browneyedgirly Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 I HATE people who are users and just take advantage of others!!! I have a rich aunt who just keeps taking from others, she'll send her kids to sleepovers at other cousins places at least once a month, and then invite them over to sleep at her house once a year. My family's too nice, and lets her get away with all of this unfair crap! Her kids have even picked up her habits, she sends them with $5 each, which totally doesn't cover entertainment costs, and they usually just spend it on candy. The other day they asked for a video rental and I was like no, only if you're paying. What should we be doing to get through to her that her behaviour is totally unacceptable??? Can a user who's extremely thoughtless, complains about being poor (she drives a latemodel BMW), is extremely narcisstic, and just plain stingy, and ungenerous, yet wants others to be super generous towards her, and thinks nothing of just taking things from others ever be reformed??? To illustrate, we don't go to their house, but the last few times they've been over they took toilet paper (no joke, this in a city with grocery stores that close at midnight), onions, she regularly visits our fruit bowl and helps herself to something "for later"!!! It's gotten to the point where I'll just go upstairs when they come over. Link to post Share on other sites
rogueless Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior. She does not want to change nor does she plan to. I mean the next sentence in a nice way. It is not your job to try and change her. What is your "job" is to set boundaries in your relationship. Do not allow her to railroad you into doing things you do not want to do. If you try to make her change, you will only be wasting your time. You only have control over your responses, not her behaviors. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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