How can I stop being so damn insecure and nervous?

[Jagger341]

I realized my reason as to why I'm still single. It was never because of my weight, and last year, it was not because I lived with my parents either. It's because I'm insecure and unsure of myself. I also do come off as nervous when I talk to people and start talking too damn much (not all the time, but it comes close). I also have a tendency to interrupt people and I have no idea why this is. What can be done to eliminate insecurity as well as nervousness?

[nyc12]

i used to be unsure of myself too. i didnt talk much, and i was just a follower. recently that all changed (when i became single after many years in a relationship).

 

so i got out of my relationship and i started doing what I wanted to do. i followed my interests and became active in activities i was interested in. i became good at those things and that built confidence. people then became interested in ME because of what i was doing. i started doing my own thing and making my own plans and people follow me now. its weird i've always been sort of one of those people who gets lost in the crowd, and now i stand out.

 

this goes without saying, but interest from girls has gone through the roof as well.

 

so my advice, do what you are interested in. do what you want, enjoy your life, and the type of people YOU want in your life will start to appear in your life.

[Jagger341]

That seems like a great idea.

[Faredeiss]

and try to know who you are, your strength. and have a thinking that you're great person with your strength.

[IT Geek]

I started doing the same thing. I got back into GeoCaching, started hiking, hitting the gym for strength training, and am finally getting back into photography somewhat seriously now that I have a "real" camera (Nikon D5100) instead of a little point and shoot.

 

I also got a shot of confidence yesterday when I went to buy clothes and had to get a smaller size than I did a few months ago. I was out with some friends last night and actually made some flirtatious eye contact with a lady. Still didn't have the nerve to approach her (yet), but it was more that I had done in a LONG time.

[1slobalt12]

I agree with what everyone above has had to say. I use to be really nervous and shy. I still am in a way but not anything that has stopped me from meeting people and enjoying life. I started doing what i enjoyed, going to the gym, and following interests i always had but never went through with. Eventually your confidence boosts from this, you meet people, and your past worries seem trivial.