RowanRavyn Posted August 6, 2004 Share Posted August 6, 2004 Hi, I am new to your forum. I have a weird question. Or maybe its not so weird, you can tell me. What I can use is some insight. I live with my fiance. We are getting married in October. We have an active and I think full sex life. We both masturbate, which is no big deal. Sometimes a person simply needs a fix. My question is this. Why does he wait til I am asleep or before I wake up to masturbate? His computer is in our bedroom, and we have a little picture store on his machine, and its a DVD player as well. There have been a couple of times that I have almost woken up, or have pretended to be asleep, and I know he does it. This morning when I got up there was his little (unused) fold of TP on the floor along with his boxers, and a soft-core porn in the DVD drive. He was already at school when I found it. We both know that the other masturbates, but last night I tried to get him in the mood and he wasn't. This is becoming a several times a week experience, and its a bit disconcerting. I told him recently that it would actually be fun to catch him in the act, and simply to watch. There is something amazing about watching him pleasure himself. Anyway, it remains a middle of the night his hands only club and I am feeling a bit left out. This morning I wrapped his little fold of tissue around the DVD with a note that says "sorry I missed the show =-) " Any thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
Pocky Posted August 6, 2004 Share Posted August 6, 2004 Lots of posts regarding significant others and porn. Some good some bad. Do a search and read previous posts. You may have your answer there. Link to post Share on other sites
jordan77 Posted August 6, 2004 Share Posted August 6, 2004 Believe me, I know it is easy to feel a little left out or even jealous. However, he may feel awkward masturbating in front of you. Since we were young we were trained to keep it private. "What part of the body is most aroused when you masturbate.....your ears" (J/K). I know that even though my SO and I have masturbated together many times I still feel most comfortable when doing it alone. I think you're approach was very cute, see what he says. The trick is not to make it a huge issue so that he feels he has to hide it from you. As long as the sex life is good no worries. Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted August 6, 2004 Share Posted August 6, 2004 Ha! sorry I missed the show funny. Please let me know what he says to that when he gets home...... Link to post Share on other sites
FolderWife Posted August 6, 2004 Share Posted August 6, 2004 Ok, I for one think that all these relationships that are being screwed up because of porn, should be reason enough to make accessing it on the internet illegal!!!!!! It should be illegal anyway! They are all catching and spreading AIDS! stupid porn sluts. Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted August 6, 2004 Share Posted August 6, 2004 stupid porn sluts Hell yeah! Go Monday! I hate those sluts. Making my job at pleasing my man so much harder! Damn those porn sluts. lol Link to post Share on other sites
RowanRavyn Posted August 6, 2004 Share Posted August 6, 2004 ::Blink Blink:: Umm..ok...thanks... ::Giggles:: Strange comment coming from a wet kitty though. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 Some guys are actually ashamed or embarrassed. Remember, they get told from a very young age that what they are doing is 'dirty' and nasty. In fact. some grown women on this board continue to believe men should not ever masturbate if they are in relationships. And nobody sings the praises of penises, either. You have to get past all that early conditioning. I hope you'll succeed in persuading him to let you watch. It is SO hot! Link to post Share on other sites
shortbus74 Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 okay............face it ladies..........men really like to touch their package........ (and the comments....look at how soft the head is!.....or "want to see the head get big"!) If he strays.......be mad............he lets you sleep..........praise the penis god!!!!!!!!! As long as he is not "sharing the love" be supportive~~ Link to post Share on other sites
FolderWife Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 I stubbornly refuse to praise the penis gods when my man is denying me sex so he can whack off to porn...and the little sex that I do get is not enjoyable, because I get frustrated trying to get him up and running, and then get him to finish. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 Then this is not relevant to you, Monday. Your case is different. Your guy does it instead of you. Nobody says that's right. However there's reasons for what he does and a counsellor should be called in to sort you two out. Link to post Share on other sites
Samson Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 I told him recently that it would actually be fun to catch him in the act, and simply to watch. There is something amazing about watching him pleasure himself. Anyway, it remains a middle of the night his hands only club and I am feeling a bit left out. This morning I wrapped his little fold of tissue around the DVD with a note that says "sorry I missed the show =-) " Any thoughts? Moimeme, it seems you have a soul sister! Anyway RowanR, I'm curious about his reaction immediately after you let him know how entertaining you believe his little floor shows are? I cannot tell from your original post if he simply heard you, and chose to ignore you, didn't understand that you were serious (my bet for most likely reason for his behavior ), or prefers to have sex without an audience cheering him on. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 There's many more than me, Samson Link to post Share on other sites
Samson Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 Apparently, and somewhat surprisingly, so. Now you all need to organize a political action committee dedicated to eradicating the myths of masturbation: There's just not enough publicity out there about what women really want to watch. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 It's already been suggested to me that I run a course on 'appreciating the penis' Maybe I'll suggest it to Dr. Sue or to Dr. Ruth! Link to post Share on other sites
RowanRavyn Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 My honey is an exhibitionist, which is why the midnight alone romps are confusing. Anyway. I think he likes the idea of getting caught and being watched. Lucky me! Its not a problem though. I think that masturbation is completely normal, and its a nice show to boot!!!!! ::Giggles:: I think I just caught him doing it behind my back as I type!!! ::Giggles again:: ::Tries to concentrate on her post:: I don't mind being awakened at all. There is something to be said for middle of the night sex!!! Its nice to know I have company in the boat. As for cheating on me. That isn't an issue. Do I sound confident? Thats because I am. ::Peeks over her shoulder:: YEP. Caught red handed! Sorry guys but the prospect of whats going on behind me is a bit more entertaining than posting here at the moment. Link to post Share on other sites
RowanRavyn Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 OH, and BTW. This IS a penis worth appreciating. Let me tell, and with such a talented "master" to go with it! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 I think I just caught him doing it behind my back as I type!!! So set up a mirror beside your monitor Link to post Share on other sites
RowanRavyn Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 moimeme I think we may BE soul sisters. I got a little distracted or I would have posted sooner!! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 Understood Link to post Share on other sites
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