highwaychile Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 My gf left for a study abroad program back in August. I haven't seen her since, but I will be visiting her soon. Her leaving came at a hard time for me, and it's something I struggle a lot with. I often feel abandoned, forgotten and useless because of it. I'm trying to work through my issues, but progress is slow. I love this girl to death, but I worry that the feelings won't pass when I see her, or that they might be magnified. I worry that seeing her might be really hard for me, and for our relationship. Which is crazy, because I want nothing more than to be with her right now. I'm so confused. Does anyone have experience with this? Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 I found that, on one occasion when things hadn't been going well between us for a number of reasons, it was a little awkward when we saw each other again. In our case it was me who felt like the injured party and, in retrospect, I was pretty tough on him until we'd had a really good heart to heart. If you are feeling angry and resentful in some way, it's important that you make your feelings known to your girlfriend as soon as possible. If you love her, don't allow this to get in the way. Problems like this are not insurmountable but you do have to communicate very clearly what it is that you need from her in order to get past this. Good luck - I hope you work it out. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 I often feel abandoned, forgotten and useless Is she completely cold? Or sweet? Or just on and off with her attention for you? I worry that the feelings won't pass when I see her, or that they might be magnified. I worry that seeing her might be really hard for me, and for our relationship. Which is crazy, because I want nothing more than to be with her right now. I'm so confused. Does anyone have experience with this? Any advice? Yes, it sort of happened to me. We met after (not completely through) a very bad time for us both. I was cold and he made the first move. And after that, as I love him so much, I couldn't resist him. When he holds me, all the bad things get swept away. I hope it's like that for you too. Try to make the first move, as it might turn out really bad if you don't, she might think you don't want her anymore and you could lose her. Link to post Share on other sites
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