Mer91 Posted November 19, 2012 Share Posted November 19, 2012 So i have always been awkward. And never liked my self. Im overweight and hairy. I find flaws in myself. After my breakup with my HSSH i decided it was time to be the man i wanted to be. Its been working too ive lost weight. Im being a better son. The only problem is the social anxiety. I swear i have ocd or AADD because my mind always spins and im indecisive. This means in social situations it takes me a whilee to get compfortable enough to begin talking. This creates awkwardness, and im still very tense the whole time.. Im not a loner, i love being around people and having a good time. One of the reasons my break up was hard is cause i dont have that circle of friends. I have alot of good friends but they are all over the place and more than 2 hours away. Anyway i do realize that alcohol brings the real me out to the surface very quickly. But im not a big fan of having a substance, or anything control my life. (hell i used to be addicted to video games). I guess i am trying to figure out how to be a more outgoing person, because i want to do more outgoing things, hiking, golf, skiing etc... Also this is not a "i dont know how to talk to women and im looking for a new realtionship type thing" i actually want to be single for a while so i can accomplish my weightloss and classroom goals. Link to post Share on other sites
coffeebean201 Posted November 20, 2012 Share Posted November 20, 2012 Congrats on all your hard work. Can you pre-select 3 topics (small talk) with some neutral, comments - before you meet people? I do that when I'm going to be around people that I'm unfamiliar with, but it is important to make a good impression. Helps keep the conversation ball rolling. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mer91 Posted November 21, 2012 Author Share Posted November 21, 2012 Thanks for the support coffeebean. I have been finding myself more extraverted after the BU. I have alot on my plate between family, school, work, and ex. But things couldnt have happened better lots of old friends are in town for Turkey day break and it was good to rekindle some old friendships and get out of the house. I have been having alot more small talk. I think alot of it is attitude to tell you the truth. Ive gone from im not in control! to Give me the steering wheel. And ive definantly seen results. Now to get through Turkey day without putting on too much weight. Link to post Share on other sites
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