Awkward/Shy

[polkahearts]

I've been lurking for a while but have not found a thread that quite pertains to my question and I know you all offer some good advice. Here comes my long story/question:

 

I saw this guy when I was out. I'm generally outgoing but become very shy when I see a guy out that I'm attracted to. I'm always told I need to be bolder when it comes to talking to men because the worst they could say is they aren't interested. I did exactly this.

 

I'd seen this guy out once before and thought he was cute. Although he gave off a very shy vibe. The night was winding down and I decided I should just bite the bullet and go up and talk to him. We talked for quite a while and he was quite friendly and seemed genuinely interested in having a conversation with me. After a few minutes he said we should go out on the floor and dance. So I did. We talked quickly a little more and then he asked me if I'd be out next week. I said I wasn't sure (tried to play it cool) I gave him my number(although with all my nerves I think I may have accidentally gave him the wrong one, which I'm also worried about. I don't want him to think I was just messing around by giving any old number) and said that me and the people I was with had to leave. We left, I never heard from him. I saw him again this week and it was awkward.

 

I didn't know how to deal with seeing him (again since I'm weird about dealing with this bold girl thing) and I think it was the same with him plus a combo of our shynesses combined. My assumption is he would have texted me if he was interested right?. I walked past him and said hi and he smiled and acknowledged me, and he was making a point of lingering near us throughout the night but didn't say anything. Should I have just said screw it gone up and talked to him and found out for sure if he wasn't interested or just assumed he had no interest, even though he's shy.

 

And can I do any recon next week for my stupidity and not going up to him and having a conversation. Should I just try to talk to him like it wasn't weird this week, or should I try to say something witty about why we didn't talk/possibly giving him the wrong number. I felt like I was giving the vibe of ignoring him and I'm not like that and I don't want him to think I just want to be with/talk to every guy I see...that's so not who I am but I also don't want to bother him if he's not interested.

 

I usually brush things like this off but I felt like we had a lot in common, had really good conversation and he was cute, so I was really wanting to talk more see what happened.

 

A mixture of 2 shy people is never good :/

 

Hopefully this all makes sense.

Edited November 18, 2012 by polkahearts