Another Co-worker Thread

[vanek26]

I notice there seems to be a few of these types of threads, so I've gathered some information already. I just want to get some specific feedback on my situation from you guys. I know it's the wrong mindset to have but I tend to overanalyze every word and every text so I experience extreme highs and lows in regards to my confidence.

 

I just got a new job doing something in the same field I had been working in for the past several years, just for a different company. Therefore even though I'm new, I know more than most of the current employees and they are looking to me to train a lot of them.

 

Naturally, I felt compelled to see if any of the women at this new job were worth romantically pursuing. A staggering amount of them seem to be in committed relationships, but there is one girl who I have my eye on who is single. And I was under the impression she was interested in me as well.

 

I flirt with most of the attractive girls at my workplace. I usually do it with a heavy dose of sarcasm and humor and it tends to work well for me. The girl in question works in my department so we've spent a fair amount of time together in the month that I've worked with her.

 

I tried to look for obvious leads that she was interested, and there appeared to be some. First of all, she always mentioned that she gets hit on all the time by creepy guys at work, and I told her 'Just say you have a boyfriend and they will leave you alone." her response was "yeah, but saying I have a boyfriend is a lot different from actually having one..." To me I got the vibe that she was saying she was available.

 

More recently she made a subtle attempt to see if I was single by asking me, "what would your girlfriend think of that?" It seemed like she said that just so I would verify to her that I was single. After that we got a lot more talkative with friendly ribbing and banter. On Sunday before I left I asked for her phone number and she gave it to me without hesitation.

 

I texted her that night and maybe it's just me but it almost seemed like she was not too thrilled with talking to me. By yesterday I realized our conversation was inching towards the point where I'm sending multi sentence texts and her responses are a couple words. I decided to abrubtly end the conversation before I did further damage.

 

Anyways, now I don't think this is such a slam dunk anymore. I still feel like I should pursue this though. What should my next move be? I want to ask her to hang out outside of work. We both work together Friday, so I could ask her then in person (which might be better than texting).

 

The reality is that if she turns me down it will be a major blow to my confidence and if she is really turned off by me she might even tell the other girls at work what I've been up to. The last thing I need at this new job is the label of that guy who tries to get with all the girls.