KissMyTiara Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 Do any of you OW ever get to see your MM (who has kids) on the weekends? Link to post Share on other sites
morgana Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 for the brief time i was seeing my first MM i'd see him sometimes late at night after he'd be out with friends, but rarely during the day. mostly he was tied up with family/kid stuff during the day. he was very busy and very involved with his kids. that was one of the reasons that relationship was brief. his kids had to be his priority at they should and there just didn't end up being much time for me. he's get stressed because he'd want to see me and couldn't and he know i wanted to see him. so after a few months of both of us being frustrated a lot more than we wanted it ended. do you get to see your's much? Link to post Share on other sites
Author KissMyTiara Posted August 7, 2004 Author Share Posted August 7, 2004 On the weekends? Never, with the exception of Friday nights, when he sometimes has to "work late." I was really just curious, starting to wonder if I was alone in allathat - you know, the weekends. Link to post Share on other sites
morgana Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 i would guess for most it would be tough. with the one i was just seeing it was long distance so it wasn't even a possibility. his youngest was 18 and i think if it had been local it may have worked out. but he always called and/or emailed. it was kind of funny today, i was in the parking lot at a store this afternoon talking to the MM who just ended our relationship on Mon. (had a really nice normal conversation with him) and my first MM pulled into the lot. i just smile and waived but it seemed a little ironic! Link to post Share on other sites
Author KissMyTiara Posted August 7, 2004 Author Share Posted August 7, 2004 How many MM have you been involved with? Did you see any similarities in the dynamics of the relationships? How did they each end? Link to post Share on other sites
morgana Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 two and their situations were similar but different. both were having trouble with their wives and both said they were getting divorced. the "speech" i got from both when they ended it was almost word for word identicle. it was surreal! i sat in disbelieif hearing the same speecch again. i wanted to ask if there was a book i should read on "how to dump the OW" the frist has younger kids and really wanted to make his marriage work for their sake. the 2nd are older and he thought he needed to give his marriage one more try. but the relationships themselves were like night and day. MM1 lives nearby and i saw him all the time around, but very few times alone. although i know he cared for me it was very clearly, just physical. i thought i really cared for him but eventually realized that although i care about him what upset me when we split was that i'd miss the sex. i stil see him around all the time and we've remained friends. i'm also friends with his wife now so there's no way i'd ever go there again. the 2nd relationship had an incredible physcial part but because we're hundreds of miles apart we spent hours and hours talking on the the phone and through email. after about a month i felt like there had never been anyone i'd ever felt so close to. it always seemed like i was forgetting he was married since we felt so close to each other. MM1 wasn't that way at all. he's not a talkative kind of guy. MM2 is the sweetest most caring man i've ever met and i still, even though we're not supposed to be talking feel so close to him and based on the conversation i had with him today, there's still something there for him as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 I find this topic incredibly depressing at the moment...... Link to post Share on other sites
1Yoyo Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 I don't see my MM during the weekend as he does have kids. His kids are in middle school and high school and still kinda clingy! If something were going on during the weekend and I needed him to be with me or do something, we could arrange it, as long as he had enough notice. When we are together, it is usually no less than two days and as many as four days at a time. Every now and then, we are together Saturday morning/afternoon, but soon part ways because he does things with his kids/family during the weekend. As long as I have something to do, it usually doesn't bother me that I don't see him during the weekend. Yo Link to post Share on other sites
Bourget Posted August 9, 2004 Share Posted August 9, 2004 I always make time for (or used to) for my OW on the weekends. On one of the several occassions we made up and got back together it was one of the her stipulations and one of my promises. Ya see I feel guilty about seeing her only when it is convenient for me but not when it is ideal for her. The way I compensate is by MAKING time for her when she wants and needs me, which are the weekends. It could be anyday between Friday and Sunday, it's least one day maybe two. Has this cut down on arguments? Yes. Has it eliminated them? No, because I am still a MM and she is still single and wants me to be with her. A little give and take let's her know that I do care. Link to post Share on other sites
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