Part 2 Guilt: Need Your Advice and Opinions PLEASE!!

[willemd]

(This is Part 2 to my previous thread please read the part 1 if you havent already!)

 

Thanks everyone for your help! You really give strength to those who need it!

 

The thing is and the reason why im worried... Is that again the flirting was different... Examples We would talk about past things we had done, past sexual experiences, talking about old times. "How big is your bed" , "Big enough for two " "We can go hot tubbing " Things like that...and other times it was just friendly talk or things like "Hey Good lookin". Like I said we both flirted it was mutual but I did reciprocate and I think the other girl thought things were going to happen (sexual things/dating) because we had dated before, but I was merely just having fun and playing head games. Which I know I shouldn't have done because I feel bad for doing that to the other girl. But almost 8 months have passed, and like I said I doubt anything will be said, cause its in the past.

 

When all of this happened, I never had said to my current girlfriend that I loved her, or referred to her as my girlfriend or any sign of being a couple. After all it had only been two months not very serious. But I know for sure she wanted me to totally committ right from the start. So again why she would take this worse. But I mean If I was honest (and I was) and said im not ready to be in a relationship, and never said I love you, or referred to her as my girlfriend, then I shouldn't feel guilty should I? At the start when me and my GF first started to date, I told her that if she wanted to date other people she could and I could as well, just as long as we told each other about it or if we had serious feelings for someone else or we knew something physical/sexual might happen we would also tell eachother, so that we would know ahead of time. And again I never dated this girl, and nothing physical ever happened and I didn't seriously like her, I was just flirting.

 

I wanna tell her this, but then again I don't because she will wonder if there is more since this is something that happened 8 months ago and things are perfect and this will just ruin things, and then again I don't want her to hear it from someone else because that would just make things worse.

But I can't seem to just let this go!!! People tell me somethings are just better to be kept secrets and untold and move on... How do I know if this is one of those things???

[Pocky]

Obviously for you it's not. You really are making a big deal out of something, that to me, is so insignificant and trivial. Flirting with someone over text messaging while only dating your girlfriend isn't anything to be ashamed of, but you're having some serious issues with this. Just tell her or you're going to burst with guilt. Give her all the facts and just let her know that you loved her and didn't want there to be any secrets between you and even though this isn't anything significant you wanted her to know.