Finances in Marriage

[crude]

You didn't really need the people here to tell you she's disgusting. Imagine if a man said that to a woman. Unfortunately the "what's yours is ours and what's mine is mine" philosophy is common among women, and always will be until men say no and dump the lowlife.

[2sure]

You might consider explaining to her that you spending all of your money and her saving all of hers is not how married people should operate...and that frankly, this concerns you.

 

Also explain that because she does not plan on sharing any of the expenses or savings that you feel that, like her, you must protect your own interests.

 

I suppose you can allocate expenses and savings for each of you by percentage of total income.

 

Tell her that when she feels she is committed enough to share in both, that you will again consider it.

[rajcs25]

I wish i would be able to say that to her

If i do, she will file for divorce or at least start procedures in that direction

 

The only rational response to her behavior is to laugh in her face, smack her in the ass, and say: "You're such a kidder. Now get back in the kitchen and finish doing the dishes, you crazy bitch."

[rajcs25]

I already am divorced once

 

Now how many times do i do that

 

So i do not have that option, hence looking for other options

 

If i were a shameless person, i would have told her 'get the hell out of here', but i do worry about image, reputation etc. and she is taking advantage of my kindness

 

Divorce.

 

To me, it's not about the money. It's about the lack of consideration that you are one half of the sum of the marriage and that your feelings and opinions count.

 

This is not just about resolving a financial issue. Even if you do, how are you going to change her mindset overall? You can't. You can't change another, only yourself.

 

I'd get out of this mess before you really do have to pay her off legally to get out.

[musemaj11]

Marriage is for foolish men. Its like tying yourself to a depreciating asset that keeps on sucking on your mind, energy, and money.

[rajcs25]

Does court give spousal support even if she is earning money?

So to protect your image and reputation, you're willing to put up with this indefinitely? Because unless she cooperates or you play strict hardball, this is what you've got. The further you get in to this, the worse it can get. No court that I know of will give her any type of spousal support for a 7 month marriage. Have kids and let it become a more lengthy marriage and you're screwed.