are in is what is holding you back imo.

I think he's been TOO patient. Too much talk, too little action. Too much patience. He needs to get his feet wet and ask out these women, and keep an open mind about body type.

I do think OLD could be something of use to you right now. I don't get why you won't try that, afaik you never have tried it. I know you have said it will be futile but I think it's silly not to even try it and see what happens. Msg a girl who is 5'2. You don't have to list your income or job, you can put "in college", that's not a bad thing. I mean shoot you are almost done with school, it's not like you are a freshman. You tell them you are finishing up your degree in whatever. I do wish you would at least try OLD...for a week or for X # of sent messages at least. I doubt it'll leave you more frustrated than you already are.

Agreed, he should try OLD, and several other means for meeting women, but one week is not nearly enough time to find someone on there.

He is not a shut-in you guys. He has listed his hobbies and activities time and again.

He IS getting involved in things, and he is talking to people, but he doesn't ask them out. Nothing is going to happen if he doesn't take that final step.

I like SD a lot and it is annoying how people pile on him and basically act like he is a troll living in his mom's basement. He HAS asked girls out, he has told us about it!

Not nearly enough, from the sound of it. Maybe he occasionally asked someone out and got rejected, but it really is a numbers game, and as long as his expectations are realistic, he will eventually have success.

Being a "loner" isn't a bad thing. Lots of girls like homebodies. Lots of girls are interested in guys who don't have huge social circles. I really don't think girls are picking up that SD is a loner. He has interests and hobbies. TONS of people are loners. I'm a loner! Is it really surprising that he is defensive when everyone says all these awful things about him and "likes" all the awful things everyone else says ? lol c'mon. the problem I see with the advice given to SD is that it includes so much basically character assisination and when he defends himself or explains "well I do X and Y" he is still jumped all over.

Actually, being a loner IS kind of a red flag for a lot of people.

 

Anyway okay well my advice is to keep on keepin on and in a year when you are in a fulltime job in the adult world, re-assess if things haven't naturally ebbed and flowed to a more positive place, which I think they will. And also try OLD for a week or something.

Nothing is going to change if he doesn't take the action to make it change. I just don't think he's taking enough action to change his situation.

[SmileFace]

That too - but if he's a 'loner' then he's likely not gonna want to do that. School is convenient.

 

Still, he wants "specific" advice about these situations, but we cannot really give it to him unless we know every single dynamic regarding the situation. All I can give him is to be bold and just start asking girls out.

 

I am a loner and have never met someone at school. You think I continue to only search in school? If something doesn't work you try something else.

[ThaWholigan]

I am a loner and have never met someone at school. You think I continue to only search in school? If something doesn't work you try something else.

I agree with you and I hear you, but Somedude isn't going to do that so it would be futile to suggest.

[SmileFace]

I agree with you and I hear you, but Somedude isn't going to do that so it would be futile to suggest.

So you are saying he doesn't take advice.... teehee

 

hehe.... *runs away*.

[suladas]

Look at how many of us don't have school, or work to meet someone and still manage to do it. A relationship isn't just going to fall into your lap.

[Imajerk17]

Well, personally I SD so waded through this thread, big shocker it's the same as all the others. Everyone nit picks TOO MUCH on him imo. I mean everyone screamed at him to join activities and he is dance class and talks to girls there and it's like barely even acknowledged. I don't think SD is the social retard everyone makes him out to be at all. If he was he wouldn't even be IN a dance club much less talking to some of the girls there.

 

And NO befriending a fat girl is not going to make the skinny girl in the corner suddenly perk up and be interested That is seriously laughable. And if you befriend the chubby girl to meet her friends...well that's not too nice is it?

 

I don't see anything wrong with him not wanting to be friends with girls but rather just wanting to date them. I don't want to be friends with guys. I don't have a huge social circle. He doesn't need one either. He works and goes to school, he is capable of talking to people omg.

 

and practically diagnosing him with Aspergers. FFS.

 

A year from now I bet he will be fine. He will be in the workplace and socializing with adult coworkers and all that jazz. I don't think you have anything to worry about SD. I do think it will fall into place once you are in the real adult world more fulltime. You are not unattractive, you aren't THAT short, you have a decent personality, you have hobbies. You are just stuck in a weird situation right now, but the end is near so patience is your friend. Not helpful I guess, and I know it's been a longtime coming and seems hard to be patient MORE but the current "slot" you are in is what is holding you back imo.

 

I do think OLD could be something of use to you right now. I don't get why you won't try that, afaik you never have tried it. I know you have said it will be futile but I think it's silly not to even try it and see what happens. Msg a girl who is 5'2. You don't have to list your income or job, you can put "in college", that's not a bad thing. I mean shoot you are almost done with school, it's not like you are a freshman. You tell them you are finishing up your degree in whatever. I do wish you would at least try OLD...for a week or for X # of sent messages at least. I doubt it'll leave you more frustrated than you already are.

 

He is not a shut-in you guys. He has listed his hobbies and activities time and again.

 

I like SD a lot and it is annoying how people pile on him and basically act like he is a troll living in his mom's basement. He HAS asked girls out, he has told us about it! I think SD has been so boxed in on this forum that he could come tell us "I approached 10 girls of all looks today and made conversation and it went nowhere" and he would be screamed at about obviously he did it wrong and has no social skills.

 

Being a "loner" isn't a bad thing. Lots of girls like homebodies. Lots of girls are interested in guys who don't have huge social circles. I really don't think girls are picking up that SD is a loner. He has interests and hobbies. TONS of people are loners. I'm a loner! Is it really surprising that he is defensive when everyone says all these awful things about him and "likes" all the awful things everyone else says ? lol c'mon. the problem I see with the advice given to SD is that it includes so much basically character assisination and when he defends himself or explains "well I do X and Y" he is still jumped all over.

 

Anyway okay well my advice is to keep on keepin on and in a year when you are in a fulltime job in the adult world, re-assess if things haven't naturally ebbed and flowed to a more positive place, which I think they will. And also try OLD for a week or something.

 

veggirl, you are a kind soul. But I think your analysis is missing something. I think you are ignoring or not seeing some of the stuff SD writes.

 

Here's the thing: If someone comes on here and and they KEEP making thread after self-pitying thread about how hopeless their situation is while they ignore the advice people keep giving him, then people are going to assume that he really is hopeless. Or they are going to assume that he is lying to us. OR else that this person is full of self-pity. Meanwhile frustration is going to build, especially if said poster IGNORES or INSULTS posters WHOM HE SOUGHT OUT DIRECTLY FOR HELP.

 

I mean, what else could it be? Is making these self-pitying threads a way for a GROWN MAN to be acting?

 

veggirl, if someone writes that they NEED to get a girlfriend soon or they will continue being "miserable, depressed, and angry" (Somedude's words) people are going to assume that there is something a little off about the guy....

 

 

Anyway, I don't think anyone has called him creepy so much as they have expressed frustration with him. [Although yeah, the way SD acts on here is a CLEAR sign that his social skills do need some remedial work.] And given the above, I can totally see why.

Edited November 22, 2012 by Imajerk17

[Leigh 87]

It is also about the types of people you come across.....

 

A person like me is ALWAYS open to meeting new friends...

 

I know pretty much for a fact, that I would like you and want to hang out with you, if we met in real life!

 

I am very open and love talking to new people, though/

 

Unfortunately, most people already HAVE friends, or are happy being introverted and alone a lot: to get people to even want to bother with you is HARD.

 

I am very friendly, funny, and have a pleasant personality, yet find it hard to just go and meet people and keep them as friends.

 

I think the key is to meet women as friends. Get more women to be your friend, and to see how funny and cool you are.

 

Once they like you, they are likely to introduce their friends to you....

 

 

 

 

...LIke I said. I am pretty sure I would get talking to somedude, and find him interesting enough to want to hang out with him!

 

....I would then introduce you to my single friends;)

[ascendotum]

I am very friendly, funny, and have a pleasant personality, yet find it hard to just go and meet people and keep them as friends.

 

I think the key is to meet women as friends. Get more women to be your friend, and to see how funny and cool you are.

 

Once they like you, they are likely to introduce their friends to you....

 

Can't knock your advice, however...SD likely does not come across as a funny and cool guy. I'd say he falls into 'nice pleasant guy' category, which generally does not get you referrals for women. Generally speaking from what I've seen over the years, women are the keenest to set their friends up with guys they know who don't need any help in that dept.

[Necris]

 

I think the key is to meet women as friends. Get more women to be your friend, and to see how funny and cool you are.

 

Once they like you, they are likely to introduce their friends to you....

 

 

 

 

...LIke I said. I am pretty sure I would get talking to somedude, and find him interesting enough to want to hang out with him!

 

....I would then introduce you to my single friends;)

 

I have never experienced this personally girls just really aren't likely to introduce you to their single female friends, most of the time even if you are friends.

[somedude81]

I think it's time this thread gets laid to rest. Nothing really more needs to be said and the past few pages haven't applied to the main topic.

 

(somedude81 goes off to grumble on how even the thread can get laid)

[Necris]

I think it's time this thread gets laid to rest. Nothing really more needs to be said and the past few pages haven't applied to the main topic.

 

(somedude81 goes off to grumble on how even the thread can get laid)

 

Maybe it will help to set your goals lower. You can't get a GF but you want to get "laid", instead what about just trying to get a date or make more friends? While that won't help make you more attractive it will help you not feel as bad since you aren't shooting as high.

[Meeks7]

I think it's time this thread gets laid to rest. Nothing really more needs to be said and the past few pages haven't applied to the main topic.

 

(somedude81 goes off to grumble on how even the thread can get laid)

 

 

It's wise to look at trends. Because trends can tell us a lot.

 

Look at your habitual routines and ask yourself what's working, and what isn't working.

 

I've noticed the trend that you create these threads every 2-3 weeks and they become monster-sized threads... but they always end with you walking away "tired" and "not up for it anymore" but no goals are set for improvement in your life.

 

That is a trend, and not a good one. Identify trends, and plan steps you can take in the right direction. Everyone's been telling you this for the past year. But for whatever reasons, you refuse to apply it (genuinely, for any length of time)

[Leigh 87]

I am rare, in that I am actively trying to find good friends; I only have one who I seldom see, and another old one that lives in another state....

 

I feel I am rare in that I REALLY WANT to get to know people, once I determine they are friendly and nice people. Those are my only needs to begin with.

 

If a person is nice, I will talk to them a lot and I alwayswelcome new friends:D

 

So, if I got talking to somedude81, I would determine he was nice, and if he seamed to enjoy my company, I would want to hang out more.

 

Once I have a male friend I believe is a genuinely nice person with a lot to offer in terms of love and support, I will match them up GLADLY with a female friend of mine who I think could be a good fit.

 

If he wanted to mingle with more girls, I would have a dinner party or party at my place and invite my girlfriend along, with him.

 

 

 

So..... Maybe there are super friendly girls like me, who are also really easy going like me and just like to hang with different people, and would happily introduce my single mates..........