aMguilts Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 A Nook is an electronic reading device, like the Kindle or simlar to an iPad. The newer Nooks are a lot like an iPad. You can surf the internet, play games and read. ah ok. thank you nookie will be outdated soon then? aM Link to post Share on other sites
GuyInLimbo Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 This weekend I had very little contact with H. I called Friday when I realized he didn't take the right deed paper for the house, quick convo. One text from H Friday night, I responded about 7 hours later; One text from me Saturday asking about grass killer; nothing Sunday and then yesterday he texts me to tell me that he received 401K payout and would leave me a check this morning. I did remind him that his cell phone number has been released and told him if I were him I'd shop around for ins for truck. Then nicely let him know that if we had to pay income taxes for this year, he is responsible for 1/2. I wanted him to know that he needed to save his money to help pay. He did leave me the deed signed and notarized, but also left me a bank paper to take my name off one of the accounts he used. I'm perplexed and don't want to sign right now. So I left it blank and will sign it when I feel like it. I know that it was mean not to sign it, but I just don't want to yet. All he has to do is change the address and I won't get the statements, but till we are divorced, I'm not sure I feel comfortable taking my name off the account. What happens if something bad happens to him and I need to access the account? He was going to be the sole owner (no OW), but it just doesn't feel right yet. I don't want his money, I want him to pay me as agreed, but I'm not going to "take" his money. Not sure it could have been avoided, but would have waited until 1/1 to take out 401k cash. Now gotta pay the taxes by 4/15 this coming year. And just sign the paper. There is no reason for you to have your name on it any longer if it belongs to him. It's not your responsibility to take care of his affairs if something happens to him. You're just making excuses for hanging on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cburch Posted December 4, 2012 Author Share Posted December 4, 2012 I didn't want to him to withdrawal the 401K period. I wanted him to roll it over to an IRA or something similar. But he needs to the money since he didn't plan his affair or leaving his family very well. But he says they took taxes off the top of the payout, I have no clue how our taxes will look. Link to post Share on other sites
aMguilts Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 I didn't want to him to withdrawal the 401K period. I wanted him to roll it over to an IRA or something similar. But he needs to the money since he didn't plan his affair or leaving his family very well. But he says they took taxes off the top of the payout, I have no clue how our taxes will look. so are you separate or not? i`m a little confused here you keep on about what you want him to do. you have no idea how your taxes will look? you have an accountant? surely? aM Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cburch Posted December 5, 2012 Author Share Posted December 5, 2012 About the time H left he came to me asking me to sign paperwork to withdrawal 401k saying the company advisor suggest he do it since it was losing so much money. I believed him and signed, this was before I found out his numerous lies. I wish now I had asked more questions about his choice, but it was his choice, his money. No, i don't have an accountant. Simple country folks usually don't. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cburch Posted December 5, 2012 Author Share Posted December 5, 2012 And yes, i can want him to do a lot of things, obiviously he's gonna do exactly what he wants too, no matter what I say or think. I have no control... never have. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cburch Posted December 7, 2012 Author Share Posted December 7, 2012 After two day of completely no contact with H, he text this morning. He is working on getting cellphone and insurance out of my name and into his own account. My guess is that cell phone will be added to OW, it would be cheaper if she is verizon ... but then again I could be wrong. He is doing his own truck ins as he says our agent is cheaper than anyone else. I care, but I don't ... weird feeling. I do care what happens to H and I want him to be happy, but I think he is making some serious wrong decisions. But, his decisions to make, not mine. MOVING ON ... tonight I'm hosting a dessert party. See, every year at Christmas H and I would go out with about 12 - 16 friends (couples) and eat from Christmas instead of exchanginge gifts. I think it might have been H's and my idea, so I call us "founding" friends. We've been doing this for at least 16 years - maybe 18. The group has changed a little and people have come and gone, but there is a core of 10 of us. So, tonight is their dinner and I just could not go without H (maybe next year I'll have a date!). So I invited them over after their dinner for dessert. I wanted to see them, but that setting would have been too hard, so this will be better ... maybe. Not sure, we'll see! Anyway, moving on .... Link to post Share on other sites
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