vitani Posted November 20, 2012 Share Posted November 20, 2012 (edited) I met P in 2008 through mutual friends. I was instantly attracted to him and it seemed like he was attracted to me. Neither of us have been single at the same time. Throughout the years I have moved around, and am currently living in a town 5 hours away from him. Although I was very close with many of his friends, I was never able to really get to know him. I'm not sure if it was because of my intense level of attraction towards him and my natural response of 'shyness' towards someone I'm interested in. He currently lives in my college town and I went up to visit some friends this weekend. I invited him to come along to dinner, hoping to get to spend some time with him and get to know him a little better. Dinner went by and he left to go meet up with a girl that he had met once before, in hopes of getting something out of it. I tried to get him to come out with us, but he seemed set on seeing where things would go with this girl. Needless to say I was disappointed and automatically wrote off any interest for me on his part. The next morning he sent me a text asking if I was getting out again that night and that he was interested in meeting up if I did. We ended up meeting at a bar later on with one of my friends and her boyfriend. We had a great time, he was asking me questions about my life and family, and we really seemed to connect. I asked him how things went with the girl the night before and he told me he struck out, and I teased him for this. Our friends ended up leaving and we stuck around the bar and talked for a while. We had both been in long term relationships that ended a while ago and he told me he was still having a hard time getting over his ex of 3 years. I told him my story of heartbreak (in which my 4 year boyfriend got another girl pregnant) and how I was able to get through it. We also talked about bouts of depression after college due to major changes and just really seemed to connect on an emotional level, both sharing pretty personal information. We ended up going back to my friends place where I was staying, played cards with them, and hung out for a while after everyone went to bed. While we were with our friends we would catch eyes and smile at each other from time to time. Around 4 AM I told him I was going to call it a night and he left. You might ask why I didn't make a move? It's because I am in a 2 year long relationship with M. P has also known that I've been in a relationship, which we talked about. I love my boyfriend, but we have not connected on an emotional level like P and I did that night. I have also been having a hard time figuring out if M is the right person for me. I cannot stop thinking about P and I am feeling horribly confused and guilty about it. Any advice on the matter would be appreciated. Edited November 20, 2012 by vitani Link to post Share on other sites
Artie Lang Posted November 20, 2012 Share Posted November 20, 2012 i suggest you drop your bf, seeing as you're not feeling "connected" anymore. DON'T CHEAT ON HIM!!! let him go and pursue another relationship with whoever you want. this is how responsible adults end things and "move on." they don't cheat! Link to post Share on other sites
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