Do You Ever Truly Find Yourself?

[Nightsky]

I always know where I am. It's finding things that aren't myself that can be the trouble. I'm 28 and I do feel the pressure to live up to expectations and goals I've set for myself. I've been given a mind and body capable of any thing so, it's up to me.

[antinko]

I'm 27 and have been feeling a bit low as of late and that Urban Dictionary definition of 'quarter life crisis' certainly resonates with me. It's also true.

[Illusionist]

Did I ever lost myself, so that I had to find me?

[Katzen]

I am 18 and having quite a good time.

Entered College September. At the time, the first weeks it was tough; Had to adapt to a completely unknown environment (didn't know anyone), commute for more than an hour each way and overcome some fears.

 

Once I got adapted, I feel great. My classmates are great, I am with the people who I feel well with (as always there is someone not of your type).

 

On the con side, I am putting a huge amout of effort but I seem to forget the bitter time on the homework and study in favour of the good time on uni/college. Having exams now, which is tough and hope to pass (my college is very demanding) and If I do completely, I'll be quite happy.

 

I even earned the reputation of being a happy and energetic person (I would have never seen myself as such) and of being the most distant commuter .

I think I'm even weird for enjoying my commuting time. Hey, I get to see sunrise near the sea and sit for the whole trip (people using the metro can't say so). I enjoyed a lot seeing trains when I was a kid, and seems like my love for railroading has reemerged 12 years later.

 

Far away are those dark moody times I had in senior HS (roughly 2 years ago). Since then, I haven't visited this forum much. Changing completely the environment and not having time to get bored made me forget of this. Now I think, seriously, how could I be scared of having to pass the break time alone on HS and not having friends to hang out at night. Yeah, teen insecurities...

Nowadays I feel free to choose to be with friends that are great and pass on the party thing (at least with the excuse of work). The only thing that drives me crazy is the latter, as I dislike the classical HS/College partying scheme, and I avoid it as much as I can.

 

As of career, I do have a general idea but will let myself go for a couple of years until I have to choose more specifically.

[Aedra]

"Life is not about finding yourself. It's about creating yourself."

[sLiPpeTh]

So a little over a week ago I turned 25. This birthday struck me particularly hard because I realized I'm half way out of my 20's now.

 

I feel like I'm just now starting to get a grip on who I am, and where I want to be. At the same time though, who's to say this feeling won't come again some years down the road?

 

I believe we never truly fully have it all figured out seeing as how we are influenced by our experiences and we experience different things every day.

 

But I thought at this point in my life I'd have my career in place (some of my friends already do) and I'd be more independent overall, but I'm not.

 

When do you feel you truly find yourself? There were things I believed or felt just a mere two years ago that I totally reject now. I'm discovering new things about myself every year it seems like. I really do feel as if my personality is still not formed.

 

I guess you can chalk that up to growing wisdom and maturity, but when will that stop? When do we stop growing and truly find ourselves?

 

First and foremost, you are 25. These thoughts are perfectly normal, and there's yet another developmental stage on the near horizon. Between 28 and 30 it will come to you. There's absolutely nothing required other than to "be where you are."

 

Although, you might make it easier on yourself by refusing to compare your own life experiences to others. Walk your own path.