That_girl Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 The guy I'm seeing will talk about other girls alot and when I try to hide the fact that I care, he grins or smirks because he can still sense the jealousy. He even talks about how hot this ex-friend of mine is, and he must know that boils my blood because I've always been jealous of her. I can't really get angry at him because we're not a couple but I can't help but think that he's talking about these girls just to piss me off. Why would he try to make me feel so insecure? It's not as if that's going to make me want him more...I find myself avoiding him now because I feel like I'm never going to be good enough if he always has to talk about other girls. Link to post Share on other sites
rogueless Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 Some people derive pleasure from making others fell insecure. Knowing he can manipulate your emotions, he has power over you. It is not wise to hang out with people who make you feel this way. You should spend time with people who lift you up, not tear you down. Link to post Share on other sites
The_Analyzer Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 I would suggest doing one of two things. Either move on to someone who doesn't do that sort of thing. Or stay in the relationship you're in, but act like what he is doing or saying doesn't bother you. I have a feeling that would be hard to do though. He is acting immature in my opinon, and as rogueless stated, some people enjoy getting their kicks from seeing other people hurt. People that do that, are usually so insecure within themselves, that they do that to make themselves feel better, no matter who it hurts. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author That_girl Posted August 7, 2004 Author Share Posted August 7, 2004 Thanks guys. And yeah, I have been trying to act like it doesn't bother me but it's SO difficult because he knows me so well. I guess I'll have to try step 2. Link to post Share on other sites
honey2005 Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 Maybe if you tell him how much it bothers you and makes you insecure, maybe he would stop. If he doesn't, then I think you should move on because it would show he doesn't care how you feel. Link to post Share on other sites
babybrat0869 Posted August 8, 2004 Share Posted August 8, 2004 hey gurl...i had the same problem....if he cared how u feeled he wouldnt do that and yeah i aggree with honey2005 she is right if that dont work move on...but just try this....talk about ur ex's and see how he feels...talk about how you seen him the other day or some thing just give him a tast of his own med. u know how it is....show him how u feel....and and if the lil things dont work....agree with him and **** with his head and agree with some of the gurls/ for example...if he says if this gurl is hot say yeah i would do her...i mean things like that and trust me he will stop...i know ive done this but u dont have to if u dont want to...but hey i gozta bounce....just halla at ya chica late... peace in da middle east! ~BabY Brat Link to post Share on other sites
blue17 Posted August 8, 2004 Share Posted August 8, 2004 babybrat beat me to the punch Just talk about your ex's...or some guys on TV...comment on how they are hot or whatever. If he keeps talking about his ex's again....just agree with him. What he is doing is trying to get a reaction out of you....so by either pretending like you don't care or getting angry/jealous....he is getting the attention from you. Just agree with him, and suddenly he isn't getting the desired reaction he craves. Try it. Link to post Share on other sites
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