Falling in Love with a man I've never even met...What to do??

[Saffron]

I have a long distance internet relationship with a wonderful man. Our distance is 2000 miles from one another & sure doesn't make it any easier..He has his own company & is a very busy man. We've been corresponding for three months by via internet & telephone. And it is only about three times or rather {maybe two to three times a week} that I hear from him. We'll start to become romantic & because of the two hour time difference we cut off early & I'm left unsatisfied. I'll send him an email the following day or so & not get any response for sometimes a few days later. I don't pressure, but rather be supportive & enlightening about our lives. The problem is that I don't hear from him as often as I'd like to. We haven't even physically met as yet. As an addition to our attraction for one another, I'm an aspiring artist & I'm painting him. He's also written an awesome mystic novel, for which I've been reading & I'm able to know him on a deeper level, for which has been a strong influence to much of our bonding.. Wouldn't you think that we should be corresponding more often & on a daily basis though? We've exchanged some very nice photos & I've sent a few sexy photos of me in my bathing suit, etc. But nothing more. That to me I believe is not internet material, especially when we've never even met in person as yet. I've also suggested that we meet in the near future. Preferably that he would come here, yet again getting any solid answer seems to be either at a stand still or in slow motion for an answer. Please help with any wise advice? I'm getting frustrated & attached. He seems to care very much too. But I just wonder if this will go any further ??

[Pocky]

You sure he doesn't have an alternate life? Like one with a wife or girlfriend?

[Saffron]

he say's that he hasn't any wife or any other girlfriend...Its baffling to me at times. How I should portray my attitude & not appear to be anxious. At the same time to continue playing this so called game & keeping it interesting . I don't like games considering this being a long distance affair..

[LoveObsessions]

This sweedish guy (35) came all the way down to Melbourne to meet my 13 year old sister who had told him she was 25, sent him several a pictures of a model and one of my sculptures. All that while he told her he was 22.

[bluechocolate]

Exercise caution & try to keep your feelings in perspective. You know nothing about this man other than what he had chosen to reveal to you. You haven't met, you haven't met any of his friends or family & you haven't seen him in his natural environment. It is entirely possible that you both are living out a fantasy based no very little truth and you wil be doing yourself no favours if you refuse to consider that possibility.

 

Consider it a lark, keep it light & breezy, keep meeting "real" people and try to let him take the initiative from now on.

[crazy4jared719]

Just be careful, whatever u do. Meeting ppl from the internet can be very dangerous!

[Kizzyfur]

Dr Phil had a story on his show about this exact thing. He's still got information about it posted on his website. But the woman he had on there had fallen in love with a guy she'd been talking to online. She wasted 5 years on this guy only to find out (via investigation Dr Phil had done) that he was married with kids.

 

Try to take things slow and keep your feelings in check. The internet can be a very dangerous place to "meet" people. Be careful.

[treegirl]

I met my current boyfriend off the Internet..... we talked for about 6 months before we met and I took my best friend with me.... but the distance between us was only 4 hours (400km's).

 

Meeting ppl off the net can be scary but ALWAYS take someone with you and ALWAYS meet in a very public place!

 

Good luck,

 

Love TreeGirl

xoxo

[treeman]

If he seems touchy a about meeting u that is not a good sign. Maybe he is really married or something. Unless you too are young people i'm not sure. But the least he could say is i'm trying to get over there some time or why don't you come here i'd love to meet up you can stay at my place or whatever. Or he'll help you with the cash. That's unless your young, then i could imagine that would be quite difficult.

-Ben

[treddo]

This is going to get more common as time goes on. It's much easier to meet people online (not to mention cheaper) and get to know them personally before diving into bed. Problem is, is your partner really telling the truth, how do you tell?

[marina17103]

i have one question about internet dating too. i met this guy through personal ad post he put online last winter. we live in same town. we started seeing each other in spring. i noticed a lack of intensity in our meetings. he seems to be forever travelling abroad. recently i noticed that his personal ad with his photo is still online and he is checking it regularly. I began to worry about his sincerety.

 

so far he has honest with his work, his past, parents and friends. we had one week summer holiday together and he closes his mobile phone when we are together. i dont think there is another woman right now. but is he looking for the next best possibilities?