sweetamerican Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 Help?? I dated a guy for about 1 year we were crazy in love but, lived far away from each other. finally he said distance was to much for him and ended it. About 2 years i moved with my current boyfriend closer to my ex. I called just to say hi and how is life. we talked he amitted to me he still had feelings for me even though with a new girl for about 3 years. we kept talking and he said can you see me on night i said sure. we after talking for 8 moths we had sex. I still love him and he said in the past he still had feelings for me. But, in the last week he has acted different kind of as if he is distancing himself from me. any suggestions on how i should confront him about this with out ending this. Even if i can not have him back as my boyfriend i would like to keep what we have going. Link to post Share on other sites
disconcertainly Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 Are you still with your same boyfriend? Link to post Share on other sites
Butterfly_Queen Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 If you are still with your current b/f, why would you want to reserect something from the past? Is it because you still have feelings for him that you never got over? If he has a g/f as well, you should leave well enough alone and move on with your current b/f and let him and his g/f do the same. Even if you are not with your current b/f, and if the guy you are seeing is still with his g/f you should still leave it alone. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Lil Honey Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 Originally posted by sweetamerican Even if i can not have him back as my boyfriend i would like to keep what we have going. It seems to me that what you "have going" is a man who likes a booty call and expects you to give it to him. He SAID that he cares about you, but now he's acting cold. If a booty call is what you want to continue, then protect your heart - among other things . However, I don't think it's right for his g/f and your b/f to be cheated on, but that's just MHO. Actions ALWAYS speak louder than words. lil Honey Link to post Share on other sites
Author sweetamerican Posted August 8, 2004 Author Share Posted August 8, 2004 I am with a new boyfriend of 3 years but, the other man is my ex we have been over for about 4 years. Link to post Share on other sites
supermom Posted August 8, 2004 Share Posted August 8, 2004 I think you should break up with your bf and your ex should break it off with his current girlfriend. This way those two people can find others who will give them a chance in a relationship instead of being cheated on and exposed to stds, and of course, a broken heart. If your ex is not willing to do this, then he is using you in my honest opinion and you will always get his girlfriends leftovers. You will be #2 to him always. I feel sorry for your boyfriend and his girlfriend, who are the true victims in this mess. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
disconcertainly Posted August 8, 2004 Share Posted August 8, 2004 Good Point Supermom! Link to post Share on other sites
StillHurtin Posted August 8, 2004 Share Posted August 8, 2004 I agree. I would give your ex a choice, either you, or his gf, he can't have both. If he choses his gf then he was just using you. If he choses you then he must care about you as you state. I also feel badly for your bf and his gf b/c they are the ones that are the victims and are going to be really hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
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