My plan on how to make myself more attractive to women

[aMguilts]

you want to know how to both at the same time?

[Sun Devil]

Let me guess, you improve yourself and pay for escorts at the same time. This is my plan

[aMguilts]

Let me guess, you improve yourself and pay for escorts at the same time. This is my plan

 

long term plan is it? gonna do that for the rest of your life??

 

this is what you do

 

its easy. it really is.

 

You have to do 4 simple things.

 

3. you close your mouth.

4. you open your ears

 

aM

[Sun Devil]

Tried that for several years. It did not work in high school, it did not work in community college, and it does not work now.

[aMguilts]

Tried that for several years. It did not work in high school, it did not work in community college, and it does not work now.

try number 2 then

 

aM

[Sun Devil]

I do not see the first two, just 3 and 4

[aMguilts]

I do not see the first two, just 3 and 4

number 2 is there. just got to look for it

 

aM

[aMguilts]

move on to number 4 then

 

aM

[aMguilts]

you were so full of 1, you missed 2,3 and 4 compeletly.

[aMguilts]

keep doing the things you are doing. or try going from number 4 backwards??

 

go from there maybe?

 

aM

[Sun Devil]

What I mean is that you only listed number 3 qand 4, you forgot number 1 and 2

[PelicanPete]

The reason why the women go for the "jerks" is because it takes at least some confidence to be a jerk. These self proclaimed "nice guys" are usually door mats with low self esteem that allow women to walk all over them, and then wonder why they never get any. Would you be initially attracted to something that was so easily obtainable?

 

Jerks also get women because they usually don't have "getting a girlfriend" as their #1 priority. Think about it.

 

To develop any sort of meaningful relationship, you must first acquire a stable sense of self. Solely going on a mission to get a girlfriend is somewhat silly, because it points to a lack inside of yourself that is looking to be filled with this relationship. Healthy and long lasting relationships are never ones which are to fulfill some sort of need. No one is attracted to clingy or dependent.

 

To be more attractive to women, make the conscious decision to put them on the backburner and work on developing who you are. Develop morals for yourself, live by your own rules and become your own man. Explore what qualities you would like to possess, and reflect on your own behavior and see what you can improve. When you take a great interest in improving who you are and start to develop high self respect, people pick up on that and become attracted to you. Women are like moths, they are attracted to what's shining brightest.

[Sun Devil]

In addition to improving myself, I also plan on talking to at least one girl a day. Hopefully, I will find someone soon

[Illusionist]

How about improving yourself for yourself? Being more attractive to others is just a nice side effect from that.

[Sun Devil]

Why does it matter what reason for improving myself?

[Carenth]

Because one the way you are approaching it smells of desperation, other people will notice that and you will repel them. Desperation is not attractive at all, you are desperate and you will appear desperate in person even if you think you are not. All of your threads are filled with self loathing, self hatred, desperation and despair. Honestly ask yourself are these attractive traits?

 

The other is because you actually want to improve yourself for yourself. Which will as Illusionist said have the side effect of making you more attractive to others along the way. Because you don't give a **** if other people notice because you are doing it for yourself.

 

I have been doing this for the last 5 years and I have to beat them off with sticks now. If you can't love yourself then how can you expect others to love you?

Edited December 6, 2012 by Carenth

[Illusionist]

As well it is a matter of the view. If you do something for others, and you don't get the desired reaction from then, then you may get depressed over it and give up pretty fast.

But if you do it for yourself, then every small change will feel like a small victory. Which is good for your motivation and self-esteem. It is actually more effective this way.

[antinko]

This is simple. Stop caring so much on self improvement and realise that you're worth plenty as you are.

 

Yes, trying to 'better' yourself is great and you should look after your health etc. Taking up martial arts and working out is great for your body and mind, but do it for yourself, not so you can more easily pick up a girl.

 

Don't act like a dick. Acting like a dick will only make yourself feel rubbish in the long run. Be yourself and be proud to be you.

 

The right type of girls will be attracted to you if you look after yourself and are comfortable with yourself. I firmly believe that one must be comfortable in their own company if they are going to be successful in relationships with others. By this I don't mean isolating yourself, but like I said before, being happy with yourself and accepting yourself for who you are.

[antinko]

Why does it matter what reason for improving myself?

 

Because you do it for you. You are the most important person in your life and nobody will respect you unless you respect yourself. If you look after yourself for yourself then you will be far more capable of engaging in relationships with other people.

[Sun Devil]

If I don't improve myself, finding a girl will be very difficult. Hearing some of the guys here who never experienced love even though they are in their 30s or older shows that being yourself does not always attract women. Being myself got me nowhere so I can't think of a good reason not to.

[antinko]

It's about perspective. Yes, you should improve yourself, as should everyone, but the key is to do it for yourself because you want to and not just so that you can find a girl. That isn't doing it for yourself: that's doing it for another person and that is counter productive.

 

Improve yourself for you and the girl(s) will find you.

[Sun Devil]

I dont see how anyone can tell what my motives are, as long as I am improving myself

[M30USA]

Back to OP's question about how to improve appearance.

 

Smile more.

 

It's the quickest way to improve your appearance. And it's free. Plus I think in general it applies to men and women--although in certain cases if men smile it CAN make them appear weak. As long as you're aware of this. But overall you should smile more.

[Illusionist]

It is the mental thing... you tell them without knowing it. Our reasons affect everything we do, so it is no surprise.

 

As well, there is a difference between improving yourself and trying to be someone else. Some of your words kinda hint that you rather go in the second direction, which can backfire pretty hard.

At least, that's the experiences that I had the far. I know both kinds, from friends and acquaintances.

 

I would never tell someone what to do, so don't mind my opinion if you think that it is totally wrong. I'm just warning, because I already saw in the first row what can happen.

[infiniteman]

Inner confidence is the way to go, woman cant resist a man with a quite graceful confidence. I had a good friend that had a similar problem, he was vertically challenged and used his

"short-comings" has a crutch for not being able to get women. I would tell him that most beautiful women respond to confidence class and style, more than any thing else! He fell for the mistake in trying to enhance his physique. All this did was swell his body and shrink his personality. So my advice to you would just work on the infinite belief in your swagger and confidence and all with fall into place :bunny: