Finding myself?

[Gemini02]

Ever since I graduated from highschool a year ago, I feel like my life has stopped. I lost touch with a lot of friends during my senior year, and now I only keep touch with a few people. Besides that, I really am finding it tough to transition from "highschool" to "adult world"

 

I got my first job about 3 months ago, and now I have to start looking for a new one because I will most likely be le go. Having the money is really nice, but I find that I'm not doing anything useful with it.

 

I have very few interests, and the main thing in my life right now is my boyfriend who has been a rock for me. However, while I've been in this slump, it's been tough on our relationship.

 

I've been sheltered a lot in my life, decisions made for me all the time etc. My mom is quite controlling and opinionated, and she's the one who tended to make all the decisions for me in my life. I can't go to the mall without hearing her voice about what shirt I should get.

 

How to I come to be myself and an individual? How do I find myself?

[dudesomewhere]

from highschool to adult world...you'll just find that a lot more "adults" lie and do so in very self righteous ways. Don't let that word "adult" mean much to you...all it meant to me was being old enough to buy certain things. People often times never evolved into adults.

 

Many adults will lie to you to get what they want. Doesn't mean you shouldn't trust anybody. Just learn to trust those that earn your trust and avoid those that demand or expect trust just because they say so.

 

Jobs come and go, just a matter of finding one that'll suit you, at least for the time being . I started a new job recently that paid more than the older...not something I'm into but I'm sticking it out. The one thing I told my sister I was going to do with the higher pay was get me more books, lol. So speaking of which...your interests...it's not bad to have "few" interests. That's all you need...hell you can just have one interest. It's all in how much passion you have for it. What would impress you more....someone who bragged they had a million interest or that quiet person who doesn't say much but you see that she really loves to read...or sculpt...or takes photos and creates really interesting collages?

 

"How to I come to be myself and an individual? How do I find myself?"

 

Spend time with yourself...spend time being with just you. Ask yourself the "life" questions. You know...what do I want in life. What do I expect from myself. What do I value. Compell yourself to do only the things you desire to do. When you are compelled to do things because of peer pressure...that is not you.

 

You will find yourself...it just takes time. There is never a need to rush into "adulthood".

[IronWarrior]

Don't worry! you will find yourself and your path in life you are very very young still! I'am 27 and just finding myself and over the last year have learned alot about life in general e.t.c... I dropped out of highschool when I was 17 went job to job e.t.c. and I have just planned on going back to school while still working and I'am 27 sooo u got lots of time! and yes I'am happy, I'am single but i know my love is out there somewhere? I look forward to each day which involves going to work or the gym or my martial arts or hanging out e.t.c..

 

Also age has nothing to do with becoming a adult is just a title that society uses.. I think its great you have a supportive boyfriend that understands especially at such a young age, I hope you love each other and stick by each others sides and grow old together enjoying each moment, relationships are very important! Everything will fall into place for you, just focus on your schooling, job, career and set goals and progress towards them that will bring you confidence and gratification e.t.c. and top it off with having fun with your boyfriend and your all set...good luck to you..

[Fire Inside 29]

Hi,Yes I just turned 29 this year damn does that suck.You think getting out of high school is bad,well imagine knowing youll be 30 soon enough!Its not fun,but I still get carded and people think im 18 or something still so thats kind of cool I guess.When i was 17 I dropped out of school to got my G.E.D. and started working.I lost alot of my friends especially after 21.I went to community college for a few years then i ended up doing construction busting my ass for quarter of the cost of my labor.Thats when the Marxist theory came into play after all these years and I knew I couldnt let people screw me out of the work I do.So I went out bought all kinds of books on self employment and owning my own business & its payed off, I have my own business now.I dont answer to any bosses anymore if i dont like the job i will advertise more and get another job worth it.I make my own hours and have enough money to do what I want.Meanwhile all the friends I still know from high school and that spent years apon years in college are at a job that pays alright or still struggling somewhere else.Basically I know all those years that I busted my ass swinging for gold payed off because i couldnt take it no more I knew there had to be something out there that i liked to do and could make my own money doing it.Thats the key to this slave wage game.The world capitalizes us all in labels, many people drift through life in fear!

 

They hate their jobs,and are scared to step out of their safety box of comfort.They are scared of change scared sacrifice,day in and day out they live somebody else dream and not theirs,chances are they arent happy.Its like that movie American Beauty and Kevin Spaceys part.He hated everything so he took the chance and decided to live.Fight Club too,great movie Edward Nortons part was just sick of it all and needed something new.Bottom line is you have to find something inspirational,something you like to do.

 

One thing that has always helped me out in this life is never forget your imagination and using it in this life.When were a child everything is so invigourating and new.Then as we get older so many things cloud are brains life seems repetive and boring.Thats when you need to use your imagination.Never forget that your always learning and use your love to make the right decisions.

Im only 29 and alot of friends younger and older have given up so easily,I have lost many people some passed away some just lost there minds.Its hard to know sometimes what direction to go.Life has many entaglments that will hold you down.Its apart of learning dont give up!I wish you the best of luck!!!!!

 

"Caught Up"

 

How do we get back?Away from the grind that gives no slack.

To the frames the ones we filtered first.Wich widened our eyes

through their colors,shapes & designs.With everything so brand

new & everything so pure & true.When saving the world could be

done in a day.With a cape and imagination ready to play.On our hands

and knees we crawled and watched as our elders walked.We soaked up

all we could.Clung to what we knew was good & gazed amazed at what

unfolded before our face.To find out we would forget it all.By being caught up

in a race that isnt for fun at all.With hands frustrated to do,instead of willing

to try.Living by the clock and slowly wasting away in time.On my hands and

knees i plead to see,the way that a child does see.And waltz around aware

not drowned.Not buried down or cornered slammed.A fresh start entity an easy way to be!Unless your past the age!!!

[UCFKevin]

Look under the cushions on your couch. That's where I always find myself.

[The Woodman]

You should sweat it, growing up is a slow and agonizing process. Many simply do not make it, period. Work hard on yourself, trying to be a moral person, try to love others, alwawys"even though they can be ignorant" and hope to take your feeling of friendship with god with you on your journey to the next world. This my friend, is the true meaning of life.

 

 

 

Mike

Nanaimo B.c.