Dumped need help please

[Baloo]

Hi peoples just want some feedback on my situation if thats possible,

 

My ex broke up with me a week ago today saying that im not the person she feel in love with??? we have been together 2 years and the last 4 months have been the best not even 1 little fight. I went and saw her the day after and she didnt change her mind althou we had a long chat and some little kisses and hugs but nothing more, ive spoken to her on the phone everyday since then and we are still getting on fine she even called me once. everyday for the first 4 or 5 day i was sending messages to her phone none stop about how much i love her and little poems and stuff like that and she was sending messages bac like thats beautiful why didnt you say things like that when we were together, truth is i stuffed up and got to comfortable with her and didnt do all those little things she wanted.She told me im being like the guy she fell in love with at the start, everytime we spoke i told her i love her and miss her and would do everything to get her back she would say she still loves me to but thinks that if we got back together it would go back to old ways after a few weeks, which i would make sure it wouldnt but she doesnt believe me. Anyway she said she didnt wanna see me, but i couldnt handle it and went and saw her, as soon as she saw me she started crying and wanted a hug, we hugged for about 10 mins just holding each other then she kissed me i stayed for over an hour and we just hugged the whole time with a few more kisses she said this is so hard she doesnt know what to do, i said thats ok i dont want any answers right away just think about it. well later that night i got a message saying sorry i shouldnt have kissed you??? whats she thinking???

i know she loves me as much as i do her but she says she doesnt want to work at a relationship i told her she wouldnt have to, anyway the next few days we talked each day on the phone but yesterday she asked me to stop telling her i love her and miss her saying it makes it to hard, she doesnt want to see me cos when she sees me she also wants me back i want to give her space so she misses me and wants me back but its so hard knowing how close i have come to getting her back when i see her.

Please help me what should i do i love her with all my heart and dont want to lose her for anything in the world she is worth fighting for.

thanks steve

[faux]

The thing to remember here is that you have already lost her, as she ended the relationship. You need to respect her wishes, stop talking to her, contacting her in any way, and definitely stop seeing her. Distancing yourself, perhaps even having no further contact, would be the best thing. She knows that you want her back, and that is all that you can really do. You run the risk of driving this girl crazy by your constant attention, and after time goes by she may become none too appreciative of it.

 

Try not to read into how she has been acting when you corner her into conversation. Remember that the relatoinship is over, and the sooner you realize this the better off you will be. Please remember that discontinuing contact with her is not a game to get her back, as it is a means for you to begin the healing process. If she is going to try things again with you, that is entirely up to her and there is absolutely nothing you can do.

[beautiful]

I completely agree with faux! well said .

The best thing you can do for yourself is to move on and respect her wishes. Take care of yourself and learn from this relationship so that the next one won't end up like that. That means , work on your own issues!